What do you call your MIL/FIL???

[mommaU4]

I try to avoid using any name at all. It's worked great for over 15 years, so I figure it's working for me!

I thought I was the only one who did stuff like that! For the first 10 years or so of our relationship I didn't call DH's parents anything! I would either wait until they were looking at me to start talking to them, or I'd touch them on the shoulder to get their attention, or just start talking. And the funny thing is we are very close, I get along great with them. We actually used to spend alot of time together so that made it even tougher!

Now I call them by their first names, but I would never call them mom or dad.

 

[escape]

Mr. & Mrs. XXX. They've never asked/told me to call them anything else. However, they have treated me very well. I can't complain.

 

[Beth76]

I'm in the "I don't" club. I hardly ever talk to my MIL. If I ever had to use her name I would use her first name though.

 

[JVL1018]

I call my FIL Dad and when my MIl was alive I called her Mom, but it didn't feel that comfortable.
My husband called my Mom, Mom and my dad by his first name.

 

[4greatboys]

I just call them by their first names.

 

[ChrisnSteph]

I call them by their first names.

 

[It's A Happy Day]

Since the kids were born I now call them Grandma and Grandpa.

If my kids are there I can get away with this otherwise it is by their 1st names. I always felt weird using "mom & dad" as they are not mine but my DH's.

Now That t I think about it I am not sure what my SIL calls me.

I think I'm still "my brothers wife" according to my BIL Even after 6 years I don't think I've graduated to be called "my sister in law" quite yet. Only the 2 boys growing up and I don't think he wants to let me in to that inner circle where only immediate family exists and by keeping me 1 step removed he feels more comfortable I guess. We get along but I just get that vibe sometimes I'm still considered an outsider. I would love to be introduced to someone by him just to see...

 

[Marseeya]

With MIL, I go back and forth between her first name and Mom, although I'm not comfortable calling her mom. Her DH, I call by his first name.

FIL asked me early on to call him by his first name, so that made it easy. He and MIL both are too young to be my parents, so it is kind of weird. Plus, FIL's wife wasn't all that much older than me.

My parents are old, so DH got right into calling them Mom & Dad.

 

[Brianne]

Whew. I thought I was the only weird one. Although it's nice to see that most of you who don't still have a good relationship with them. I can't say the same, but there's no tears shed on either end about that.

 

[CJK]

This issue contributed to a big blow up in my relationship with the in-laws. I now call them by their first names (but try not to use any name). We don't have a good relationship and I'm blamed for it.......but that's another story!

 

[punkin]

I only had one mother and she gave birth to me. I will not call my MIL mom. I use her first name. I do call the grandparents in law grandma and grandpa because they reat me like a graddaughter. My MIL treats me like a bad case of the measels (to be avoided at all costs), but she treats my DH the same way.

 

[goodeats]

I dated my DH for 6 years before we were engaged. For the first 3 years they were Mr. and Mrs. XXX (my preference), then they insisted I call them by their first names. I felt like I was reprimanded, but really they were right I knew them well enough! So now I call each by their first names.

I don't think I would ever call them Mom and Dad! Yikes!

 

[ObsessedwithWDW]

Oh if only I could put in type what I call my MIL. GRRR! Not a very friendly relationship as she is not warm and or fuzzy...she's actually quite miserable. Good thing my hubby agrees

 

[Keli]

I call them by their first names. Dh calls my parents by their first names too. BUT I would very much like my dd's future husband to call us mom and dad. I don't know whether that will happen or not but I'm hoping.

 

[experiment626mom]

I call her by her first name. I called her Mom one time and I got a look that would have killed most people.

 

[Rozzie]

by their first names

 

[OhMari]

I call my by their names,
Ruth and Jake. Actually Jake's real name is Gerald or Jerry, but my kids call him Grandpa Jake, and sometimes we call grandma, grandma Jake.

They have one daughter and she has her 5 year old call them Nanna and Pappa. I still can't figure that one out.

 

[doxdogy]

When MIL and FIL were alive I called them mom and dad, DH does the same. I wish my SIL would do the same.

 

[LoveWDW]

I didn't use any name at all. I refered to her in conversation as Mrs... But they never asked me to use Mom and Dad, which is what I would have prefered. When I married I hoped to be a member of their family, that his brother would be my brother and his parents my parents, but it didn't work out.

When my sons got married I suggested that the wives call us Mom and Dad, and they did.

Until they got married, though, I expected to be addressed as Mrs....

A friend of mine calls her husband's parents Mother and Father, and her own as Mom and Dad.

 

[tandrjohn]

First names.