Why do people attack others on these boards

[SonicLogic]

I'm sure Leopold and Loeb would prove your point.

Yes, you are right. That case was a great testament to the skill of Clarence Darrow.

 

[Laurajean1014]

IMHO, the posts that get out of hand the quickest (and I will admit to sometimes contributing) are those where people ask for endorsements of their little scam or way around the rules and then get really upset when they get quashed or called on it or are upset when the official policies get reiterated and supported. I call them the "tell me it's OK to break the rules" posts.

I totally agree. Either they post to gain acceptance or to get attention. But either way, they must know it's wrong.

Maybe some of us are missing our Jiminy Cricket?

 

[DVCconvert]

they must know it's wrong.

Unfortunately, not always, and the evidence is close at hand!

Yes, you are right. That case was a great testament to the skill of Clarence Darrow

Tisk,Tisk, Tisk. Sonic, are you feeling ok?

 

[daisy_77]

I think people get too upset at certain threads and vent, without realizing that there is another human being on that the post is being directed towards. I am really sensitive , so I try to stay away from some of the threads. I enjoy the Trip Planning Forums, they seem pretty neutral.

 

[JimMIA]

WHO CARES????

Attackers -- whatever their intellectual deficiencies, potty-training difficulties, or sheer boorishness -- have nothing to say that is of any interest to me.

As soon as I see someone in attack mode, I am outta there! I couldn't care less what their specific problem is today.

 

[SonicLogic]

WHO CARES????

Attackers -- whatever their intellectual deficiencies, potty-training difficulties, or sheer boorishness -- have nothing to say that is of any interest to me.

As soon as I see someone in attack mode, I am outta there! I couldn't care less what their specific problem is today.

Good points! I have found it best to ignore attackers. It is wise not to feed their self-inflated egos. It's difficult, if not impossible, to educate people with this type of dysfunction. IMO, it is best to let them live in their contorted bliss.

 

[bicker]

I've found a wonderful way of avoiding all the silliness. I unsubscribe from most every thread once its reached Page 4 (which means it is just about time for me to unsubscribe from this thread ). Typically, the objectionable behavior doesn't start until later in threads, so sticking with "newer" threads means I don't have to deal with that nuisance.

 

[JimMIA]

I've found a wonderful way of avoiding all the silliness. I unsubscribe from most every thread once its reached Page 4 (which means it is just about time for me to unsubscribe from this thread ). Typically, the objectionable behavior doesn't start until later in threads, so sticking with "newer" threads means I don't have to deal with that nuisance.

I don't subscribe, but I follow a similar pattern with the longer threads. Everything that needs to be said has probably been said in the first 3-4 pages, so I rarely look at anything longer unless it is a specific topic I've been following.

After 3-4 pages, most of the posts are me-too's from people who didn't read anything but the original post...or two flamers who have found each other.

 

[cruise-o-matic]

I don't subscribe, but I follow a similar pattern with the longer threads. Everything that needs to be said has probably been said in the first 3-4 pages, so I rarely look at anything longer unless it is a specific topic I've been following.

After 3-4 pages, most of the posts are me-too's from people who didn't read anything but the original post...or two flamers who have found each other.

Two exceptions:
Beca's ROFR thread
Hanname

But otherwise, I never really thought about that. Most threads do seem to die out in 2-3 pages.

 

[JimMIA]

Two exceptions:
Beca's ROFR thread
Hanname

But otherwise, I never really thought about that. Most threads do seem to die out in 2-3 pages.

I agree with the ROFR thread. I still look at it from time to time, to offer a little advice if I can.

I thought Hanname was hysterical for a really long while, but haven't looked at it in probably a week. (One of the things I thought spoke well for the board was that several wannabe-Hanname threads had a half-life of about one day.) It's darn hard to imitate spontaniety...no matter how hard you force it!

Last time I looked at Hanname, there were 2-3 people chatting back and forth. Nothing wrong with that, but it's not interesting to me.

And BICKER -- I love your signature!

 

[DVCconvert]

Tjkraz Quote:
Originally Posted by SonicLogic
...stupidity is the problem.

Well, at least I agree with part of your post

There certainly are threads that deserve to be looked at over long periods of time due to the changing nature of the threads --ie, Beca's ROFR post. But I think then that there are also threads that deserve to be looked at (and responded to) owning to posters who have such opinions that vary from the mainstream which need have rationality restated in the hopes that the majority of readers will understand the difference from the sane to the insane.

