What would you do?

[gepetto]

Are you sure you didn't misunderstand his intentions? Could he have been just asking you to do lunch or dinner "as friends" or as part of a group? aw:

what if you do try to get revenge, and it turns out he had no romantic interest in you at all?

 

[PoohnPglet]

Unfortunately - I do not have his phone number. I just gave him mine. I know that I will confront him about being married as soon as we speak again. Whether that is by phone or in person, I do not know. Like I said, we work at the same place.

I can't help it if thoughts of "getting" him are going through my head. I would never act on them. But they are fun to think up!

 

[PoohnPglet]

Are you sure you didn't misunderstand his intentions? Could he have been just asking you to do lunch or dinner "as friends" or as part of a group? aw:

what if you do try to get revenge, and it turns out he had no romantic interest in you at all?

We have done the group thing. This time he asked for my number and specifically asked that it just be the two of us some evening this week. I guess I could have misread that, but I don't think so.

 

[auntpolly]

Are you sure you didn't misunderstand his intentions? Could he have been just asking you to do lunch or dinner "as friends" or as part of a group? aw:

what if you do try to get revenge, and it turns out he had no romantic interest in you at all?

oh right! I sure hope my DH asks for girls' numbers at work!

I sure hope he's a friendly coworker!

 

[Pkaroch]

I would tell him that since you have found out about his marital status, you no longer consider him dating material and let it go. And be thankful that YOU can walk away from him. Due to the existence of children, his wife will have to deal with him in some way regardless. At least you found out now, before it went any further! Karma is a real pisser, it will bite him in the end.

 

[julia & nicks mom]

We have done the group thing. This time he asked for my number and specifically asked that it just be the two of us some evening this week. I guess I could have misread that, but I don't think so.

You work with him and have been out socially with him and didn't know he was married?

Clearly he is not interested in it being public knowledge and he is a scumbag!!

 

[PoohnPglet]

You work with him and have been out socially with him and didn't know he was married?

Clearly he is not interested in it being public knowledge and he is a scumbag!!

He also does not wear a ring and there is not a mark/tan line where a ring usually sits either. ( I did look for that.)

 

[phisigprincess]

All I know is this guy is a big ole scuz!!! You work at the same place - how did he think you wouldn't find out about his family???

 

[mrFDNY]

hi,
just my point of view as a guy. are you 100% sure he is married?couldd it be possible that someone made it up just to discourage you cause there jealous?if he is i would tell him to leave you alone!i would not tell or confront his wife two reasons.the wife might think your just lying and trying to start trouble and maybe want to find you or confront you back and possible a fight can happen.he problay would tell her your the one brothering him to make himself look like the nice guy.she good buy his story and come after you.thinking your the homewrecker(i know i;ve seen too many jerry springers shows)number two and this happened to a guy that used to work for us.she throws him out.he loses everything he has and blames you ploting his revenge on you.this happened to a guy that used to work with me.seemed like a normal guy until his "girlfriend" told his wife,the wife took everythink,threw him out.the only thing left was his job.he began sleeping at the firehouse everyday.near the end the "girlfriend" had to get a restraining order against him.he was stalking her and became violent toward her.he begun sitting in the fire house drunk(off duty) and became very aggressive to the employees. many times he was starting a tour he was relieved of duty because it was apperent he was drunk or high maybe both. he got into fight's at work and the captains had it with him. they pushed paperwork and he was fired from the F.D.N.Y. and that was the last draw.he lost everything and blamed that girlfriend. it has been rumored he was put away in jail.after he violatied the protection order and was charged with assaulting her,driving while intox,menacing,harressement and a number of different things.he always blamed her for losing everything not himself who was really at fault.he made it his personal mission to get even at her.even if it meant him going to jail.i would be careful how i handle this chances are you will end up looking like the bad guy.just tell him if he is married f**k off.

 

[helenabear]

I'd let it go...

and stop all contact with him outside of work stuff.

Been through married man at work who hit on me/asked me out, and to me, they aren't worth the time of day!

 

[CinderellaIam]

You work with him and have been out socially with him and didn't know he was married?
Clearly he is not interested in it being public knowledge and he is a scumbag!!

Seriously!

The best revenge you could have is being a better person with a happier life than his, and you will be much happier the further you stay away from him.

I would tell him when he calls "I don't date married men, thank you very much. Spend the time and money on your wife and kids. AND, loose my number, okay?" Oh, and it wouldn't hurt if you made sure that everytime you ran into him after that conversation that you looked totaly hot and completely ignored him.

 

[dianeschlicht]

Let it go...He'll hang himself with his own rope soon enough.

 

[RickinNYC]

Hey Wendy! You know my thoughts on this through the text messages we sent each other this past weekend. As much as I'd like to smack the guy around for messing with my friend's head, I think you've gotten some good advice from people here. You should confront the guy only in that you want to set him straight that you know he's married and that he is to not bother you moving forward. I think that alone would scare the bejesus out of him.

 

[nativetxn]

I wouldn't do anything for revenge but I would wait until he mentioned taking me to dinner and ask if his wife would be joining us? If he says "no" then I would simply say that I wasn't comfortable with that and walk away.

Hopefully this could be done in front of witnesses