What would you do? (At home reception)

[steph0188]

Have just been thinking out a guest list for our at home reception. We're planning on Just doing an evening do, I will have a mini-cake or cupcakes there. There won't be a seating plan, or any sit down food. We're looking at having a photobooth there & so the photos from that will be the 'favours' (I would stamp so envelopes saying something nice). For food it's a toss up between really cheap cold finger food or a BBQ (there BBQ isn't coming out too much more per head, so I am headed that way at the moment)

Now I get to it...
I have drafted a rough guest list, and I have come a little stuck with who I invite from work.
I work at a Vets, as a nurse, it's a fairly small business with around 30 staff altogether
I'm allowed 150 guests to the venue I have my hopes on, and if I invited EVERYONE then it would really push that & they wouldn't be able to bring their partners.

My heart says just invite most nurses, they're the ones I spend most my time with, I like them and we get on. Their partners MAY then be able to come.
However, the last wedding that was at work (before I started there) was Claires and I believe she put up a communal sign inviting everyone. I would feel bad if people felt left out, but at the same time, I don't want to do something for some one else for the sake of it

What do you all think, and what would you do?
TIA

 

[YouLoveJulianne]

I can completely sympathize with your guest list frustrations. It has been the only stressful thing of wedding planning for me so far. I suggest that you only invite the people who you are close with. The ones who you go to lunch with, text/call when your'e not at work, and hang out with outside of the office. Whenever people from the office ask about the wedding or wedding planning, (invited or not) just explain that your budget and venue are limiting your guest list. Keep it simple.

On your wedding day you should have only the people you truly want there, not a million others that you could care less about because you're afraid to hurt their feelings. It's the one and only day of your life that you're allowed to be selfish!

That's my opinion anyway!

 

[steph0188]

Thanks lovely
These are my thoughts as well, but I still have a nagging feeling. It's to do with people feeling left out for sure, I'm just thinking what I'd do if I wasn't invited. But it wouldn't be like I'm leaving 1 or 2 people out, there are many people that I wouldn't invite.
Maybe if I got my RSVP's back and I had enough room/money I could invite them after- is that taking the mick even more though?!
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[YouLoveJulianne]

Yea.. I would steer away from having a 2nd list for after the rsvp's. Especially since they all work in the same place. It's better for people to understand that you needed to have a limited guest list due to your financial or venue constraints then to feel like they are back-up invites or second choice. If it was a separate group of people who didn't know them then it would be fine because they wouldn't know that they are receiving the invitations weeks after everyone else.

 

[Evi]

Don't stress it invite the people closest to you and don't look back. Honestly people do understand that you can't invite everyone.

 

[steph0188]

Don't stress it invite the people closest to you and don't look back. Honestly people do understand that you can't invite everyone.

Thank you I think I am over thinking it & worrying for sure.
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