Wedding shower/engagement party question???

[DMickey28]

I am wondering if this is "ok" to do.

My parents are throwing my Fiance and I am party this weekend. It's on the invitation as an Engagement Party/ Wedding Shower... it's cocktails and apps (highend apps like filet mignon) at their beach club for three hours. Afterwards everyone is invited to my parents house for coffee and desert.

The reason for this: We are living in IN and our family and ALL our friends are in MA. We haven't seen any of them since we moved 8 months ago. We are getting married on St. Thomas with only 9 friends and family going. Invited a lot more, however, many can not attend which is fine.

My parents wanted to do a Caribbean themed beach party for us to celebrate the wedding with our friends and family. We are not having a reception because we can't get one done at home with in 8 months after the wedding, then it seems to far away.

Do you think this is "OK"???

Thanks

 

[stinkerbelle]

considering it's *this* weekend...it's gonna have to be, eh?

generally you shouldn't invited people to a 'shower' who aren't invited to a wedding...but since you are having a 'destination' wedding...I think it'll be ok...as long as people KNOW this and are not expecting and invitation in the mail.

congratulations and best of luck

 

[DMickey28]

I should clarify, everyone invited this weekend was invited to the wedding about 8 months ago.... many expressed honest interest in going, however we ended up with fewer!

 

[SunshineSis]

It's too late to do anything about it, but I think that it should have been presented as simply an engagement party. It may not sit well with people who are thinking this is just a solicitation for gifts.

 

[liznboys]

Sounds ok to me! If I were one of your invited guests, I wouldn't be able to go to your wedding, but it would be nice to be able to see you and give you your gift before it. Congrats!

 

[helenabear]

If I were invited to that under the same situation (destination wedding that I was invited to, but couldn't attend) I wouldn't have a problem with it. I think it would be quite fun! And since you can't do it after the wedding, this would work for me as well

 

[vald1977]

Just a thought but if you would like to do a reception in your hometown area -- why not plan for a one year anniversary party?

 

[DMickey28]

Ahh a one year anniversary party is great idea....

I am a little worried about a "solitation for gifts" thought, however I don't think that's a taken that way. The people that have been invited are very close friends and family members. Not random people that would think that. I am confident that no one took it that way.

I have no idea if people will bring gifts to something like this. I don't care either way. I haven't met many of DFIance's close friends from childhood and this is a great way to met them all. Also to celebrate with everyone....

We shall see... I think it will be a lot of fun!

 

[mickeyboat]

I am sooo jealous that you are having a destination wedding. I wish we had done that. We honeymooned on St. John and went back there for a day this past March when we were on our Disney Cruise. Don't miss it. It is amazing!

I think what you are doing is wonderful, especially since it is close friends and relatives. I am sure they are all grateful to have an opportunity to congratulate you and to celebrate with you. Have a great time.

Denae

 

[Aimeedyan]

I think since it's this weekend, there's not much you can do about it now...

But to put your mind to ease, I think it's fine - esp since they all were invited to the wedding beforehand. It's not liek you invited just those 9 people and are expecting all these people to bring gifts with no invite. I think it's PERFECTLY fine!

Don't stress! ENJOY yourself!