$$$ Wedding gift - what dollar amount?

[Krissalee]

What is the going rate for a cash/check wedding gift where you live? And where do you live? Does geographics play a part in the amount???

Just curious, as I am going to a wedding for the first time in over 5 years. Five years ago we were paying $200-250 as a gift from both DH and me. I really hope it isn't higher now. We live in NJ, close to the Jersey shore.

 

[wall*e2008]

We have been giving $300 this year. We are in the NE but not in NJ.

 

[aprilgail2]

What is the going rate for a cash/check wedding gift where you live? And where do you live? Does geographics play a part in the amount???

Just curious, as I am going to a wedding for the first time in over 5 years. Five years ago we were paying $200-250 as a gift from both DH and me. I really hope it isn't higher now. We live in NJ, close to the Jersey shore.

Thats about normal for this area- anywhere between 200-300- more if its family or a close friend

 

[java]

We did $500 for a cousin. NJ here.
Regular wedding of a distant connection- (like the child of a friend) I would do the $250.

 

[bballmom56]

Uh oh. We went to a wedding in May and we gave them $200. We are from rural way north jersey, but the wedding was in Passaic county and the reception in Essex county. Now I'm thinking that maybe I should have given them more.

 

[Disney Doll]

Southwestern CT here...Fairfield county.

Co-workers/friends for DH & I $200
Closer friends probably $250-$300
Family $500

 

[hentob]

$250 for "regular folk".

$500+ for family.

 

[jamimb]

Maybe I am just some dumb southern hillbilly but do you guys actually give that much money as wedding gifts. I can honestly say I have never heard of that. May I ask why so much?? I mean I hardly spend that much on my own kids for birthday and Christmas!

 

[C.Ann]

No matter where the wedding takes place the answer should always be the same.. Whatever you can afford..

 

[Krissalee]

Maybe I am just some dumb southern hillbilly but do you guys actually give that much money as wedding gifts. I can honestly say I have never heard of that. May I ask why so much?? I mean I hardly spend that much on my own kids for birthday and Christmas!

Your question is exactly why I asked if geographical location played a part.

Here, in NJ, we usually try to cover what the expenditure was per person as a wedding guest, to give the couple for their gift, and it can be pricey.




Thanks for all the responses. The bride is a very close co-worker, so I think I will do $250.

 

[winkers]

Maybe I only know poor folk...........but here the average is $25 to $50! No wonder it costs more to live in the east!

 

[hentob]

Thanks for all the responses. The bride is a very close co-worker, so I think I will do $250.

I think that should be good Have fun!

 

[CJMZ]

Southwestern CT here...Fairfield county.

Co-workers/friends for DH & I $200
Closer friends probably $250-$300
Family $500

Ditto

 

[hentob]

Maybe I only know poor folk...........but here the average is $25 to $50! No wonder it costs more to live in the east!

We are NOT rich, but I don't think we could give under $200 and feel comfortable.

I would love for $50 to be the norm though

 

[Tracy Savage]

WOW! If I ever have a second wedding, I'm going to invite all of you!!!! We don't do that much around here. How much do you pay per guest at a reception?

 

[java]

WOW! If I ever have a second wedding, I'm going to invite all of you!!!! We don't do that much around here. How much do you pay per guest at a reception?

open bar plus sit down meal around $180 a person at the places my sister is looking at on Long Island.

 

[aprilgail2]

WOW! If I ever have a second wedding, I'm going to invite all of you!!!! We don't do that much around here. How much do you pay per guest at a reception?

150-200 per person is not abnormal around here.

 

[Kathi OD]

I guess I'm cheap. $150 is the most I'll go and that's for family. Anyone else would get $50-75........and I live in Jersey!

Oh......I would probably give my own kids more than that, but no one else. I don't take into consideration the cost of the reception, as I give what I can afford. And if DH doesn't find a job soon, my gift limits will be dropping quite a bit!

 

[Tracy Savage]

open bar plus sit down meal around $180 a person at the places my sister is looking at on Long Island.

You all must drink ALOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[java]

You all must drink ALOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

who us?
But yes open bar is another regional thing. We were really surprised to go to a wedding with a cash bar! - my uncle went and got his card back and took some money out! he said it was to pay for his drinks.
It's just what is the norm in our area.