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(Snipped pertinent parts. There was some wacko guy posting with us, who reaaaaaaaaaally had money issues.
He accused me of being an elitist snob because I said Emily would probably prefer to marry someone WITH money. He also posted a couple months later asking WHY did doctors make so much more money than nurses, what made then
deserve to make so much more money, or something like that. Yeah, he had major issues about people HAVING a lot of money.
He went off on a bender with me. He'd be doing the same right now with Robinrs, as Robin also has said having money is better than not. Marrying someone WITH money is better than not.
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I'm talking about compatibility. Surely you've heard the many studies & statistics that the best long-time, happy marriages are those in which the partners have the most compatibility, in terms of similar education, similar socio-economics, class, religion, like values & interests, etc. While there is a saying "Opposites attract," that may be true, immediately or temporarily, the studies of successful, long-term relationships favor like factors for compatibility.
I used to work for a while for one of the top catering companies in NYC, which my cousin does the booking for. The posh clientele are the uber-rich, multi-
Billionaires: Donald Trump, the Rockefeller family, The Astors, the Whitneys, the Vanderbilts, and George Soros, who seems to own everything that Warren Buffett doesn't, etc.
I've had plenty of chances to study the mega-uber-rich & can tell the differences of the ones who came from old money: The Rockefellers & Astors, versus the self-made billionaires/millionaires, to the (current) wives who stick it in the non-rich faces every chance that they can get that they NOW have social position (for as long as they can keep it,) the handful of celebrities we have who are rich and famous in different ways, to some of the guests who are only paltry
millionaires.
What I have observed is that there are distinct differences even among the the rich and uber-rich. They live in a very different stratospheres. They truly do think, operate and expect differently. The TV show,
Royal Pains, is a great parody of how
some of them think & live.
There is a reason that several lottery winners have attempted suicide. Their back accounts may have changed drastically, but if they don't understand or fit into that wealth mentality world, they have no where to go. They can't go back to their old world as their former friends & family who are still in survival mentality may just see them as ATM machines and have no understanding or maybe even empathy for the problems & considerations for their level.
Emily, first via Ricky and now her daughter, as FINFAN mentioned, is part of a NASCAR financial & social dynasty now. She has been part of that wealth, (if she didn't come from a wealthy family herself,) and that tight world since her teens and certainly her few years of adulthood. Due to her trauma, she still has a young emotionality in many ways and appears very sheltered. She has particular considerations.
This show isn't
The Millionaire Matchmaker, which is about pairing up a millionaire with a non-millionaire. (Not that there's anything wrong with it, lest you mis-understand again.) If you really watch that show, the majority of the millionaires are self-made millionaires, so they came into wealth later in life. The people they are being paired with actually are from similar class, education & background from before the millionaires had money. So they
are indeed very similar & compatible.
If Emily becomes the next Bachelorette, I merely mean that they should match her up with someone compatible to her socio-economic standing and high profile in the NASCAR world. She has already mentioned that men are intimidated by her, in probably more ways than the one she mentioned: replacing the love of her life.
An Andrew Firestone or a [straight] Anderson Cooper would be better suited for her. Her high profile in the NASCAR world wouldn't intimidate them, nor would their own identities become lost as
Mr. Emily Maynard, husband to the mom of a NASCAR heiress, or step-father to the NASCAR heiress, as each of them come from their own high profile financial dynasties & power. They are Alpha males who can hold their own without getting lost in hers or feeling a need to compete.
He couldn't even kiss her goodnight that night. 
) but I found the post I made about MY observations/opinons about Emily back during Brad's season when we were all wondering why she was even doing the show, and the kind of guy IMO, she'd probably be better off with:
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Ewww! 
I remember going up there & feeling so bad for Queen Anne, knowing she was up there waiting to be beheaded. Such sad, sad, karma in that room. 
I wouldn't have a date up there.
I would've liked to have had dinner at Buckingham Palace though! Maybe have William and Kate stop by. Heck, who am I kidding, I'd rather have prince Harry stop by!
Had to catch up before I could come play. 
