Wedding Food Issue

[luvsJack]

Even though it's one of my MIL's specialties, I don't eat German potato salad. I prefer her real potato salad.

I am not sure I have ever eaten German potato salad actually! But the recipe sounds a bit "tangy" with the vinegar and the mustard seeds. (Bobby Flay's recipe).

I would probably prefer "regular" too!

 

[luvmy3]

Tofu? No thanks. I'd rather go hungry.

I'd rather duck out and get McDonald's

 

[tlbwriter]

I didn't take it personally. Just figured people can read the poll that is at the top of the thread when you open it.

Oh, so we're not supposed to actually discuss the poll results? Okay. Thanks for clarifying the rules.

I am not sure I have ever eaten German potato salad actually! But the recipe sounds a bit "tangy" with the vinegar and the mustard seeds. (Bobby Flay's recipe).

I would probably prefer "regular" too!

It is a bit tangy, but it's pretty good. My mom doesn't add mustard seeds when she makes it; I don't know if that's traditional or if it's a Bobby Flay thing.

 

[luvsJack]

Oh, so we're not supposed to actually discuss the poll results? Okay. Thanks for clarifying the rules.




It is a bit tangy, but it's pretty good. My mom doesn't add mustard seeds when she makes it; I don't know if that's traditional or if it's a Bobby Flay thing.

hmmm. I may have to pick a recipe and try it to see if I would like it. I knew it had bacon in it and that always sounded good to me. I only looked at a couple but the other one didn't have mustard seed, so it may be just a Bobby Flay thing.

 

[JessicaR]

Oh, so we're not supposed to actually discuss the poll results? Okay. Thanks for clarifying the rules.
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Do you like to put words in peoples mouths? In any event, you're welcome, anytime.

 

[tlbwriter]

hmmm. I may have to pick a recipe and try it to see if I would like it. I knew it had bacon in it and that always sounded good to me. I only looked at a couple but the other one didn't have mustard seed, so it may be just a Bobby Flay thing.

Bacon makes anything better. Sorry, vegans.

 

[Mermaid02]

No breads, cheese, or pastas. Salads (3-bean, german potato made with tofu "bacon"), hummus, baba ghanoush, tabouleh, lots of veggies and tofu dishes!

And no wedding cake!! That was most disturbing to me as I love wedding cake!!! Dessert was fruit salad.

There is nothing there for my family to eat- my husband might have tried the 3 bean salad but that is all.

Their wedding, their choice- but if people left to go get some food, they shouldn't be offended.

 

[LuluLovesDisney]

There have been several weddings, parties, etc. where we stopped for something to eat on the way home because the food was awful or they ran out. I think it is rude to leave the celebration right away over food. Leave early? Sure. If they feel strongly about animal ethics, why should they have to buy meat with their money? It would have been nice to include more non-soy options, though.

 

[PaulaSB12]

Do people really eat meat at every single meal? Or even every single day? Actually, the menu sounds delicious! I think it would've been nice to serve some simple items for the pickier eaters, like some salads.

My dd has celiac - I know how hard it can be to find something for her to eat at parties. A nice green salad is her go-to dish.

Yes people do eat meat with every meal (on occasion I have porridge but with cream but prefer boiled eggs or bacon and eggs. As for the happy couple from what the op was saying the bride was eating meat 2 months before the wedding how would anyone know to expect vegan food. Would I have nipped out for a burger yes because what was on the menu was gross.

 

[FireDancer]

Actually it's both, and apparently a fruit too.

From answers.com;
Corn seed is actually a vegetable, a grain, and a fruit.
Corn seed is a vegetable because it is harvested for eating. (Usually sweet corn when grain is harvested at the milk stage.)
Corn seed is a grain because it is a dry seed of a grass species. (Usually field corn when harvested after the grain is relatively dry.)
Corn seed is a fruit because that is the botanical definition.
More details follow.
Corn (Zea mays) is sometimes called a vegetable grain. Corn is a monocotyledon with only one seed leaf like grasses. The easily identified "grains" (or cereal plants/grasses) such as wheat, oats, and barley are also monocots. A grain is defined as the harvested dry seeds or fruit of a cereal grass, or the term can refer to the cereal grasses collectively.
Field corn that is harvested when the seeds are dry would thus be considered a grain. Sweet corn when harvested before maturity is usually considered a vegetable. It is grown to be eaten fresh as a tender vegetable rather than as a dried grain suitable for grinding into flour or meal. A vegetable is defined as a plant cultivated for an edible part or parts such as roots, stems, leaves, flowers, or seeds/fruit.
If you want to be very precise, all cereal grains could be called vegetables, but by convention we separate the cereal grains from the rest of the "vegetables" such as peas, lettuce, potatoes, cabbage, etc.

I know people consider it a vegetable or a fruit but botanically speaking it is a grain and I really don't consider it a vegetable. Most of the nutrition sites or nutritionists I know also don't consider it a vegetable. The most important vegetables from a dietary perspective are leafy greens so if I were to limit myself to just one or two vegetables I'd pick one of those.

That isn't to say corn can't be part of a healthy diet but it sure as heck shouldn't be the only "vegetable" you eat considering it is at best barely one.

JMO but nutrition is one of the things I follow very closely and do a lot of reading and research about.

 

[luvmy3]

There have been several weddings, parties, etc. where we stopped for something to eat on the way home because the food was awful or they ran out. I think it is rude to leave the celebration over food. If they feel strongly about animal ethics, why should they have to buy meat with their money? It would have been nice to include more non-soy options, though.

