What would you do?

[PoohnPglet]

I was recently asked out by this guy - nice, funny, cute. Hooray for me, right? Now, I do not know this man very well, but we work at the same place, so I asked around about him. (Anyone see where this is going?)

HE IS MARRIED!! Not the seperated, divorce not final yet married. He is the "honey, I have to work late", cheating husband married!

So far, all that has happened is that we have talked at work and I have given him my phone number to call so we can make plans to go out somewhere this week. He does not know that I found out about his wife and 2 children.

Obviously, dating this man is out of the question. And maybe I have seen too many "payback" movies, but I want to get this guy somehow. I do not know how, just somehow. I think cheaters are a very low form of scum and it makes me mad that he not only is lying to me, but to his wife and family.

So, what would you all do? Elaborate "gotcha" plan or let it go?

 

[VistaLeigh'smommy]

I would let it go

 

[mickman1962]

you obviously haven't seen enough "payback" movies to even consider this. This man will screw his life up without your help.

 

[Daxx]

As much as I'd love to hatch an elaborate "gotcha" plan ... I'd let it go. While revenge may be sweet, you'll get it times 3! Just wait ... Karma will come and bite him on the butt soon enough. Let him get it times 3, not you!

ETA - remember ... what goes around comes around. He'll get his just desserts in the end.

 

[julia & nicks mom]

I would let it go -

but maybe call his house and ask for him - don't tell his wife anything - just leave an intereting enough message to get her asking questions!

 

[Pam]

I would call the lying scumbag out on it and tell him in no uncertain terms to NEVER call my telephone and to stay the heck away from me.

 

[kellyf2626]

I would let it go -

but maybe call his house and ask for him - don't tell his wife anything - just leave an intereting enough message to get her asking questions!

This is exactly what I would do!!

 

[PoohnPglet]

you obviously haven't seen enough "payback" movies to even consider this. This man will screw his life up without your help.

You are probably right. I just hope he only screws up his own life and not the rest of his family.

This has just made me so mad. And I am kind of surprised by how offended I am.

 

[SherryNC]

Buckle up, cause this is going to be a bumpy ride. Boy, you know how to get everyone riled up on a Monday morning.

I would not get involved in any way, shape or form. That includes "payback". Just be thankful this didn't go any further before you found out. The world is full of cheaters, and you don't have the time to teach the unteachable a lesson.

 

[powellrj]

I would walk away. You don't know what you are getting into with his wife, what kind of relationship they have or anything about them. While payback looks great in books and movies, its never as neat and clean in real life. You aren't just dealing with a cheating DH, you are also dealing with the lives of children. Trust me, when it comes to their children, most women will move heaven and earth to protect them.

 

[Marseeya]

I agree with the rest of the posters except the one who suggests calling his house. I wouldn't do anything to involve the wife or kids -- that's just plain hurtful to them. If he presses you for an answer maybe you could say something like, "I don't know, why don't we ask your wife if she minds first?" heh

 

[DISshopkeeper]

I would certainly tell the low-life what I thought and then walk away.

 

[luvmydogs]

I don't think it's your place to give this man "payback', so to speak (as tempting as it may be!). He has a wife and there are children involved, and their feelings and the possible consequences of your actions have to be considered. I'm sure you wouldn't *purposefully* set out to involve them, but you certainly shouldn't risk it.

As for this guy--I'd have no qualms letting him know quite "firmly" that I would not be going out with him because I knew he was married and had children.

Yep, he's scum. I have no tolerance for a person who compromises their family in such a way.

 

[PoohnPglet]

Buckle up, cause this is going to be a bumpy ride. Boy, you know how to get everyone riled up on a Monday morning.

Wow - I wasn't going for the "riled-up" effect.

 

[ericamanda01]

I would make it clear to him that you are aware of his marriage and children, and that you never want to talk to him again!

 

[C.Ann]

I would wait for him to call again.. Let him tell you where you're going to go on your "date".. Then when he's finished, say - "That sounds great! Now could you give me your home phone number so I can call your wife to see if she might have some suggestions about what I should wear??"

 

[auntpolly]

Payback could backfire on you -- it's not worth taking the chance. In my fantasies I would be telling his wife -- not as payback, but as a public service.

I think I would be very interested in knowing if my husband were dating!

 

[SherryNC]

Buckle up, cause this is going to be a bumpy ride. Boy, you know how to get everyone riled up on a Monday morning.

Wow - I wasn't going for the "riled-up" effect.

Cheating husbands bring out the passionate side of many posters. Nothing wrong with that and it will be interesting to see all the responses you are certain to get.

 

[Keggy]

While I think the guy is probably a lying scumbag - you never know what is going on in his personal life - maybe he is separated and hasn't told anyone yet?

Kelly

PS - I like the calling his house and leaving a message idea...

 

[aprincessmom]

Tell him you don't date married men and let it go.