Why do single women go after married men????

[Am_I_There_Yet]

Good for your husband!

My husband had an affair with a woman who contracted work out to us. She knew he had two kids and had been married for almost 20 years, but it made no difference to her.

Then again, he also knew that he had two kids and had a wife of almost 20 years, and it didn't matter to him either.

It sounds like you have a great marriage and your husband is very happy! Congrats to you!

 

[auntpolly]

Honestly, I think it's just a woman who is very very immature. She's like a toddler that wants whatever toy the other kid has instead of getting one of her own.

 

[Vivianne]

Your DH is doing the right thing for now. He may have to take other measures eventually if she continues her pursuit.

The ones that really bother me are the brazen ones. The ones that don't care if you're standing next to your spouse.

Once at a supermarket a cashier ringing up our groceries, says to my DH "Ooooh, passion fruit, I wonder what that takes like", licking her lips. I was the only one that got it, just had to shake my head and walk away.

 

[goofygirl]

Certain professions attract "groupies"- married cops, soldiers,doctors, firemen, even married clergy get hit on all the time. Women are attracted to power and men who "rescue".

Doesn't make it right though. Getting involved with a married man only makes trouble for all involved. Being alone is better.

I could never do that to another woman (try to take her man and ruin her marriage).

 

[Am_I_There_Yet]

Around here the barracks bunnies think they are so hot they can get anything in boots or they think that all military marriages are unhappy.

Barracks bunnies! I call the women that go after firefighters, hose bunnies. That's the first time I've heard someone else use a term similar to that!

I deal with the "uniform mentality" too, as do cop's wives. I can't stand to hear women say that they think men in uniform are hot. It's a huge pet peeve of mine. Sheesh... they're just men doing their jobs.

 

[lovemygoofy]

Barracks bunnies! I call the women that go after firefighters, hose bunnies. That's the first time I've heard someone else use a term similar to that!

I deal with the "uniform mentality" too, as do cop's wives. I can't stand to hear women say that they think men in uniform are hot. It's a huge pet peeve of mine. Sheesh... they're just men doing their jobs.

Well you know that they are hot in their uniform though

I'm actually alot nicer than my husband by calling these chicks barracks bunnies because in the barracks they are called barracks rats. That's by the guys the chicks visit too. Isn't that nice.

 

[PrincessKitty1]

Sorry i think your husband NEEDS to talk to his superiors about her, worst case he keeps saying no and she claims that he is harrasing her, she could try and get him into a lot of trouble after all hell hath no fury like a woman scorned!

I agree that your DH needs to report her, mainly to cover his butt if she tries to say HE sexually harrassed HER. This woman sounds like a loose cannon and might try to get your DH in trouble.

 

[ericamanda01]

Former Navy sailor here, and I can tell you that if the tables were turned and it was a man hitting on a woman, even after he was turned down, this would be a totally different thread. What she is doing is sexual harrasment and your DH should go to a CO. If a man isn't allowed to act this way then a woman shouldn't either.

I for one think it's really about the chase, but then again when I was single I would look for the ring and walk the other way if I saw one. I think your handling this way better than I would. If someone was hitting on my DH like this I might need to have a little chat with her!

 

[Missy1961]

He needs to report her. Now. Don't wait.

And most single women don't go near married men. Honestly, I should know. I am one. I see a ring, I go the other way.

 

[Am_I_There_Yet]

Well you know that they are hot in their uniform though

Well... yeah...

But it's okay if we say it.

I'm actually alot nicer than my husband by calling these chicks barracks bunnies because in the barracks they are called barracks rats. That's by the guys the chicks visit too. Isn't that nice.

Sounds like they earn a lot of respect!

 

[WDWVillain]

just so you know...this does work BOTH ways! Why do married men hit on single women? I have met more then my share of guys like this. maybe you husband is sending out some sort of signals he is unware of? I am sure not on propose, but what he may thinks is moving her on her way...maybe she likes a challange or is taking things the wrong way(we never know what people are thinking)

If there is proof, plain and simple report it!

 

[auntpolly]

. If someone was hitting on my DH like this I might need to have a little chat with her!

