Why do single women go after married men????

[Skywalker]

I worked at a police department once, and there were lots of women that worked there that were cop groupies. My best friend had several affairs with married cops. She would say it just made her feel special, and "better" than the wife in some way that the husband would be willing to forsake his vows for her.

She eventually married a cop. They are divorced now because of his cheating.

Karma, baby.

 

[imsorry]

Well, recently someone my Dh works with starting giving me the creeps. They were walking together at lunchtime (sometimes in a group, a few times alone). I told Dh in no uncertain terms that I was not happy about it. He said she was making him nervous. Since then he told her and her friends that from now one he is walking alone. She even told him that some women go after married men because they figure if he has been married for a certain period of time he must be a good guy. Well, I wouldn't consider him a good guy if he cheats on his wife!

Sorry you are faced with this; I know it makes me crazy! I think he should report her before she tries to turn the tables on him and accuses him of leading her on.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

Barracks bunnies! I call the women that go after firefighters, hose bunnies. That's the first time I've heard someone else use a term similar to that!

I deal with the "uniform mentality" too, as do cop's wives. I can't stand to hear women say that they think men in uniform are hot. It's a huge pet peeve of mine. Sheesh... they're just men doing their jobs.

We call the women who go after police officers, Badge Bunnies and also use the term of "Hop on a cop". DH used to use this to his advantage before finding me.

 

[MamaLema]

Everything I wanted to say has been said already, but I think it's great that you and DH have such a great relationship that he can share those emails with you. Some women would be mad at their DH, even if it wasn't their fault.

 

[DISUNC]

It's just another horrible way Woman treat us men as Sex Objects!


....But seriously......I have seen this too...ALOT...Many single woman confuse "security" with a man who is already married!!!!

BTW depending on the emails etc...THIS IS SEXUAL HARRASMENT! Tell your hubby to IGNORE all of her written suggestive emails...DO NOT ANSWER THEM

 

[binny]

Barracks bunnies! I call the women that go after firefighters, hose bunnies. That's the first time I've heard someone else use a term similar to that!

Puck Bunnies=hockey groupies.

Im sorry youre going through that. I agree he neede to document EVERYTHING. Make sure all contact with her is around other people, preferably many other people. She could turn this around if he makes her mad.

Im so glad he is being open and honest about it with you!
Some men would keep it to themselves even if they are totally innocent because it might *look* like theyve been up to something. By being upfront and honest with you and keeping you "in the loop" he proves he is what you say he is, a prince!

 

[SamIAm21]

Single women go after married guys because they have very low self-esteem and don't feel they are worthy or are afraid of a true and faithful one on one relationship of their very own. By having someone only half-way, they can be in a "relationship" and yet not be. They get the adrenaline rush off having an illicit affair. Then they get all freaked out when they actually fall in love with these men and get confused because the guy won't leave his wife for them?? When in reality, they really don't want that anyway.

By doing this constantly over and over again, they will inadvertently and subconsciously avoid a real relationship that takes love, work and committment. And yet, they will walk around wailing how they never can find the right guy??

If a woman feels that going after a married man is a good idea, she needs counseling, ASAP!

 

[stinkerbelle's mom]

ETA: the SSG in question needs to keep ALL emails between him and this female because if she pulls the sex card on him to his chain of command if she gets upset about her being rebuffed. He will need backup protection.

My thoughts exactly!!! Good luck!

 

[auntpolly]

Why do single women go after married men?

Because they are "soul mates", of course....




......kidding, but isn't that what they always say?

 

[irishbosoxfan]

Tell your DH that he NEEDS to report her!! At most right now she'll get a counseling statement but it will be on record that he wants no part of it so she can't come back later and screw him because of it. The longer he waits the less it will do him any good.

My DH is cluless about girls coming on to him also--Makes we wonder how he got any before he met me We'd be out and the girls were nonstop--The Kmart cashier would be giggling and flipping her hair,,the waitress would talk to him totally ignoring me and only his drinks would get refilled and he didn't notice any of it!!

