What are your house rules for high school teens?

[aprilgail2]

Right now dd has a long time boyfriend whom she may date but they need to have parental supervision either by us or by bf's parents. They have been to the movies and the winter formal together alone but other than that if you they want to hang out together at home then there needs to be a parent home and present. Neither of them drive yet so that's one reason they haven't been out together much.

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And your daughter is 17? Geez at 17 mine will be away at college and I am sure she will be having all sorts of "alone time" with whomever she wants, I will have no say about that by that age.

 

[DawnM]

Maybe that is what she meant, not allowed alone in a bedroom?

I wouldn't mind them being somewhat alone, but no closed doors. Living room or den while I am in the kitchen or another room is fine. No bedrooms.

My boys aren't dating yet so it hasn't been an issue.

Dawn

Really? Is there some sort of religious reason why she can't be alone with her boyfriend at this age? Dd17 just got back from the shore with her boyfriend (prom weekend - a bunch of kids in a rented house). She went away with him (and friends) last year after prom, and has visited him twice at college (took a bus).

She's going off to college in the fall - then she's on her own.

Oh, and he's not allowed in her bedroom!

 

[kkmcan]

Really? Is there some sort of religious reason why she can't be alone with her boyfriend at this age? Dd17 just got back from the shore with her boyfriend (prom weekend - a bunch of kids in a rented house). She went away with him (and friends) last year after prom, and has visited him twice at college (took a bus).

She's going off to college in the fall - then she's on her own.

Oh, and he's not allowed in her bedroom!

I'm not sure what's so funny about that? Obviously we have different parenting rules for dating. My dd just finished junior year... she is still more than a year away from college. There is no religious reason other than we feel our kids still need supervision while on dates. So you allow your high school daughter to spend a weekend in a house with her boyfriend?

Sorry but my dd is still very much a youngish teen. She is no where near ready for that kind of freedom with her bf. This is her first relationship and she is our eldest child so she is the first to date in our family. We are just taking it slowly and letting her get to know this guy without jumping into overnights together. As far as I'm concerned that won't be happening for a long time. I won't be providing them time or space to take it to the next level. There is plenty of time for that later. And I'd like to point out that not all teens are alike in their maturity level.

 

[castleview]

My neighbor just sent her last child (son) off the college. Her rules for the first child were to let them know at all times where he was, ask before everything, interview the parents of whatever house they were staying over or going to a party.
Second child pretty much the same.
Third child lighter enforcement of rules.
Words to fourth child "just come back alive and don't get arrested or get a girl pregnant".

 

[The Mystery Machine]

My neighbor just sent her last child (son) off the college. Her rules for the first child were to let them know at all times where he was, ask before everything, interview the parents of whatever house they were staying over or going to a party.
Second child pretty much the same.
Third child lighter enforcement of rules.
Words to fourth child "just come back alive and don't get arrested or get a girl pregnant".

Yea...I am on the youngest and I am pretty much done. She will be 18 in a few months.

 

[powellrj]

I'm on #3 and I pretty much just want her home before morning! After her 2 brothers, she is a breath of fresh air! She has a job that she gets off from at 10 or 11 and many times they will all go out to a movie after work and I am OK with that. She just needs to let me know that she isn't coming right home so I don't worry.

As for the no cooking, we had to make that rule with #2. He worked several summers at our outdoor concert venue so it would be after midnight when he got home. There is nothing like the smell of jambalaya or gumbo at 3am to make you jump out of bed to make sure everything is all right. He would come home and make these really pungent meals. We told him he could fix food, but they had to be meals that didn't stink up the house in the middle of the night.

 

[Acklander]

Really? Is there some sort of religious reason why she can't be alone with her boyfriend at this age? Dd17 just got back from the shore with her boyfriend (prom weekend - a bunch of kids in a rented house). She went away with him (and friends) last year after prom, and has visited him twice at college (took a bus).

She's going off to college in the fall - then she's on her own.

Oh, and he's not allowed in her bedroom!

I remember, growing up, the rules for boys in the room were - door open and one foot on the floor at all times. Lol.