Wedding Food Issue

[kaytieeldr]

DH has a serious allergy to peanuts, tree nuts, peanut and nut oils, and sunflower seeds. Faced with a similar situation, particularly as a 'surprise', we would have left the reception. I am never going to pick humouring the bride and groom's food preferences over DH's health.

I'm confused. Without knowing or researching the individual ingredients in the prepared dishes, I'm not seeing any of your husband's trigger foods. Granted, there's a lot of soy on the menu - but you don't mention that

 

[Conservative Hippie]

I remembered a dinner we had at church a few months ago for the Bible class DH teaches. I asked what was needed, and the guy organizing told me to bring a dessert. He also mentioned to me that he had to buy beef ribs, which are more expensive, instead of pork ribs because one of the girls didn't eat pork (and I guess he had his heart set on ribs of some sort). I don't eat ribs at all (bones, you know), but it didn't concern me that there would be ribs, I figured I'd just eat something else. At the dinner, however, there was a spinach and strawberry salad, rice and almond pilaf, ribs, and dinner rolls. I don't eat nuts, either, so I got an extra serving of the salad and a couple of dinner rolls and lived with it. Then the girl who doesn't eat pork passive-aggressively asked me how the salad was, because she didn't get any because there was none left when she got her plate. Nice.

 

[FredinFL]

I assume most people knew the couple were vegans? Suck it up. If you aren't adventureous to try one vegetarian meal, then shame on the adults. When and why did we all become such picky eaters?

Apparently this bride and groom pulled a vegan shotgun on everyone at the wedding and just suddenly decided to have a vegan wedding, even tho two months earlier the bride was seen scoffing down some animal tenders at her wedding shower.

Cretans. You would think they would have sent out a card or something. "Dear Wedding Guests, went vegan, so at our wedding...NO MEAT FOR YOU!"

 

[disneyfav4ever]

Corn is not a vegetable, it is a grain.

Actually it's both, and apparently a fruit too.

From answers.com;
Corn seed is actually a vegetable, a grain, and a fruit.
Corn seed is a vegetable because it is harvested for eating. (Usually sweet corn when grain is harvested at the milk stage.)
Corn seed is a grain because it is a dry seed of a grass species. (Usually field corn when harvested after the grain is relatively dry.)
Corn seed is a fruit because that is the botanical definition.
More details follow.
Corn (Zea mays) is sometimes called a vegetable grain. Corn is a monocotyledon with only one seed leaf like grasses. The easily identified "grains" (or cereal plants/grasses) such as wheat, oats, and barley are also monocots. A grain is defined as the harvested dry seeds or fruit of a cereal grass, or the term can refer to the cereal grasses collectively.
Field corn that is harvested when the seeds are dry would thus be considered a grain. Sweet corn when harvested before maturity is usually considered a vegetable. It is grown to be eaten fresh as a tender vegetable rather than as a dried grain suitable for grinding into flour or meal. A vegetable is defined as a plant cultivated for an edible part or parts such as roots, stems, leaves, flowers, or seeds/fruit.
If you want to be very precise, all cereal grains could be called vegetables, but by convention we separate the cereal grains from the rest of the "vegetables" such as peas, lettuce, potatoes, cabbage, etc.

 

[disneyfav4ever]

I like how you put "something better" in quotes. Really? Fast food is 'better' than what was offered at the wedding? Interesting...

I think that poster put something better in quotes because she didn't think fast food was better. I could be wrong though.

 

[SaraJayne]

Seriously? No salads? No vegetables? You wouldn't even try any of the main courses or side dishes? Some of the one's I haven't eaten sound intriguing.

My post was before she listed specific veggies or foods.

I would eat three or four things from the later list posted. Green salad and a couple of the veggies, that's it.

Veggies are not a meal.

 

[disneyfav4ever]

My post was before she listed specific veggies or foods.

I would eat three or four things from the later list posted. Green salad and a couple of the veggies, that's it.

