I appreciate you giving us the benefit of the doubt. We have very good friends. Every one of our friends has some hangup or another - everyone on the planet does. They accept us as we are, and we accept them as they are. Those that we have come across who were not willing to accept us as we are have simply not become our friends.
We have no shortage of friends. My wife, who is the one with this problem in particular, has more close friends than any person that I have ever met. She is an absolutely wonderful human being. She just has no sense of time or desire to develop one.
Frankly, I don't understand people who place these kinds of demands on other people. Be like me in this regard or be judged. I could never do that.
I am one of those people that are late! I'm not hours late, just a few minutes. Just can't seem to get there on time! I don't do it to be rude or inconsiderate or certainly not being childish because I'm late. Its hard to explain, but I have every intention on getting there on time. I'm not late on purpose. I don't expect people to wait on me. Maybe I'm late because I was born late who knows? I have a tendency to put things off or wait until the last minute to do something. I feel I work better under pressure. Sure its stressful sometimes, but thats just the way I am I guess. Probably will never change. 
...Is being gay a character flaw?
I wasn't talking about the punctuality thing, as you explained that is how your wife is, but I was questioning your above comment, on a more general basis, but maybe you were just talking about being late for social occassions?
I don't place many demands on others either, but that is not what this is about. Common courtesy, which is what being punctual is, implies that you respect that person's time, as much as your own. When you are continually late, or with spouses who refuse to replace items that they have used the last of (eg. toilet tissue), it shows a total disregard for others, and it is highly selfish, as it implies that their time is more important than everyone else they come into contact with. Your friends are ok with this, and probably don't see it as lack of courtesy.
Please don't think I am judging your wife, as that is not my place to do, but your comment about how you approach life, really does speak to how you perceive the other people around you, in respect to problematic behaviours, such as being late, and her always being late, speaks to how she feels about the others around her, unless of course, she has a learning challenge in the time management area that prevents her from working with time (I have several family members like this, but they really do try hard to be punctual).
It sounds like you have a caring group of friends who love your wife, and they have no issues with enabling her behaviour, as they are able to work around it for the sake of your wife. My take is a bit different, but they aren't my friends! It sounds like you have a solution that works for you at the moment.
Tiger
Hi! Sorry I'm "late" to respond to this topic.
There could be a flag. 
Maybe someone should start a campaign...the "free to be late" campaign. Equal rights for "late types".
They could sell shirts that could serve as a warning to the rest of us who are considerate of others' time. The shirt could have a clock on it with one of those "no" signs which marks through the time reminder.
That's fine, but I don't think laters should be allowed to marry. They'll have kids who are even later than they are. And they'll recruit punctual people and turn them into laters. It ain't right.
Maybe someone should start a campaign...the "free to be late" campaign. Equal rights for "late types".
They could sell shirts that could serve as a warning to the rest of us who are considerate of others' time. The shirt could have a clock on it with one of those "no" signs which marks through the time reminder.