Two times come to mind for me where I became pro-active///Once we were at a club and it was obvious we were together and a friend of ours,who was the waitress,comes up with the tray with a drink on it and informs us that one of the girls over there bought it for DH---Well I picked up the glass,held it up to the chick,nodded my head and drank it straight down then smiled at her.

The next time was in my driveway--we were infamous for our bbq's and everybody showed up---Well one time DH is standing there with a bunch of guys and this chick(another soldier) walks up and stands right in front of DH,looking up at him all googly eyed and puts her hand on his chest///HELL NO/// I walk over,take her by the upper arm and move her back and take her place in front of DH,then I look at her and say--"See this place right here? This is my place.Let me see you try to stand here again and I will knock every tooth out of your head" Everyone started laughing at her and she left and I ripped into DH and he said he was just standing there talking and wasn't paying attention to who was there and I believed him because not once the whole time I was watching did he even look at her.
A friend told me later that this soldier was notorious for trying to get it on with married soldiers.

At least you guys have cutsie names for the girls-here they don't and call it like they see it.
Clubs here would be packed with girls who would drive over an hour to get here and they did it in hopes of getting themselves a brown id card. Those girls we called brownies and about 80% would show up at the barracks trying to get a soldier to get them past the CQ desk.

We used to joke around with the single soldiers asking if they were in the mood for a brownie

 

[flrose]

I totally agree that women who mess w/married men are totally betraying "all women" by doing so. However, after being separated for over 3 years (finally filed for the big "D" ) I can not believe how many men that hit on me have been MARRIED! While I would NEVER break the "code" I was curious as to why this was the case. I have talked to a few men I know at work who I know cheat and found that they are happy in their marriages but, think it is their RIGHT! (My friends can't believe I asked them either, LOL. but, what did I have to lose? I was curious.) These men think they are due this outlet every now and then and some are looking for things their wives are not giving them. of course, these are not the EXACT words they use but, you get the point. I also asked how THEY would feel if their wives did the same thing. Ha, you guessed it It was some very interesting research.

 

[Ride Junkie]

I can think of one very good reason not to get involved with a married man: Jessie Davis!

DH and I have said to each other, "If you're planning to cheat, just tell me. That way I can split." Neither of us are going to put up with that!

 

[goofygirl]

I totally agree that women who mess w/married men are totally betraying "all women" by doing so. However, after being separated for over 3 years (finally filed for the big "D" ) I can not believe how many men that hit on me have been MARRIED! While I would NEVER break the "code" I was curious as to why this was the case. I have talked to a few men I know at work who I know cheat and found that they are happy in their marriages but, think it is their RIGHT! (My friends can't believe I asked them either, LOL. but, what did I have to lose? I was curious.) These men think they are due this outlet every now and then and some are looking for things their wives are not giving them. of course, these are not the EXACT words they use but, you get the point. I also asked how THEY would feel if their wives did the same thing. Ha, you guessed it It was some very interesting research.

That's true about married men who look for "extra curricular activities" they are all too common- they can be found in any given bar/club and internet dating site.

Whenever a married man would say to me, "I'm separated." I'd say, "Does your wife know?"

 

[minnieandme]

Two times come to mind for me where I became pro-active///Once we were at a club and it was obvious we were together and a friend of ours,who was the waitress,comes up with the tray with a drink on it and informs us that one of the girls over there bought it for DH---Well I picked up the glass,held it up to the chick,nodded my head and drank it straight down then smiled at her.

The next time was in my driveway--we were infamous for our bbq's and everybody showed up---Well one time DH is standing there with a bunch of guys and this chick(another soldier) walks up and stands right in front of DH,looking up at him all googly eyed and puts her hand on his chest///HELL NO/// I walk over,take her by the upper arm and move her back and take her place in front of DH,then I look at her and say--"See this place right here? This is my place.Let me see you try to stand here again and I will knock every tooth out of your head" Everyone started laughing at her and she left and I ripped into DH and he said he was just standing there talking and wasn't paying attention to who was there and I believed him because not once the whole time I was watching did he even look at her.
A friend told me later that this soldier was notorious for trying to get it on with married soldiers.

