Whoa!!!!!
I think you misunderstood where I was coming from. You had issues with the girl and I was trying to give you a different perpective. It is very hard to plan something for someone when you don't like them and based only on what you posted about her and your reaction, I was trying to get you to see a different side of it because maybe you might feel better about the whole thing. I was not ridiculing you at all. I am sorry you felt that I was. That was not my intention.
Hey sorry to get so angry. I did feel like you were ridiculing my family because you used the words rude and familyzilla? But, my fuming response is stemming from frustration I have with her. I dont want this thread to take a turn like many others have. So, I apologize.
I think that your parents are letting your brother and his fiance take advantage of them and you are angry (maybe jealous) and that is coloring your opinion of her. Remember your brother is going along with this- don't put all the blame on the bride.
Do your parents feel taken advantage of or is that your feeling?
I have to say that I'm starting to feel a little sorry for the bride. I just haven't read where she has done anything worthy of the level of bad feelings that you seem to have.
My parents have been taken advantage of by her AND of course my brother as well for the past two years!!!! They have lived there without helping with any clean up and they have their dog in the house that my parents do not like at all. She has used regular detergent in my mom's brand new washer that says HE only!! ( I have to give a little explanation that will give you a little more insight on her) She has a little bottle of HE tide sitting in the laundry room, of course it has her name on it to be sure my mother doesnt use HER detergent!! My mom put her dog back in their bedroom the other day and found two large bottles of regular tide, one of which was half empty...Anyway, she has been filling her little bottle of "he" with the regular stuff so my mom thinks she is doing what she asked her to do
There are many, many other things like this that I will not get into because that isnt the topic I am interested in discussing.
And YES my parents feel taken advantage of and I am not jeleous of moochers. I just hate to see my parents being taken advantage of and my parents dont want to say anything so they dont get mad at them!!
I can see she's not popular with the family, and it sounds like maybe there's good reason. But I can hardly fault the girl for not wanting jeans at her wedding. It's great that your husband got to do what he wanted for his own wedding--that's how it should be and I'm sure he looked mighty fine.
But generally jeans aren't acceptable attire for a wedding--them's just the rules. She shouldn't make a federal case out of it--sometimes you just have to deal with family as they are. But if we're keeping score here, she's "right" and he's "wrong" on this one.
To make an analogy--what if one of your uncles was a nudist? He prefers to go without clothes and doesn't particularly enjoy getting dressed--in fact, he didn't even wear any clothes at his own wedding. Wouldn't you still expect him to respect social conventions and put on some clothes for the wedding? It's kind of the same thing with the jeans.
Good luck with the whole situation--hopefull you guys can learn to live with each other and keep the family peace!
I really dont care about the jean thing, I just dont see how him in wranglers would "ruin" her wedding thats all. But I think if he goes he will just wear his uniform since he is in the Navy.
She could also get her own house to study in. Just my opinion.
For my rehearsal we did a dinner at the club where our reception was at and my sister cooked all of the food. We decorated the hall while we had the informal rehearsal dinner.
Oh, yeah about the house!! I have asked my brother when they are gonna start looking for houses and he says, "oh sometime after our honey moon" WHAT? When you get married, you are or should be on your own. But hey, thats must be just me!
Thank you all for the discussion and please keep the ideas coming!!
Heather
but reassure your mom that regular soap won't break her washer. The HE soap is just a scam. If you use too much soap in my Kenmore He, it just tells you "suds".
