What do you think about breast implant?

[grinningghost]

Hey - just a little input from another member of the itty bitty t... well, you know what committee I mean.

I am a 32 barely B. The only time in my life when I had any boobs was when I was pregnant, and I thought it was kind of cool. BUT, alas, all good things come to an end, and after the baby, I shrank even more than before.

Since then (it's been 15 years), I have thought about implants. And for awhile, I actually felt myself becoming obsessed with my "inferior" small bust. It was at that point that I think my brain snapped back to reality and made me realize that I can look good just the way I am. It wasn't that I was afraid of complications or misread mammograms - the obsessing just STOPPED one day not so long ago.

All I'm saying is, don't jump into it too quickly, you might end up like me and decide it's just not for you. Good luck and I know how you feel.

 

[Blondie]

Originally posted by joe
That whole "it doesn't matter how you look on the outside" and "it's what is inside that makes you beautiful" stuff was started by ugly people.

I disagree.

If you are a complete beauty on the outside, but are a lousy low down dirty dog on the inside, your good looks don't mean squat.

 

[RitaZ.]

"it's what is inside that makes you beautiful" stuff was started by ugly people.

Isn't that what Jim Carrey said to his son in "Liar, Liar"?

 

[*Fantasia*]

I think it's more about wanting to feel more feminine. Feeling more like a woman. Some of you may say it's all in the inside and it's how you carry youself makes you a woman. I know it doesn't mean the larger you are the more feminine you would feel, but certainly if you are big enough to show you got some boobs, you would feel more feminine than with someone who is almost flat and somehow look like a boy-ish. I think this is what I am trying to get at.

I agree with Blondie.

If you're beautiful in the inside and your personality is sparkling like a diamond, but what if you don't like the outside and feel insecure about how your image, then that's not good.

 

[TigerBear]

Originally posted by *Fantasia*
but what if you don't like the outside and feel insecure about how your image, then that's not good. [/B]

Fantasia, are you concerned with your entire body image - or just the size of your breasts?

 

[joe]

Appearance is what this topic is about, not how great a person you are. It affects the way she feels emotionally and for that reason it may be a good thing for her. Some of you need to get off the psychologist mode and just take this for what it is.

"Intelligent" people know better than to say that appearance and self-esteem aren't connected. Appearance isn't everything but it's an aspect of how we feel as human beings. If you honestly don't care how you look you've got some issues of your own.

Having a breast implant sets a bad example for the kids???? What about speeding, cursing, crazy diets, and about 10 million other things.

A lot of people on these forums remind me of all the churches my parents took me to as a kid. They act real nice in church and then when they leave they all give each other the finger for blocking their car's path on the way out of the parking lot. PRICELESS!!!

Also, a dumb movie did not invent that saying. Nike didn't invent the phrase"just do it" either. People have been saying that in gyms for ages. Too much TV!!

If it makes you happy and you're not hurting anyone go for it. Do your research, though. A free consultation doesn't hurt either.

 

[*Fantasia*]

Hi TigerBear. I love my butt! I love my thighs, my legs, my waist... I just wish my boobs are bigger where I would feel more feminine. I thought since I have been wanting this breast augumentation for some time now and this is a brand new year and I am moving to Florida, I thought maybe a nice new curvy look would be nice too!

I am doing this for me, not for a guy or any men out there. I feel good in the inside, I just want to also feel good on the outside.

Joe...I agree. True, this isn't about how great the person is, it is about appearance. I know I am a good person, I just want to do something about the outside.

If it makes you happy and you're not hurting anyone go for it.

Sounds like this is the kind of advice I would give to someone.

 

[TigerBear]

Originally posted by joe
Some of you need to get off the psychologist mode and just take this for what it is.

Considering that I am a psychologist, this might be hard for me to do.

I have absolutely no problem with anyone getting breast implants. I can totally understand that getting them would make Fantasia feel sexier. My entire point is that Fantasia is a beautiful woman and that I hope she realizes how beautiful she is. I am talking physically here - look at her picture!

I agree with you that taking pride in one's physical appearance is important - and often an indicator of overall self-esteem and self-satisfaction. But to value one's physical appearance more than one's inner character is sad to me (and I am in no way referring to Fantasia here).

 

[MerryPoppins]

Joe, I like the way I look enough to not take chances with my health by having surgery to fix the little things that are wrong. For heaven's sake, I only have one breast but it's not doing a number on my self-esteem. My body is far from perfect, but I'm okay with that. And by the way, I'm intelligent, too. I have a college education and graduated with honors.

The thing is you have to balance how you'll look/feel vs. the possibility that you could be putting your health at risk. Fantasia, I'm assuming those are your two beautiful kids in your photo. They are depending on you. This is your decision and yours alone. I can't tell you what to do any more that anyone else can. I just ask you to consider your kids as you think this through. What would they do if you had complications? If after you consider the options, this is still the road you want to take, so be it. It's your body and your life. Good luck to you.

 

[TigerBear]

Originally posted by *Fantasia*
Hi TigerBear. I love my butt! I love my thighs, my legs, my waist... I just wish my boobs are bigger where I would feel more feminine.

Best of luck to you!!!

 

[*Fantasia*]

Originally posted by MerryPoppins

The thing is you have to balance how you'll look/feel vs. the possibility that you could be putting your health at risk. Fantasia, I'm assuming those are your two beautiful kids in your photo. They are depending on you. This is your decision and yours alone. I can't tell you what to do any more that anyone else can. I just ask you to consider your kids as you think this through. What would they do if you had complications? If after you consider the options, this is still the road you want to take, so be it. It's your body and your life. Good luck to you.

Believe me it is going to balance! Yes, I have been thinking about my children too. It is kind of hard in my situtation because I am the only one they got. And I sure don't want anymore complications in my life. Am I being selfish for wanting to have some self-image confidence? But yea, my kids' is my priority here. Somehow I feel some pressure here. But yes, it is still my decision as to what is good for me, but also yes, I have to concider my children as well.

Am I in a dilemma here? This is a petty decision to make, I should know what is the right thing to do.

Thanks MerryPoppins and TigerBear and everyone else who replied and gave their inputs and wishes and compliments and everything else in between. I appreciate you guys!