Why I will NEVER ask anyone to go with us on points!

[DisneyMomJen]

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[conciergekelly]

So sorry about your troubles. I know how you feel. I had similar family things happen. Now when we go we don't tell anyone we are going . It just got tto be too much heartache. I agree it is ashame. I thought sharing our points was going to be a joy and it turned out to not be! Good luck resolving this issue.

 

[Gymbomom]

We planned a Grand Gathering for this December. We booked rooms 11 months out, all the while ALL the family saying we are going, we are going. We started planning this trip in August 2004. Now this fall, we have had one family back out after another.
It is frustrating as we wished they had said so at the very first instead of now.

 

[JimMIA]

Maybe the only ray of sunshiine in all of this is you should have zero trouble renting the ressies out during that period. I sure would not cancel the ressies without trying for several weeks first.

Or transfer the points to another owner. You can only do one transfer per use year now, but you won't be needing to do any others this use year anyway, probably.

 

[manning]

Been there, done that.

Sent them a card from WDW. It said. "having a great time, glad your not here!"

I know it was nasty, but it was a nasty situation.

DSIL called last night after she found out and freaked! She says that we should go without DS14 and my DH.

Tell her that is a great idea, you will be going WITHOUT her and her son. Let me guess she is a me, myself and I type.

 

[DisneyMomJen]

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[allflgirl]

Sorry for the heartache all this has caused you and that you're in a bind now with your points. As others have replied, you shouldn't have any problem renting out your reservation for that time of year. I know that's not what you wanted to do, however, it will save you from losing your points.

Hearing things like this and from my past "family gathering" experiences, I won't use my DVC points treating my immediate family on a vacation get-a-way. I had planned for 6 months for my mother and I to go on our first cruise together, only to have her want to back out 3 weeks before the trip, because she didn't think she'd like it after all. Well, I pressured her into going by telling her I couldn't get my money back for the trip, which was true. After all was said and done, she begs me to take her on a cruise every year for her Christmas present now.

Take care and I hope this doesn't put too much of a damper on your holiday season.

Julia

 

[icydog]

We have taken numerous friends and family with us to Disney World and for the most part everything was fine. UNTIL we took my sil with us two years ago. I know she hasn't much money so my dh and I paid for everything. I mean everything, as in she never reached into her pocketbook for a cent. She did buy us one lunch at the Sizzler but it was so bad she got our money back, so no outlay therer either. I bought her cosmetics and aspirins when she needed them but she managed to buy her own cigarettes and two sweatshirts for herself.

I am very allergic to smoke and even though she smoked outdoors her clothing and hair reeked of smoke.

She complained about everything. The brand new Cadillac we rented with leather seats stunk, or so she said, so she insisted on having all the windows open in 90+ heat. She never paid for food, but no matter how we splurged on special foods and shows she hated everything. She sulked the whole time and by the end of the week we were ready to kill her. MY husband, her older brother, was disgusted with her and was saying lets do what we please and the h*** with her. Only then did we enjoy our time at Disney World and we vowed never again.

We we got home she tells the other sibs that she had a marvelous time. I can't imagine how since she sat with a puss on her face for a week. We have been civil to one another since but the relationship will never be the same. Once you hurt me or my family I can forgive but I can never forget.

So the moral of this story is to continue to take your love ones and good friends and to quit taking those folks that can, in any way, spoil your vacation.

 

[CarolA]

Am I the only one confused? How is DSIL related? (Not that it's any of my business LOL!)

Anyway, I feel for you. Trying to comingle all those "unrelated" realtives can be tough.

 

[calypso*a*go-go]

Jen,
I know you're frustrated, but have you told DMIL what type of penalties are involved with cancelling? It could be that once she knows, she might reconsider. I wouldn't change anything yet as there's still a lot of time before your scheduled trip. Just keep talking up how great it will be for all of you to be together and reassure DMIL that she will have a very enjoyable time. If she's anything like my parents, the real problem is that it's very difficult for people to leave the comfort zone of their own surroundings as they get older. Plus, I've noticed my M&D are dealthy afraid of flying now. Maybe you could ease her fears in those areas too. I hope everything turns out alright and you'll be able to enjoy the trip together.

As for DSIL...cut the cord!!! (snip, snip)

 

[DisneyMomJen]

CarolA,

Sorry for any confusion. Losing my points just added to everything since they do mean alot to me.

