What do you call your MIL/FIL???

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Just curious. (OK let's be nice)

Mr. or Mrs. XXXX, by their first names, or Mom and Dad????
 
I won't tell you what I call MIL when I talk about her to my friends! LOL...
But to their faces I called them by their first names. It's sad but my MIL is not warm and friendly so I would never call her Mom, it would feel too odd.

On the other hand, the day of our wedding, my Dad asked my DH to call him Dad from that day forward. I love my warm, fuzzy daddy!!
 
either Mrs/Mr XXX or first names (but only by first names when I'm trying to get their attention)
 

To be honost, they would probably prefer I call them Mom and Dad, but it just feels weird to me.

I call them by their first names usually, but that feels wierd too, so I usually try to work it out so I don't have to say their name at all.
 
I call them by their first names it isn't because I don't like them they just aren't my mom and dad so I use first names.
 
I don't. :rotfl:

Seriously, when I have to talk to them (which isn't often, thankfully), I try to avoid using any name at all. It's worked great for over 15 years, so I figure it's working for me!
 
I call them what DH calls them which is Mam & Da. It makes it easier since it's not Mom and Dad which is how we refer to my parents.
 
With my FIL, I don't like to call him by his first name, I work it out so I don't have to say it. He's not very warm and fuzzy. My MIL though, we WERE close, so I called her by her first name. We both aren't very close to his parents though, so we hardly ever see them.
 
jennyl772003 said:
To be honost, they would probably prefer I call them Mom and Dad, but it just feels weird to me.

I call them by their first names usually, but that feels wierd too, so I usually try to work it out so I don't have to say their name at all.
Oh me, too. I always feel so bad, but nothing feels right.
 
First names, that is what they prefer. I want my kids spouses to call me mom if they want, when the time comes and if I like them.
 
jennyl772003 said:
To be honost, they would probably prefer I call them Mom and Dad, but it just feels weird to me.

I call them by their first names usually, but that feels wierd too, so I usually try to work it out so I don't have to say their name at all.


Me too. Since the kids were born I now call them Grandma and Grandpa.
 
First names. I think they had probably hoped for "mom" and "dad", not because they love me, but rather as a respect for their authority over our family thing. It's not happening. I think they're fine with it now, but it was a hard brain switch for them to realize they didn't have the same kind of "mom and dad" power they had before dh got married.

I hope when my kids get married, their spouses will be happy to call me by my first name and be friends. I don't plan on being their mom and would feel very strange if they tried to call me such.
 
I call my in-laws Mom and Dad. :) When my children are married, I don't mind what their spouses call me, as long as they call me something. I can't imagine not being addressed by name, any name they want, but please personalize our relationship by choosing something! :)
 
Brianne said:
I don't. :rotfl:

Seriously, when I have to talk to them (which isn't often, thankfully), I try to avoid using any name at all. It's worked great for over 15 years, so I figure it's working for me!

I do the same thing! We are 500 mi away so we don't see but maybe once a year. DH and I have been together for 15 years and I have never called them anything. :blush: They are always nice to me, nothing has ever felt right
 
When I was married I usually didn't call their name at all but when I had to it was by the first name. My ex called my Mom , Mom
 
When I'm talking to my MIL, I don't generally use her name. If I'm talking to my dh about her, I say "your mom". The most time if we're talking about grandmas with the kids, we generally call my MIL grandma Judy, my mom is Yaya Sissy and my grandma is Grandma Helen. (Strange thing...my mom and grandma both have the same first name of Helen. :confused3 )
Thankfully, I get along with my MIL and love her dearly. She didn't always think the most of me (she didn't tell me, but...), but that's only because she wanted "the best" for her son. Now that our lives have changed dramatically, she has more than accepted me and gives hugs when we visit and always tells me she loves me. :goodvibes
 
I call my MIL by her first name. Now that I think about it I am not sure what my SIL calls me. :teeth:
 


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