What do you think about breast implant?

[Kallison]

Originally posted by DocRafiki
It's weird how people in different areas have different opinions about plastic surgery. Where I used to live, only "trashy girls" got them. Ha! Here in FL, if you're over 18, under a C-cup, and don't have them, it's because you're too poor! It's almost expected for everyone to have them here. If you want them before living here, you will have a very hard time fighting the urge after moving here.

Hey Doc I noticed that when we were house hunting two years ago. I said to DH I will have no friends if we move to Florida because I don't have breast implants, fake nail tips and a fake tan. Well I can do the fake tan but no way am I sticking my cleavage out there at the age of 42! We had dinner with another couple who were from up North and young. She said to me don't worry -- you'll get used to how everyone dresses eventually. In PA we just don't walk around showing our cleavage on a daily basis unless you are in middle school/high school.

 

[Kallison]

Oops btw didn't realize this thread had gotten controversial. Just wanted to say about the implants, I don't have the nerve to do it. If there is any type of complication to be had, I will be the one it happens too. Always does. So I avoid uneccessary surgery at all costs. If you want to do it, I think it is fine. I'm all for improving appearance. Also wanted to say that I always think how beautiful you are when I see your picture Fantasia.

 

[*Fantasia*]

Hey Doc I noticed that when we were house hunting two years ago. I said to DH I will have no friends if we move to Florida because I don't have breast implants, fake nail tips and a fake tan. Well I can do the fake tan but no way am I sticking my cleavage out there at the age of 42!

You're funny Kallison!

Thank you everyone for sharing your thoughts and stories and the compliments. Thanks Blondie for sharing that link. Yes, there's definitely a risk involved. Definitely something I need to really think about.

I know that more than half of the celebrities and artist had theirs done, they are fine, and some had them for years like Dolly Parton and Pamela Anderson (I don't want to be that huge!)...and who else that had their done many many years ago. Christina Aguillera, Demi Moore, Brittney Spears, Goldie Hawn, and many more celebs that had it done, and they are not having any complications. Not that I am saying that they will or will not have complications later in time. This is definitely something to really think about. And yes it is my decision to make the right decision for me. But I do love hearing your opinions!

I have talked to a few people at work and they have friends that had it done and they were fine and still very happy with their decisions. Their age are in the 40s now.

 

[hipporina]

I don't know a great deal about implants, but I do know more than I would like about being large chested. I'm just wishing mine would shrink! I am really not trying to influence you one way or another, but if you really want info to think about, here is some stuff I've learned about being large.

What I can't wear:
tank tops or anything similar that won't hide a bra strap
2 piece swimsuits - they are designed for B/C cups and if you are bigger than that they don't work
anything that has to be tucked in
pretty bras - don't come in my size
most lingerie (fun stuff ) same problem as swimsuits
dresses without a defined tapered waist, like most that just slip on
stretchy shirts

Plus, if you are skinny and large chested its worse because the "full figured" bras and all start with a larger band size, not cup size!

I know there are definately challenges being small as well, but you obviously know about those if you are considering implants. If I were small, I personally would not do it, just because I hate having surgery. I had an optional surgery for infertility, and although it wasn't difficult, it was extremely stressful to me. I know not everyone feels that way though.

Best of luck making your decision!

 

[lacool]

Okay, here it goes. Heat up the flames ...

I have six friends who have had breast augmentation over the past 4 years. All but one are over 30, all but one (a different one) went with no larger than a C- cup. Not a one of them regrets her decision. BTW, none of them live in Florida. Yes, it is extreme, and requires quite a bit of research on your part. I suggest you check out the website http://implantinfo.com/, which has the stories of many women who have experienced it, including those who had complications.

Good luck with your decision. Do what is right for you, consider the warnings carefully, and decide based upon what your heart tells you.

 

[Wish Upon A Star]

I think its a personal decision . . .

Those of us who have em don't want em and those of us who don't have em want em . . . .

I am the youngest of 3 sisters . . .2 of us have em and the other one didn't . . .The one who didn't have any had them enlarged many years ago . . .She ended up having them removed because they were leaking and wreakin havoc in her bloodstream . . .

I'd love to have a reduction, but I'd probably miss them after they were gone . . .so I leave well enough alone . . .

If you really have your heart set on it then go for it . . .

 

[Alice28]

I don't think I would want implants---seems to risky to me, and I wouldn't want people looking at me thinking "implants." But, I will say after having two babies, and breastfeeding them both for a long time, I wouldn't mind having a lift or something! Lol!

I agree with one of the original posters though- you are a beautiful person- take the money and go to Disney!

 

[Evil Princess]

Personally I don't think that the positives outweigh the negatives. It is your body, but honestly...I've been to that website prior to this thread, and I've heard far too many stories of bad reactions to implants.

 

[tkyes]

I would do it in a second, if there weren't risks. I just can't get past that.

I would love a nose job more than I would a boob job though, still can't bring myself to do it.

You have to do what makes you happy.

I know exactly what you mean about wanting to feel sexy just once in your life. It's a decision only you can make. Good luck with your decision, I'm sure it can't be an easy one.


Tamie

 

[bsnyder]

I've lost track of the number of friends, aquaintances and family members who have had implants over the years. (must be because I live in Florida!).

A very few have had minor complications. Not one has had a horror story, like I've seen on some websites.

Is there a risk? Sure there is. But there's also a risk to a lot of other unecessary things we do. I'm going snow skiing next month. That's got a bit of risk to it. And I've actually known several people who have suffered bad injuries from skiing accidents.

One thing I'd urge you to do, Fantasia, is make sure you choose your doctor with care. This is NOT a good time to look for a bargain! You want someone experienced, not someone cheap.