 

[SEC]

Sorry to hear about your inlaws backing out. I have a similar situation but luckily it does not involve DVC points. We have been planning a trip to Maine this Fall for over a year with approximately 13 people (both sets of inlaws and sisters in law). One by one everyone backed out except for us and my mother in law. It is very frustrating! Especially after being "harrassed" about making all the arrangements.

 

[JimMIA]

If SIL is the problem, why not just un-invite her and make a trip for your side of the family only. You've already taken her once, and only invited her because MIL (who is now not going) said so. I don't see how SIL adds much to the party, so dump her.

I have to also say, I'd tell her why! She's probably oblivious to the wreck she made of your summer trip, so I'd make sure she understood why she's not coming on any other trips. Go to WDW to get away from her!

 

[twotoohappy]

Sorry that this has happened to you.
I've had people back out at the last minute and it stinks!
Hopefully you won't lose your points?
Have you talked to Member Services?
They'll usually let you have a "freebie" late banking once.
It's worth a try! Good luck

 

[cathydisneynut]

Sorry that this has happened to you.
I've had people back out at the last minute and it stinks!
Hopefully you won't lose your points?
Have you talked to Member Services?
They'll usually let you have a "freebie" late banking once.
It's worth a try! Good luck

I agree with that! Talk again to Member Services, they were great when I made a mess of banking my points.

I hope everything works out for you

 

[CarolA]

If SIL is the problem, why not just un-invite her and make a trip for your side of the family only. You've already taken her once, and only invited her because MIL (who is now not going) said so. I don't see how SIL adds much to the party, so dump her.

I have to also say, I'd tell her why! She's probably oblivious to the wreck she made of your summer trip, so I'd make sure she understood why she's not coming on any other trips. Go to WDW to get away from her!

I am with Jim, but I think I would make DH tell her. It sound's like it's HIS sister, make him deal with it. (Otherwise you will always be the SIL who caused the fight LOL!) I have a feeling you are going to have to deal with it sooner or later however since it sounds like this woman now thinks you are her "free vacation for life"

My brother and I know better then to vacation like this. We have done some family stuff, but there is "down time" (Otherwise one of us would be dead! LOL!)

Sorry about the points. If you can't get the super secret one time exemption, I would bet you could rent the reservation. (Maybe you should just rent SIL's room too and just tell her that since you, MIL, DH etc aren't going you just assumed she wouldn't go!)


I would also make a push for DMIL. You are right, you may not have much time and I wouldn't give up without a fight! We DRUG my best friends MIL to Disney and FORCED her into that ECV and she loved it!

 

[Sammie]

I am with Jim, but I think I would make DH tell her. It sound's like it's HIS sister, make him deal with it. (Otherwise you will always be the SIL who caused the fight LOL!) I have a feeling you are going to have to deal with it sooner or later however since it sounds like this woman now thinks you are her "free vacation for life"

My brother and I know better then to vacation like this. We have done some family stuff, but there is "down time" (Otherwise one of us would be dead! LOL!)

Sorry about the points. If you can't get the super secret one time exemption, I would bet you could rent the reservation. (Maybe you should just rent SIL's room too and just tell her that since you, MIL, DH etc aren't going you just assumed she wouldn't go!)


I would also make a push for DMIL. You are right, you may not have much time and I wouldn't give up without a fight! We DRUG my best friends MIL to Disney and FORCED her into that ECV and she loved it!

I think the problem SIL, is on the OP's family side not her husband, which is why he is tired of her making his vacations miserable. She must have been married to the OP's brother at some point. Not sure why she is still part of the family though if they have been divorced for 6 years.

 

[DisneyMomJen]

Thank you so much everyone! I just got off the phone with Member Services and I did get the one time exception of banking my points! Once I saw the suggestion on here I figured I would give it a try. It is definitely a one time deal. I called my DFIL who seemed surprised.

Thanks again for all of your advice!

 

[rocketriter]

Just say no. You don't have to vacation elsewhere if WDW is where you want to go. You don't have to bring along people who bother you. And yes, it's DH's job to communicate this, not yours. She's his sister.

 

[Sammie]

Just say no. You don't have to vacation elsewhere if WDW is where you want to go. You don't have to bring along people who bother you. And yes, it's DH's job to communicate this, not yours. She's his sister.

I don't she is his sister.

The other family members going are my parents, Dsis and her two kids (ages 1 & 2) and my DB and is fiancee, DSIL and her son 18, possibly another son 14 (another story). My family will overlap us by about 1 1/2 days.