Why do parents insist on bringing gifts when the invite says "No Gifts!"

[I Am What I Am]

Germany is a city now? When did that happen??

About the same time that Festivus became a holiday.

 

[Disney Doll]

I've been laughing my way through this thread. OP - if you're still around in a couple of months posting about regular issues, then I apologize in advance.
However, from all the posts you've written so far - I think you're getting a great big laugh over all of us. (That's okay - I'm getting one too). I think you post about wacky things to get a response - and keep the threads going with some semi-reasonable replies scattered throughout.

I guess only time will tell!

Ding! Ding! Ding!
We have a winner!!!!
ToC is entertaining, no doubt about that, but certainly not for real people...

 

[testifyoncruises]

Oh, brother. You still have not answered the original question about that. Do you call the whole month Fesitvus or one part of it or one day? Which holiday or holidays have you replaced with Festivus (I cannot believe I am even asking that question)?

I sure did, you can go back and read the thread for the answer.

 

[BelleWDW]

But other than the poster from
Germany, beautiful city by the way,
no one can explain why a parent must bring a gift when the invite has indicated "No Gifts?" Can't you just respect the wishes of the invitee or just not show up if you refuse?

Come on, OP, fess up and tell us what "College"of edumication your hard earned dollars paid for

 

[testifyoncruises]

OK, I had to post...how are you pronouncing "yukus" in your heads? I was originally thinking you-kooz (you know, like cuckoo), but with the word "festivus" being thrown around, I was thinking yuck-us (you know, like ruckus).

I pronounce it yoo-koo as in coo-coo.

 

[Disney Doll]

I'm another one who has never had a Festivus-celebrant expose himself to me.

My loss, I guess.

 

[JerseyJanice]

Color me stunned that this thread is still open.

 

[testifyoncruises]

Color me stunned that this thread is still open.

Why wouldn't be. Other than dog piling and attacking a poster for simple mistakes, quite a few ignored posters and a whole bunch of tweaked yukus nothing in this thread is bad. Just a simple question and a fun riff on no gifts and cow leasing.

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

Do tell. How does one tweak the yukus? I'm curious.

I think that belongs on the PeeWee Herman thread.

Germany is a city now? When did that happen??

About the same time that Festivus became a holiday.

ToC is entertaining, no doubt about that, but certainly not for real people...

^ That.

It's been fun, but time for another comedy...The Bachelor!

 

[Liberty Belle]

I think that belongs on the PeeWee Herman thread.

^ That.

It's been fun, but time for another comedy...The Bachelor!

 

[Andy B]

But other than the poster from Heidelberg, beautiful city by the way, no one can explain why a parent must bring a gift when the invite has indicated "No Gifts?" Can't you just respect the wishes of the invitee or just not show up if you refuse?

People have explained, you may not accept their explanations but they have.

 

[Andy B]

One could argue that Christmas itself is a made up holiday co-opted from a Pagan celebration. The modern day image of Santa Claus, the iconography if you will, was in fact created and nurtured as an advertisement. You can go back through history to when St. Nicholas was first mentioned, but the iconography is a rather modern creation and therein lies the irony.

Yes and we call our December celebrations Festivus because of that creation.

Yes Christmas was put at the time of a previous pagan celebration, but Coke did not create the iconography of Santa Claus, many countries have similar images which were around before Coke, they did us it in seasonal advertising but it was not so widespread as you would have thought. My wife is a lecturer in Design History by the way so this has been pretty well discussed.

What is the irony by the way?

 

[NHdisneylover]

Okay. It is morning, the kids are at school, I have 5 hours of sleep in me as well as a Coke (hurray for caffiene). Between what is posted here and the PMs I got (thanks) and some googling I think I understand about what the Yuku reference is. I am going to have to try to forget I knwo though because if I think much about the idea that the DIS knows what else I do online and cares enough to ban me they don't like then that just freaks me out to no end So I will pretend i don't know and hope the powers that be do not dislike people who spend a lot of time "window shopping" on various sights and planning vacations online

OP thanks for complimenting my lovely city. It IS great. I have been blessed to live in many truly beautiful locals.

What I do not understand OP is this: why did you even bring that up? I did look over there while I was trying to figure this all out (please, please, please I hope that did not get me in trouble I really did not believe it could exist or be an issue before I looked and started reading--it just sounded so fantastical really like the wizard of Oz or something) and, okay they do have a short thread about you (a lot shorter than this one) but it is not a big deal and even if you did not like it why would you want to point it out to everyone here? Are you trying to get innocent bystanders like me in trouble when we google and find it? Are you trying to get them in trouble (how if they are already not posting here)? Are you really from that sight and trying to get more people on it? Do you think us regular DISsers are not smart enough to have put together the pieces form all your threads and we must really all be under cover operatives from that other sight? Are you trying to start a mutiny on the DIS of people who (like me) did not know the DIS cares where else we go online and are freaked out by it? Are you just trying to give me nightmares? Are you playing some sort of game with someone from over there and we are all jsut caught in the middle? I am absolutely confused as to what bringing it into the conversation had to do with anything and I actually really want to know now.