That would be so tempting. I don't know how embarrassing or whatever that would be for the DH (wife fighting his battles or something??? ) but I would love the woman to know that I know what she's doing, that he has told me, and that we think she's a joke. If she sees that this is not something "personal" and "between the two of them", I'd hope she'd feel stupid.

A woman just got fired in DH's company for this very thing -- they called it sexual harrassment, but she was the guys boss, so I guess that's worse.

 

[princesspiglet]

My DH is actually her superior- by one rank.

I was just talking to a friend of mine who's DH also works with my DH. She said she knows who this woman is and that she "hunts" someone different every year. A few years ago she went after her husband, but my friend gave her a little warning and it stopped.

I may have to make a suprise trip up to the armory this afternoon and have some words with her.

She is a fellow soldier so she is not one of the barrack rats. I have not had the pleasure of dealing with them....however, I do have the outright stares and flirting whenever we go somewhere and he is in his BDU's. Yes, he may be hot in his uniform ladies, but he is a slob out of them

 

[auntpolly]

just so you know...this does work BOTH ways! Why do married men hit on single women? I have met more then my share of guys like this. maybe you husband is sending out some sort of signals he is unware of? I am sure not on propose, but what he may thinks is moving her on her way...maybe she likes a challange or is taking things the wrong way(we never know what people are thinking)

If there is proof, plain and simple report it!

Yeah, but no one is saying one is worse than the other. I don't care if the most gorgeous, rich, successful married man flirts with a single girl, I don't care if his wife "doesn't understand him" or if " his marriage is all but over and in name only" or what ever crap the guy might present, if a single girl takes up with a married man behind a wife's back, I think she is betraying us all as women. We just need to stop being so bad to each other, in this and in other ways.

 

[Lady V]

They do it for one reason:n they are *****S!!! SOrry, hope that wasn't too blunt but it is a sore subject of mine!
In my case, I have had several people i know that always seemed to go after married men. I always told them I thought they were wrong and I wanted no part of it or their relationship. When I met my EX-DOG-POS-husband he seemed to agree right along with me. Anyways, seven years and two amazing children later he starts acting all funny. I call one of my best friends and talk to her about it and ask her to let me know it=f she notices anything strange at work (they worked together), of course she agrees-what a sweet girl! Come to find out...it was my friend he was involved with. now they are engaged and believe it or not it was for the better for me because looking at it now i ignored a lot of warning signs by not wanting to be the crazy jealous wife. But hey-what goes around comes around...good times are ahead!!....

 

[lovemygoofy]

My DH is actually her superior- by one rank.

I was just talking to a friend of mine who's DH also works with my DH. She said she knows who this woman is and that she "hunts" someone different every year. A few years ago she went after her husband, but my friend gave her a little warning and it stopped.

I may have to make a suprise trip up to the armory this afternoon and have some words with her.

She is a fellow soldier so she is not one of the barrack rats. I have not had the pleasure of dealing with them....however, I do have the outright stares and flirting whenever we go somewhere and he is in his BDU's. Yes, he may be hot in his uniform ladies, but he is a slob out of them

Tread carefully with actually having contact with her. Yes, I know how difficult that is but all these things sure get complicated if the command gets ahold of it. Instead of speaking to her, go visit your husband and make sure you get her eye then lay a big kiss on your husband. I know it's high schoolish but you are getting the point across that you know without any one on one contact with her.

 

[Heidict]

First off, what does SSG stand for? All I can think of Single Slutty Girl.

Do these girls really think that the man is going to abandon his wife and children and run off with them and they are going to live happily ever after? You know what they say "If he'll cheat with you, he'll cheat on you".

 

[Laura]

And most single women don't go near married men. Honestly, I should know. I am one. I see a ring, I go the other way.

Very true. When I was single, I didn't want "used goods".

 

[lovemygoofy]

First off, what does SSG stand for? All I can think of Single Slutty Girl.

Do these girls really think that the man is going to abandon his wife and children and run off with them and they are going to live happily ever after? You know what they say "If he'll cheat with you, he'll cheat on you".

Staff Sargeant, it's someone's rank but yours is pretty good too

 

[princesspiglet]

First off, what does SSG stand for? All I can think of Single Slutty Girl.

That could apply to her! SSG stands for Staff Sergeant E6. My DH is a SFC, Sergeant First Class, E7