Who finds Mothers' Day really annoying?

[poohandwendy]

I guess the point is that Mother's Day is NOT a fun holiday for everyone. It's not fun for those who have lost their Mother, it's not fun for those who had an abusive Mother, and it's not fun for women who would love to be a Mother but can't. For those of us who have chosen not to be Mothers it can make us feel like the world views us as somehow less worthy because of that choice.

With all due respect, is it really THAT big of a deal? I mean, seriously.

Fathers Day is not the same for me since my Dad died, but I have 2 FILs and my DH is a father and many of my friends are fathers, so I try not to think about ME and think about them. After all, it's JUST a day to show appreciation for a people who affect our lives. It's not a conspiracy to make some people feel bad for their lot in life.

 

[va32h]

I don't hate children, but I do seriously dislike some parents.

I've also posted on Child Free thread. I don't recall a whole lot of making fun of those who choose to be parents there. It's really more about having a place where we can go to share all the nasty things people say to us because we chose not to have kids and are happy with our choice.

Really? Because when I read through it, it seemed to be all about horribly behaved children and the stupid breeders who brought them into the world.

I guess the point is that Mother's Day is NOT a fun holiday for everyone. It's not fun for those who have lost their Mother, it's not fun for those who had an abusive Mother, and it's not fun for women who would love to be a Mother but can't. For those of us who have chosen not to be Mothers it can make us feel like the world views us as somehow less worthy because of that choice.

And so...what? It should be abolished? Celebrated at home, alone, with the lights out? Some people don't celebrate Christmas, some people don't celebrate Easter, some people don't have fathers, some people dislike Halloween. Personally, I can't stand Thanksgiving, but I don't care if other people enjoy it.

If other people view you as less worthy it's their problem, and you know that. It isn't anyone else's repsonsibility to make you feel better by ignoring a holiday that they enjoy.

I guess my point is what exactly would you like people to do? I am not about to call up my own mother and say "out of respect for those who have lost their mothers, have abusive mothers, cannot become mothers or do not wish to become mothers, I'm blowing you off today, mom."

 

[goofygirl]

We think Goofygirl hates children because she has repeatedly said that she hates children.

If you say "I hate children" then I suppose the logical thing to conclude would be that you also hate children, but I suppose it could be some sort of elaborate ruse.

"Let's insult them and laugh at them because they are not like us" is the unofficial motto of the Community Board - didn't you get the memo?

The folks on the "Cheerfully Child Free" thread certainly have.

Wow, this thread really grew since this afternoon! Not what I expected.

Okay, #1, I never said "I hate children." You can do a search of my posts of the words "I hate children" and come up with NOTHING.

#2-If anything, it is certain people here (and beyond) who hate the childfree. Not vice versa.
and #3- If you are so unhappy with the CFC thread, then why on earth do you read it?

 

[blue_river]

So shoot me. I find Mothers Day to be annoying. It's just another day to sell cards and flowers. And diamonds. Kay Jewelers reminds us of this at Xmas, V-Day and Mothers Day every year. I freakin' HATE their ads. Yeah, all women are sitting around waiting for that diamond ring or pendant. That's what it's all about.

Also, my mother's birthday is in April, so I just gave her a gift last month. Now I have to give her another gift a month later! But what am I supposed to do, not give her anything? So I am getting her a gift. In fact I do things for her all year round. *Every day* is Mothers Day, IMHO.

I am skipping church on Mothers Day. Not because they make a big deal over Mothers Day- they don't. I am glad that they don't because it would really annoy me. I am not going because my mom does not "do" church and it is "her day" so I have to do what she wants and go where she wants to go. Which is fine. It won't kill me to miss church.

On Mothers Day, all places to eat are overly crowded because everybody has the same lame idea: "Hey let's take Mom to lunch/dinner!" Gee, how original. So forget eating anywhere.

Also, I can't help but think that Mothers' Day sends the message to women that they are not important until they become mothers.That you do not deserve any honor until you have a kid. And that is so lame. And by the way, the founder of Mothers' Day never had children. If you don't believe me, look it up.

I just do not like Mothers' Day. I do not find it sad, or happy, I just find it to be a pain. I don't care if it is not politically correct to say so.

Thanks for letting me vent.

I'm so sorry you feel that way.

I only wish my mother was still around to share another Mother's Day with her.

 

[disneymom3]

I'm very much dreading it this year as I just lost my Mom in January. I'd give anything to just be able to say "Happy Mother's Day, Mom".

Oh I am so sorry. I lost my mom in Feb of last year and I was not at all looking forward to Mothers day. I would encourage you to just take it easy adn do what you need to do that day. Cry or avoid it all together. I hope it goes okay for you.

I'm taking my mother's ashes home this weekend, so she will rest with my father. I decided that since it would be my first Mother's Day without her, I would be thinking of her anyway, so it would be a good time to do this. My mother and I (along with my siblings, nieces/nephews, and old family friends) buried my father's ashes on Mother's day weekend 5 years ago, so I will lay flowers for him, also. (The family plot is in RI; I'm in FL)

To you too. What a great tribute to your parents to honor them that way. I hope your weekend goes okay too and that you are able to get through it in the way you need.

