I know this is insane, but I try to look at every vacation I plan through five lenses, and an ideal vacation would have all five:
- Relaxation (room quality, resort amenities, adult beverages, poolside area)
- Recreation/Adventure (usually hiking but could also be things like ATV excursions or water activities)
- Family Time (tours, general family atmosphere, things for parents and kids to do together)
- Nature
- Culture/History
For us, Aulani is a perfect 10/10 for Relaxation, Recreation, and Family Time. Nature at Aulani (and Oahu more broadly) obviously isn't as strong as what you'd get on Kauai or the Big Island, but with Pearl Harbor, the Bishop Museum, and other attractions, I think Oahu has arguably the strongest Culture/History of the Hawaiian islands (less Hawaiian history than the Big Island, but more American history).
I also think Oahu isn't nearly as bad for nature lovers than it gets dinged for by people who only ever stay in Waikiki. I hate Honolulu and Waikiki too (except for Diamond Head, which we enjoy), but there are other excellent natural hikes and sights to see elsewhere on the island.