Good for you!!! I bet that woman at the club didn't expect a reaction like that. You should've asked for another

 

[Ride Junkie]

It's just another horrible way Woman treat us men as Sex Objects!

....But seriously......I have seen this too...ALOT...Many single woman confuse "security" with a man who is already married!!!!

I totally agree with the second part. I used to work with a woman who was with a married man for about 18 years! He was a cop, and had a wife & 2 kids. The story was that the wife knew about it, but didn't care as long as she still got the paycheck. their affair just ended a few months ago. He pretty much called her up and said, "We're moving to Tennessee." (We're in CA) And she never heard from him again!! What a waste of 18 years.

 

[Mickeyistheman]

I wanted to comment on here because I myself was involved with a married man. Something he neglected to tell me, after 2 years of dating and pretty seriously at that!!! When I figured out he had been lying to me it was the most horrific feeling in the world and I felt that I led him to cheat, but he NEVER said anything about a fiance' or wife. He was "single" when I met him. We broke up about a year into the

Looking back there were many red flags that I should have realized but I was young and he was "the greatest thing ever" to me.

Being single nowadays is not easy and I have being on dating websites it is really hard to beleive if the men are married or not.

I am not saying that your husband gave her the wrong feeling, but before you head off to ruin this person, just make sure that you see all the emails he responded to her with. He might not have realized because it seems that he is very open and communicates with you but these things can turn around in a minute and I would not want that to happen in your case.

I also don't beleive that most single women intentionally go after married men, Sometimes they are not wearing their ring and they can talk the talk.

Again not saying your husband did this, but he might have said things to her in jest or thought it was funny and she took it differently.

I do hope it all works out for you so you won't have this on your mind.

 

[Am_I_There_Yet]

I wanted to comment on here because I myself was involved with a married man. Something he neglected to tell me, after 2 years of dating and pretty seriously at that!!! When I figured out he had been lying to me it was the most horrific feeling in the world and I felt that I led him to cheat, but he NEVER said anything about a fiance' or wife. He was "single" when I met him. We broke up about a year into the

I have to ask - how did you date him, and "seriously date him", for two years and not know he was married?

Didn't you ever go to his house, or meet his family? Meet anyone from his work? Friends?

I'm not condemning, only trying to understand.

 

[Mickeyistheman]

To Am I There Yet,

When I first started dating him, he had his own apartment. He also had told me that he was adopted (LIE!) and he stopped speaking to his parents (adopted) because he was mad at them for not telling him when he was younger etc. etc.

So Never got to meet his parents, I did meet his friends on several occasions and there was only 1 Christmas that we were not together, because he had just gotten married.

He was engaged when we first met and started dating. Which again I never knew. His wife got pregnant which is how I finally found out about this whole deal. I felt humiliated and thought I was a horrible person, but man this guy had me going. We went away several times a year and he came to all family functions.

I never had the heart to contact his wife to apologize and tell her what a jerk her husband was. Mainly because she was pregnant and I felt this would truly upset her as it should.

I stopped dating for about 2 years because he made me feel so bad, but HE LIED TO ME!!! He kept this apartment and everything. He was leading a double life and it would not surprise me that more men aren't doing this still today. How very sad.

 

[flrose]

"I'm separated." I'd say, "Does your wife know?"

EXACTLY!!!!!

Mickeyistheman, you are so right about how hard it is being single nowadays. I've done the internet singles sites too and pretty much it has not been worth it. Between weirdos, married men AND women looking for someone to join in the fun and games with their spouse (OH YES, EWWWWW!!!!) I've had enough!

 

[Disney Doll]

I think that single women who knowingly try to get a married man to cheat are pathetic.

But, there is also blame ot be placed on the married person. You know you're married. You know the vow you took. Honor it. There is no valid excuse that I can think of. If your marriage is unhappy, get a divorce.

I can also see in this day and age, with cell phones and everything else, how it could be possible for a married person to cheat and their BF/GF not know. People are "contact-able" at a lot more places besides home and work these days, so one of the best "infidelity indicators"...your lover won't give you a home phone #...is gone.