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

Wow, this thread really grew since this afternoon! Not what I expected.

Okay, #1, I never said "I hate children." You can do a search of my posts of the words "I hate children" and come up with NOTHING.

#2-If anything, it is certain people here (and beyond) who hate the childfree. Not vice versa.
and #3- If you are so unhappy with the CFC thread, then why on earth do you read it?

Maybe you need to talk to Bob then, cause he is the one who said that you hate children.

Whoever wants to live child free that is their choice and they have that right. There are alot of people in the world that should have made that choice.

 

[goofygirl]

Oh boy, I see certian people have me pegged as hating children, AND my mother! Wow!!

I guess they didn't read the part where it says I bought my mom a birthday gift, and I'm buying her a Mothers' Day gift, and I will be with her on Mothers' Day and that's fine. If I hated my mother, would I be doing any of that?

But, I DO still find Mothers' Day annoying.

And for those who say things like "You should appreciate the Day and your mom, because my mom is dead, blah, blah, blah...." I say, I DO appreciate her and I do not need a specific day in May to show that. And by the way, my mother also thinks it's a dumb holiday and commercialized! Yes, I am aware that she will die one day and I won't have her for Mothers Day, but I can tell you right now- I will not be feeling sorry for myself because she's not here on a certain day in May. I'll probably find it still annoying just like I do now. She would not want me to stay in and cry the blues because of a day on the calendar. She'd want me to go out and have fun.

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

Oh boy, I see certian people have me pegged as hating children, AND my mother! Wow!!

If the shoe fits!

 

[SwedishMeatball]

And for those who say things like "You should appreciate the Day and your mom, because my mom is dead, blah, blah, blah...." I say, I DO appreciate her and I do not need a specific day in May to show that. And by the way, my mother also thinks it's a dumb holiday and commercialized! Yes, I am aware that she will die one day and I won't have her for Mothers Day, but I can tell you right now- I will not be feeling sorry for myself because she's not here on a certain day in May. I'll probably find it still annoying just like I do now. She would not want me to stay in and cry the blues because of a day on the calendar. She'd want me to go out and have fun.

Well aren't you the lucky girl, blah, blah, blah.

 

[Aidensmom]

I don't find it annoying. I don't think its only about BEING a mother, its about HAVING a mother, and we all do. Even if our mother is no longer with us, or someone we don't get along with, it is someone who is responsible for the fact that we are even here to possibly be annoyed by Mother's Day, and that is a good thing.

My mom is one who doesn't like to "share" Mother's Day, and yes, that is annoying. I really don't feel like getting up at 8:00 am on Sunday morning only to rush around and get ready to drive an hour away to the party she is throwing herself , but its only one day out of the year, and if it makes her feel better, then whatever...

My husband and son actually had a camping trip planned for the weekend (it was just cancelled for reasons having nothing to do with Mother's Day), and I really didn't care. I know my child loves me all year long. But it does warm my heart to know that he wanted his $1 allowance so he could have DH take him to the dollar store to buy me a gift. It's hard work being a mother, I appreciate the fact that my son wants to honor me.

 

[poohandwendy]

You can do a search of my posts of the words "I hate children" and come up with NOTHING.

Oh come on. we all know search doesn't work and I have been around long enough to know you HAVE stated you hate children (in your defense, you usually add a 'but not all children' disclaimer just to get people off your back). And this isn't the first Mothers Day you complained about it. This thread is an annual event. Almost worthy of it's own holiday.

 

[blue_river]

And for those who say things like "You should appreciate the Day and your mom, because my mom is dead, blah, blah, blah...."

You'll eat those words someday.

 

[DISUNC]

MOTHERS DAY IS THIS WEEK?

oh crap....I gotta get movin!

M is for the Many things you gave us!
O is for the Other things you gave us!
T is for the Thousand things you gave us!
H is for the Hundreds of things you gave us!
E is for Everything you gave us!
R is for the Really nice things you gave us!
P is for the Plenty of things you gave us!

Put them altogether they spell...MOTHERP!​

Happy Mothers Day to all you ...MOMS! (Pointless & Proud)

Moms are what keep this world going!

 

[MrsKreamer]

I'm very much dreading it this year as I just lost my Mom in January. I'd give anything to just be able to say "Happy Mother's Day, Mom".

I am thinking of you Kathy.

 

[auntpolly]

Moms are what keep this world going!

You forgot to mention the pirate moms! They have feelings!

 

[DISUNC]

You forgot to mention the pirate moms! They have feelings!

& Gypsy nanas!

 

[Connieh]

MOTHERS DAY IS THIS WEEK?

M is for the Many things you gave us!
O is for the Other things you gave us!
T is for the Thousand things you gave us!
H is for the Hundreds of things you gave us!
E is for Everything you gave us!
R is for the Really nice things you gave us!
P is for the Plenty of things you gave us!

​

Don't you mean:

P is for the pirate that you married?

 

[auntpolly]

& Gypsy nanas!

Ok yes, yes gypsy nanas too!!!

God bless them every one!

 

[2Princes2Princesses]

So much for the new keyboard....Pepsi everywhere.

 

[DISUNC]

Don't you mean:

P is for the pirate that you married?

Yes it is P...BUt Not for Pirate!