Why do some people not send....

[Tracey1974]

I went to my boss's wedding in 2003- I wrote a fairly large check (more than I would usually give) and haven't gotten a thank you yet. First their excuse was that they were waiting for the thank you pix from the photographer but I don't know what the latest excuse is. It has been over 2 years and it still bothers me.

I'm still waiting.........

 

[Stacerita]

I have gotten the sweetpea into the habit of writing "thank you" notes. Granted, we dont write them for every gift. But we do send them to people who send her gifts, did something for her, or went out of their way for her. She understands that its something you do to show your appreciation. Like I said though, we dont send it to everyone for everything, but she has figured out when its appropriate and when she can make a call instead. Plus, she is very artistic and makes her own thank you cards with scrap stuff and stamps.

 

[ashjohnson80]

O.k. This is really bad, but.... I didn't send out thank you notes after my wedding. I don't know why I didn't. I always meant to, but I just never did. I'm a bad person.

 

[Stacerita]

O.k. This is really bad, but.... I didn't send out thank you notes after my wedding. I don't know why I didn't. I always meant to, but I just never did. I'm a bad person.

There is a special place in he** for people who dont send out wedding thank yous. We are sure gonna miss you ash.

 

[MinnieM21]

We generally don't do anything as formal as 'thank-you' notes in the UK unless it's for a gift at a formal party (a wedding, for example). It's more customary here to just call the person and thank them directly.

That's how it is between my friends and family (and I live in the US). No one sends out thank you cards, they just call the person and thank them. I prefer a phone call to a thank you note anyway. I can't even remember the last time I received a thank you card or sent one.

 

[aprilgail2]

There is a special place in he** for people who dont send out wedding thank yous. QUOTE]

LOL...heck I am still waiting for a thank you from a wedding I went to 2 years ago....for a while I thought it must have just gotten lost in the mail, or it came and I forgot I got it but at a recent event a large group of people that went to the wedding 2 years ago were all commenting on how none of them ever got a thank you so I know it wasn't my overlooking it then LOL!

 

[Disney Doll]

Because they are rude. Because they weren't raised well, or were raised well and became rude when they got older. Because everyone in this world seems to have a sense on entitlement where they deserve everything they want.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I don't send out notes, I prefer to pick up the phone and speak with the person.

 

[DVC Sadie]

I am a stickler for thank you notes. My kids hate it, but I make them write thank you notes within the week when they receive a gift. None of my nieces or nephews write thank-yous and two of my siblings act like writing thank-you notes gives them hives. It irks me terribly to not have a gift acknowleged--I know it's silly, but it's a courtesy thing.

On the other hand, my DS19 received money for his HS graduation and he has yet to write a thank you note. I have harrassed him enough;now the chips will fall where they may. I would serve him right if they never send him anything else.

No, it is not silly. My mother made me write thank you notes for absolutely every gift before I was allowed to wear the gift, spend the gift money or play with the gift and I passed that on to our ds. Once he was out of the house and in college I had no control but I would bring it up to him constantly.

 

[disykat]

It always cracks me up the people who say "people don't write thank you notes in my area". I don't believe it. I'm pretty sure they are probably some of the same people we're wondering about why they haven't thanked us.

If you made a phone call or a personal one on one thank you (not just "I like this" when you open it in the middle of a mass gift opening, but a taking them aside and saying "thank you so much for the blender, we'll use it often"), you did your job and you're not who we are talking about. If you got a package in the mail or at a large group event and never acknowledged it personally to the giver - odds are someone is wondering why -whether you think thank you notes are expected in your area or not.

Everyone understands that there are extenuating circumstances at time that prevent thank yous, but most people are just too lazy to take the 5 minutes to do it.

It's not that hard. I just had surgery and have received some gifts, meals etc. I'm keeping a list. I already have thank you notes on hand. Although I admit I'll wait a few more days before doing them, in the time it took me to write this post I could have three done. I know no one expects a note - I just want them to know that I appreciate their thoughtfulness so it's a way I can do something thoughtful back. The time I will spend thanking them is sooo much less than the time they spent cooking for me,etc.