 

[lenshanem]

Personally I feel like this is a simptom of our times. Flip channels on the tube any night and you get the same, "if you don't agree with us, you're a moron" talk. Ditto talk radio. What ever happened to civilized debate? Just because you disagree with someone doesn't mean you're right and they're wrong.

Sooo true! DH watches FOX every night and it drives me crazy! Sean Hannity is the worst! His superior attitude, not letting anyone with a differing opinion get a word in... Drives me absolutely insane! I always got a kick out of FOX's motto of fair and balanced cause I never saw FAIR in any of it. And to make it worse DH is just like that! Good thing he isn't on the DIS! He is one of those debaters that would argue the sky is falling and he is right and you are wrong... and just try to tell him otherwise - HA!

There are currently a few of these debaters on the DVC boards that have something rude to say in almost every post they make. It is getting old. Ya, ya - you are the authority and know everything and anything anyone else has to say is all wrong. Whatever... I can see their screen name and before I read any further I know it is going to be full of pompous banter and lots of rolling eyes smiles thrown in. Funny thing is, just how many DVC or even WDW trips have they been on to become such an authority on all matters? I've been a good amount of times and I still have to come to the DIS for help planning!

 

[JimC]

Two thoughts on this topic:

Email, IM, chat boards and the like all suffer from the fact that they operate as speech without the context of body or voice. It is very easy to "say" something in these forums that if one could see your body language and hear your voice would provide a very different context.


I have found that I am never more likely to be wrong then when I am absolutely certain that I am right. It is a great way to check oneself.

 

[dianeschlicht]

I agree with the ROFR thread. I still look at it from time to time, to offer a little advice if I can.

I thought Hanname was hysterical for a really long while, but haven't looked at it in probably a week. (One of the things I thought spoke well for the board was that several wannabe-Hanname threads had a half-life of about one day.) It's darn hard to imitate spontaniety...no matter how hard you force it!

Last time I looked at Hanname, there were 2-3 people chatting back and forth. Nothing wrong with that, but it's not interesting to me.

And BICKER -- I love your signature!

I agree with all those points, including the signature! I'm actually a little disappointed that the Hanname thread continues, because it is so watered down now, it kind of takes away from the uniqueness it once had.

I also think that some people perceive attacks that aren't there. Sometimes I have been shocked that someone took my posts in a negative way.

 

[Dean]

I do think much of it is just being to sensitive. Many on this BBS can't distinguish between disagreement and being attacked. It's especially true when one posts a "problem" they had at Disney then when not everyone agrees with them, boom.

 

[DVCconvert]

JimC posted:

I have found that I am never more likely to be wrong then when I am absolutely certain that I am right.

But Jim, if all posters followed this as a guideline, then they'd have nothing to post!!

 

[deerh]

Some people are just plain STUPID, that is my take, and also SO MANY people are KIA's!! Do you know what a KIA is? It is a Know It All!! They know everything about everything, and they are NEVER wrong! I work with a bunch of those DUMB people, as well as we all know people like that, it is their way or the highway!!!!!

DeerH

 

[Safari Queen]

Maybe those who are outraged so easily disappeared because they just keeled over from apoplexy. I agree that those who ask for validation of their rule-stretching seem to get very bent out of shape when others don't agree, but some people come down awfully hard on folks who might not realize the implications of their actions. A lot of people seem to forget they share the world with others (certainly the ones who stop in the middle of the street in a WDW park do) and don't think things through. If you've stayed at BWV and searched in vain for parking, you can certainly get irate at reading someone's jubilant post about cleverly parking at Boardwalk for a day at Epcot!

The best answer I've seen here is that people forget there are people on the other end of these posts. A lot of folks seem to be on here to push a certain agenda, waiting for their "hot button" topic to appear so they can launch an attack. Personally, I'm going to try and exercise a little more restraint and "Golden Rule" thinking before I reply.

 

[NMW]

The people I see getting attacked the most are often posters in threads about: occupancy limits (have you ever read that thread? It's like a million pages long), smoking, not liking SSR, pool hopping, refillable mugs (it completely baffles me why anyone cares about that issue), not wanting a HA room, and some others I can't remember right now!

I think it's just that some people have very strong opinions on some topics. Especially anything having to do with "rules" and "rule breakers".

I read the restaurant board a lot. Not really any attacking going on over there. I mean how many people really care if another poster didn't like the dinner at Ohana?

 

[wdwstar]