We do all kind of things to improve ourselves. This is just one of them. A generation ago, there was much more of an aversion to unnecessary surgery, because the risk was higher. My grandfather was a surgeon, and he'd be amazed at the number of elective surgeries performed today. But the risks have gone down tremendously since his day. They haven't gone to zero, obviously, but they've gone down to the point where a large number of people feel the benefit outweighs the risk.

 

[RitaZ.]

I agree that it's a personal decision and there should be no shame if you decide to have it done.

There are plenty of women where I live with "boob jobs", they are mostly women in their 30's and 40's. It's interesting because the majority of them are VERY thin and then they have these huge melons. I don't know how their tiny/petite bodies and backs can support "them". Most of them definitely don't look natural or even attractive to ME, but... who am I to criticize them? If THEY are happy with the way THEY look, then that is what matters.

Personally, I'm too chicken to do have anything like that done, plus I'm happy with the way I look.

Good luck with your decision!

 

[poohandwendy]

First, you are beautiful and sexy already. Of course, that doesn't do much for you when you don't feel that way.

What you are talking about wanting is to 'feel' sexier. The problem is, feelings are based on emotions and I suspect, while implants may give you a quick boost to your ego, eventually you will feel the same way you do right now. The reason is, you are attempting to change physical appearance to alter how you feel emotionally.

If you had a deformity that set you apart from what society considers 'normal', it would be reasonable to say that 'fixing' it would be a solution. But you aren't physically deformed, you are unhappy with what most consider beautiful. IMO, you are seeking perfection to fix how you feel about yourself, inside. If you fix the inside, you will love the outside. (you don't have to be 'crazy' to benefit from therapy/counselling)

This is just my opinion, obviously you have the right to make the decision for yourself. I just truly believe you will still find a reason to feel 'unsexy' if you alter your breasts. Because you haven't addressed the emotional issue behind your feeling 'less than' in a beautiful body.

again, JMHO...take it for what it is worth....good luck with your decision.

 

[tc]

Fantasia, if I could afford it, I'd be having it done right now. I have researched, read and discussed it with Stephen. He really has little opinion. I am 5'4", and an "A" cup, but would like to be a full B or small C. The more I work out, the smaller they get. I love to lift weights, but within a couple of months of working out, I look more like a boy than a girl. My chest, waste and hips are almost the same measurement. Can you say no curves?!?! I don't want to be so large as to impede my exercise or look silly. I just would like to look like a girl from the neck down.

I am saving a little at a time, and, maybe, someday I will get my implants. I like my body, like myself, and have little self-esteem problems (except my boobs are too small), but I would love to wear a sexy dress and have, at least a little, cleavage.

My opinion is, if you've researched, your husband is supportive, and you are not taking anything away, financially, from your family, do it.

JMHO, !

 

[Jenn]

My sister has them and is very happy with them. But, I wouldn't do it. They look fake, they don't really move like normal breasts do, they are perfectly round and perky.

There are several ways to do it, my sister chose to do the following (little graphic......). They removed her nipples, inserted the implant over the muscle, and then filled the implants with saline, then re-attached her nipples. She had a very painful recovery, but doesn't really have any scars. Once I heard the procedure specifics, I couldn't believe she was going forward with it. She is single, and hasn't had children yet. I wonder what is going to happen to them once she goes through a couple of pregnancies.

 

[*Fantasia*]

I've lost track of the number of friends, aquaintances and family members who have had implants over the years. (must be because I live in Florida!).

Hmmm...Is this a Florida thing?! Everyone in Florida knows who are the local ones and who are the tourist ones. I guess if I do have it done, I will just fit in perfectly and no one will care cause most had theirs done!

I can understand why most in the 30s and 40s would do it after the pregnancies. The boobs get smaller and not perky anymore after the breastfeeding.

I am emotionally fine with myself, but it really would be great to just see myself on the mirror and say "I like it!" not that I hate my body.

Thank you guys so much for sharing your stories and your opinions on this and compliments too!

 

[WDWHound]

Its your body and your choice, still I just wanted to say that I find smaller breasts to be very attractive and I know lots of other men who feel that way as well. Do what makes you feel comfortable with your body, but my opinoin as an observer is that I have never seen a woman who I felt was made more attractive by getting larger breasts.

 

[Nick@ VB+OKW]

 

[joe]

The fact is that we all do things to make us feel better about our appearance. Why do people go on diets? Why do women put make-up on? Why dress up for a night out? To feel better about ourselves.

Listen to what your heart tells you. You don't have an emotional problem. If there was a pill with no side effects out there that would increase your breast size 100% of small chested women would be taking them. Don't let the people on their "high horse" deter you from doing something that you want to do. I'm a personal trainer and have never met a woman that didn't have at least one thing they would change about their appearance if they could.


That whole "it doesn't matter how you look on the outside" and "it's what is inside that makes you beautiful" stuff was started by ugly people.

If your primary motivation to get implants is attracting men you shouldn't do it. You should be getting implants for your self-esteem first. A higher self-esteem will project confidence and make you feel more attractive around everyone.

 

[TigerBear]

Originally posted by joe
That whole "it doesn't matter how you look on the outside" and "it's what is inside that makes you beautiful" stuff was started by ugly people.

I know pleanty of beautiful people who value themselves and others more for who they are than for what they look like. Wouldn't life be so meaningless without the stuff on the inside?

Fantasia, I too think you should do what will make you happy. I also bet by your other posts that you are wise enough to know that getting breast implants will not increase your value as a person. Good luck with your decision.

 

[kpgclark]

I think Joe made a typo. Replace "ugly" with "intelligent".