Also, totally out of idle curiosity will you clear up wether you are male or female (it really does not matter, but it feels better posting "he" if I know you are a guy or vice versa since our language is set up that way)? I was assuming female since you have a DP and not a DW and that is often a term used by the LGBT community since many cannot legally marry. Then again, you may have the right to be married and be a straight couple (or live in a handful of states and be a gay couple) and simply choose not to. I am not making any statemnt against any of those things, just curious as to which applies to you. I see others assumed you must be opposite gendered.

Edited to add: I can't believe the twists and turns this thread has taken! Can you imagine some poor soul just now opening it?

 

[testifyoncruises]

Coke did not create the iconography of Santa Claus, many countries have similar images which were around before Coke, they did us it in seasonal advertising but it was not so widespread as you would have thought. My wife is a lecturer in Design History by the way so this has been pretty well discussed.

What is the irony by the way?

What I am referring to is the American iconography of Santa Claus in use in modern times that is absolutely a creation of an advertising campaign.

Certain people were calling me out because I refer to a celebration with term created by writers of a sitcom. I called it out as ironic when some of these same people are using an icon today created for an soft drink company.

It is pretty straight forward.

 

[testifyoncruises]

Okay. It is morning, the kids are at school, I have 5 hours of sleep in me as well as a Coke (hurray for caffiene). Between what is posted here and the PMs I got (thanks) and some googling I think I understand about what the Yuku reference is.

It is a general term for anyone who refers to someone as a troll because they do not conform to their line of thinking on a variety of things. They engage in personal attacks instead of discussing the post itself. They must assume that anyone who does not live their way must only be posting bull. Sorry some people lived blessed lives. Have been successful and want only success for others.

A yuku is a term for the worst of all cyber bullies. Some of them not only take it just to the net, but take it offline as well.

 

[powellrj]

Not trying to start any trouble, but just thought I would give you a heads up that if you keep talking about the "other place" you could be banned, there is a sticky at the top of the page outlinning why we aren't suppose to talk about other places.

 

[testifyoncruises]

Just know that talking about any other place gets the ones that are still here silently and hidden to expose themselves solving several issues of cyber bullying again.

 

[torinsmom]

I don't know about most people here, but the icon I celebrate at Christmas has been around a lot longer than Santa Claus, LOL. Santa is just a silly thing to add in there and not the main reason most people celebrate Christmas. He was probably created to give people who don't believe a reason to celebrate, as well as selling merchandise.

I have been to parties that asked for no gifts, and brought a card with a sincere message inside. Noone has ever seemed upset that I brought a card. If it were a kids party, I would probably have my child give the child their gift at another time. That way I would be honoring the request of no gifts at the party, but still honoring my right to give someone something special on their special day. To me, it isn't about whether they NEED a gift, its about showing the person you were thinking about them enough to go and pick out something special for them.

JMHO though. I would never say "No gifts" on an invite. I'd just donate the gifts to a shelter if my child had too much.

Marsha

 

[crashbb]

A yuku is a term for the worst of all cyber bullies. Some of them not only take it just to the net, but take it offline as well.

I've never heard it before - nor could I find evidence of that on Google. Is that a specific insult you've made up due to your experiences, or have you heard others use it?

 

[NHdisneylover]

It is a general term for anyone who refers to someone as a troll because they do not conform to their line of thinking on a variety of things. They engage in personal attacks instead of discussing the post itself. They must assume that anyone who does not live their way must only be posting bull. Sorry some people lived blessed lives. Have been successful and want only success for others.

A yuku is a term for the worst of all cyber bullies. Some of them not only take it just to the net, but take it offline as well.

Well I wish you would have said that yesterday when people asked about it instead of saying the thing about the car board and then people "dog piling" ect. It would have cleared up a lot and saved me a lot of googling (and hoping I didn't inadvertantly break any rules).

Moving on:
Ironically DD13 got an invite to a birthday party today which is asking for no gifts but please bring dried food (odd to me, why not canned?) to be donated to a food pantry. DD's response is that it is a great idea to help people but she still wants to get her friend a small personal gift. So, OP I think I know you feel it would be rude for DD to give her friend a book they have talked about and her friend has set she would like to read (which we ordered last week knowing the party was comming up). How about other posters, do you think that is that rude? (DD is 13, friend is turning 15 and does not lease a cow, have a big house--lives in a studio apartment with her single mother--or even a car. DOES have a book shelf with room on it for more books when English titles can be found if that helps you decide).