Veggies are not a meal.

I agree that veggies alone are not a meal, but there were tofu and other main dishes available.

 

[SaraJayne]

Let's see if I can remember ...

Veggie tray (remember, no dips - just the veggies) - cucumbers, carrot sticks, yellow squash, zucchini, snap peas, eggplant, celery sticks, green/red/yellow peppers, mushrooms, tomatoes.

Main courses: veggie burgers, tofu Italian sausage, grilled peppers and onions for both, green salad, 3 bean salad, german potato salad with tofu bacon, sauteed mushrooms and onions, grilled tofu shiskebobs (tofu, eggplant, zucchini, squash, peppers), veggie stew with chunks of tofu floating in it.

Sides: more raw veggies with tabouleh, hummus, baba ghanoush dips.

The bolded is what I would eat out of the list. That doesn't come anywhere close to being a meal.

 

[SaraJayne]

I agree that veggies alone are not a meal, but there were tofu and other main dishes available.

Tofu? No thanks. I'd rather go hungry.

 

[JessicaR]

The bolded is what I would eat out of the list. That doesn't come anywhere close to being a meal.

Thats more than my husband would eat. I agree, not a meal.

 

[tlbwriter]

I think that poster put something better in quotes because she didn't think fast food was better. I could be wrong though.

I put better in quotes because better is in the eye of the beholder. Those guests obviously considered fast food to be better than the wedding menu. Many others would disagree.

 

[JessicaR]

Tofu? No thanks. I'd rather go hungry.

Not to mention the people that can't have soy, I am one of them.

 

[tlbwriter]

Well, at this point, almost 80% of responses say the disgruntled guests should have sucked it up.

 

[luvsJack]

The bolded is what I would eat out of the list. That doesn't come anywhere close to being a meal.

Tofu? No thanks. I'd rather go hungry.

ITA! The potato salad, the stew and the shishkabobs would be more appealing with just veggies and NO tofu. YUCK!

 

[JessicaR]

Well, at this point, almost 80% of responses say the disgruntled guests should have sucked it up.

So? That doesnt change my opinion even if I am in the minority.

 

[disneyfav4ever]

ITA! The potato salad, the stew and the shishkabobs would be more appealing with just veggies and NO tofu. YUCK!

I agree, especially since the potato salad used fake meat tofu, and I don't see tofu being really appealing in the stew either. The kabobs would've probably been fine with it. But usually I like my tofu stir-fried or in some kind of curry, or as a recplacement for eggs.

 

[tlbwriter]

So? That doesnt change my opinion even if I am in the minority.

So, just thought it was interesting that the poll results were headed that way, even if the discussion doesn't seem to favor either side that strongly. No reason at all for you to take it personally. I assure you I had no idea what your opinion was when I posted that.

 

[SaraJayne]

ITA! The potato salad, the stew and the shishkabobs would be more appealing with just veggies and NO tofu. YUCK!

Even though it's one of my MIL's specialties, I don't eat German potato salad. I prefer her real potato salad.

 

[JessicaR]

So, just thought it was interesting that the poll results were headed that way, even if the discussion doesn't seem to favor either side that strongly. No reason at all for you to take it personally. I assure you I had no idea what your opinion was when I posted that.

I didn't take it personally. Just figured people can read the poll that is at the top of the thread when you open it.

 

[bettymae1121]

I wonder if a fare compromise would have been to have some dairy and egg offerings, rather than just vegan. For meat-eaters, having an option like a nice cheese and veggie quiche (for example) goes a long way. If ethical treatment of animals was a concern to the bride and groom, I'm sure they could have made certain the dairy and eggs were locally sourced from humane farmers.

If nothing else, they should have "warned" their guests that there were only going to be vegan offerings and that those who might have a problem with that should plan on getting something on their own either before or after the reception.

ETA: That said, guests should never complain unless food poisoning is involved.