My friend and her hubby are having some major financial problems they are losing their home she is 3 months behind on her car payment and neither seem to really care! The thing is they have 3 kids!!! Their youngest is autistic and they never really did all they could for him which I did not agree with but they never asked my opinion so I never said anything. Their middle child a girl is having major problems with anger issue's at school and at home and they kind of pat her on the back and say she is defending her self. She actually screamed at a woman in the street in front of the house (the woman came down to tell her please dont push my son he is only six and way smaller and younger than you) So she berated this woman while my friend watched out the window and laughed and once again said good job to her daughter!! 
I am sorry but no 11 year old should yell at an adult my friend should have been outside and intervening. Their oldest always did well in school and was always a really sweet boy he has since in the past year become a complete wise*** and has failed science and math and has to go to summer school!! They had to pay for his summer school and when my friend found that out she refused to send him stating it is his fault that he didnt do his homework so why should I pay he'll learn his lesson let him repeat 7th grade. Once agin I kept my mouth shut like I told my DH if my son failed for homework it is partly my fault I make sure he does it every single day and I go over it with him. Their house has always been dirty I have cleaned for her when she was working because I felt bad for the kids Well, she was fired from her job 2 months ago and the house has gotten worse it is really filthy now! I offered help thinking she is depressed with their situation but she said no thanks. We always invite them over for dinner and barbeque's but lately for the past 3 months about they have been refusing for one reason or another. Though they continue to invite us to their house where they seem to spend all their money on booze and cigarette's playing quarter's and getting trashed has not been my scene since I was about 22 I have 2 two children and one now on the way and that is just not what I want to do. Well this weekend was final straw for my DH and I we went to their house friday and sat on their deck chatting well, my friend is going on an on about how her hubby is doing some side jobs and made about 500. dollars I said great you can pay some of your car payments, and she laughed and said no way were partying with it!! 
She then informed me how she went and bought him a very bad illicit drug as a reward!!!!!!! I just didnt know what to say I told my DH I had a headache and wanted to go but, not before he invited them to OUR HOUSE for a BBQ for saturday!!! Also their daughter begged us to take her so she could sleep over. I gave in and took her with me she is different respectfull and she turns back into a little girl I feel so bad for her. When we got home I informed my DH of what was said to me and he nearly flipped out with anger saying "what is wrong with them they are losing everything and they are doing nothing for those kids!" and so on. My concern was also that I didnt want them bringing anything into my house. Well, they never showed never called which was a relief BUT, we still had their KID!!! They never called and when we called them there was no answer so eventually Sunday AFTERNOON about 2:00 we dropped her off they were home but, never came out and never called. their daughter came out and said they are sleeping! Well, it is now tuesday and still no call!! I have called them twice but no answer. My Dh has gotten even angrier realizing what if the other times they have come to our home if they brought this junk to our house and one of our children got a hold of it!!! He is also upset like me about their poor kids but we just dont know what if anything there is we can do to at least try to help the kids. He has sine told me "even if she does call dont even talk to her because she is just going to have a load off **** to tell you anyway" I just can not keep thinking of these poor kids getting brought down deeper into their parents pit. 
I am sorry but no 11 year old should yell at an adult my friend should have been outside and intervening. Their oldest always did well in school and was always a really sweet boy he has since in the past year become a complete wise*** and has failed science and math and has to go to summer school!! They had to pay for his summer school and when my friend found that out she refused to send him stating it is his fault that he didnt do his homework so why should I pay he'll learn his lesson let him repeat 7th grade. Once agin I kept my mouth shut like I told my DH if my son failed for homework it is partly my fault I make sure he does it every single day and I go over it with him. Their house has always been dirty I have cleaned for her when she was working because I felt bad for the kids Well, she was fired from her job 2 months ago and the house has gotten worse it is really filthy now! I offered help thinking she is depressed with their situation but she said no thanks. We always invite them over for dinner and barbeque's but lately for the past 3 months about they have been refusing for one reason or another. Though they continue to invite us to their house where they seem to spend all their money on booze and cigarette's playing quarter's and getting trashed has not been my scene since I was about 22 I have 2 two children and one now on the way and that is just not what I want to do. Well this weekend was final straw for my DH and I we went to their house friday and sat on their deck chatting well, my friend is going on an on about how her hubby is doing some side jobs and made about 500. dollars I said great you can pay some of your car payments, and she laughed and said no way were partying with it!! She then informed me how she went and bought him a very bad illicit drug as a reward!!!!!!! I just didnt know what to say I told my DH I had a headache and wanted to go but, not before he invited them to OUR HOUSE for a BBQ for saturday!!! Also their daughter begged us to take her so she could sleep over. I gave in and took her with me she is different respectfull and she turns back into a little girl I feel so bad for her. When we got home I informed my DH of what was said to me and he nearly flipped out with anger saying "what is wrong with them they are losing everything and they are doing nothing for those kids!" and so on. My concern was also that I didnt want them bringing anything into my house. Well, they never showed never called which was a relief BUT, we still had their KID!!! They never called and when we called them there was no answer so eventually Sunday AFTERNOON about 2:00 we dropped her off they were home but, never came out and never called. their daughter came out and said they are sleeping! Well, it is now tuesday and still no call!! I have called them twice but no answer. My Dh has gotten even angrier realizing what if the other times they have come to our home if they brought this junk to our house and one of our children got a hold of it!!! He is also upset like me about their poor kids but we just dont know what if anything there is we can do to at least try to help the kids. He has sine told me "even if she does call dont even talk to her because she is just going to have a load off **** to tell you anyway" I just can not keep thinking of these poor kids getting brought down deeper into their parents pit. 