In this particular case it wasn't about animal ethics. I don't think its rude to leave for food, is there some rule saying you have to stay to the end? You can leave for whatever reason and whenever you want.

 

[JessicaR]

I know people consider it a vegetable or a fruit but botanically speaking it is a grain and I really don't consider it a vegetable. Most of the nutrition sites or nutritionists I know also don't consider it a vegetable. The most important vegetables from a dietary perspective are leafy greens so if I were to limit myself to just one or two vegetables I'd pick one of those.

That isn't to say corn can't be part of a healthy diet but it sure as heck shouldn't be the only "vegetable" you eat considering it is at best barely one.

JMO but nutrition is one of the things I follow very closely and do a lot of reading and research about.

Isn't corn one of the only foods that isn't digested? Has no nutritional value? I do incorporate corn into our meals occasionally but I don't consider it nutritious.

 

[maxiesmom]

To me it is just the same as inviting people over to your house for a meal, and then unexpectedly serving all vegan food. I thought it common that when you hosted any kind of get together you keep your guest's tastes in mind too. Not saying they couldn't have had mostly vegan food and then a couple of non vegan selections, but it was a bit rude to go all out and have just all vegan. Especially if the guests were unaware that that is what would be served.

Just like I wouldn't go and serve all deer meet to people I know wouldn't expect it, and would probably not like it. A courteous host takes their guest's likes into consideration.

 

[Skywalker]

I have been to a wedding where the food was so bad a few of the guys went out and brought back some pizza - people were ducking out and eating it in the parking lot, lol.

I think the bride and groom are selfish to think only of their tastes when feeding their guests.

Every single other thing about the day is all about them and their tastes and their colours etc etc...when you are hosting a gathering you should take others into account.

People are attending your wedding, getting babysitters, buying you gifts, this should be a pleasant thank you for the guests. Even if you are vegan you can offer wider choices - its not like you are making it, handling it, or eating it yourself.

Bride and groom should suck it up and be proper hosts.

 

[JessicaR]

I have been to a wedding where the food was so bad a few of the guys went out and brought back some pizza - people were ducking out and eating it in the parking lot, lol.

I think the bride and groom are selfish to think only of their tastes when feeding their guests.

Every single other thing about the day is all about them and their tastes and their colours etc etc...when you are hosting a gathering you should take others into account.

People are attending your wedding, getting babysitters, buying you gifts, this should be a pleasant thank you for the guests. Even if you are vegan you can offer wider choices - its not like you are making it, handling it, or eating it yourself.

Bride and groom should suck it up and be proper hosts.

I agree. Why not?

 

[FireDancer]

Isn't corn one of the only foods that isn't digested? Has no nutritional value? I do incorporate corn into our meals occasionally but I don't consider it nutritious.

Yes and no. The full kernels are slow to digest and since our digestive system is shorter then most animals kernels that aren't chewed sufficiently don't have enough time to break down fully.

I look at corn the same as you, something that isn't terrible but not something I eat often and while not the worst thing for you I wouldn't consider it a staple of nutrition. The number of people who "just don't eat vegetables" is one of the many issues we have that is causing this country to be so overweight. We, as a group, have terrible diets and don't exercise enough. People love to attack me here for saying so but that doesn't change the fact that the current generation of adults is only eclipsed by the current generation of kids when it comes to obesity.

 

[Conservative Hippie]

That isn't to say corn can't be part of a healthy diet but it sure as heck shouldn't be the only "vegetable" you eat considering it is at best barely one.

JMO but nutrition is one of the things I follow very closely and do a lot of reading and research about.

Thanks, now I need corn chips and salsa.

To me it is just the same as inviting people over to your house for a meal, and then unexpectedly serving all vegan food. I thought it common that when you hosted any kind of get together you keep your guest's tastes in mind too. Not saying they couldn't have had mostly vegan food and then a couple of non vegan selections, but it was a bit rude to go all out and have just all vegan. Especially if the guests were unaware that that is what would be served.

Just like I wouldn't go and serve all deer meet to people I know wouldn't expect it, and would probably not like it. A courteous host takes their guest's likes into consideration.

But being invited to a wedding is not the same as inviting people for a meal. At a meal, the meal is the important part. At a wedding, the wedding is the important part, and the "meal," or any food served at all, is just a bonus.

 

[jrmasm]

To me it is just the same as inviting people over to your house for a meal, and then unexpectedly serving all vegan food. I thought it common that when you hosted any kind of get together you keep your guest's tastes in mind too. Not saying they couldn't have had mostly vegan food and then a couple of non vegan selections, but it was a bit rude to go all out and have just all vegan. Especially if the guests were unaware that that is what would be served.

Just like I wouldn't go and serve all deer meet to people I know wouldn't expect it, and would probably not like it. A courteous host takes their guest's likes into consideration.

Me too. Not down to the tiniest preference of every guest but a menu that should appeal to majority of guests.

And if the reception takes place during a meal time and the food isn't edible, I really don't see anything all that shocking about people sneaking out.

 

[Carnie]

You are aware that fish is meat, correct? It's more than a semantic point, as meat is the edible flesh of an animal, so if you didn't know this, you should be aware.

A pescetarian is a vegetarian THAT EATS FISH.

 

[Mermaid02]

Thanks, now I need corn chips and salsa.



But being invited to a wedding is not the same as inviting people for a meal. At a meal, the meal is the important part. At a wedding, the wedding is the important part, and the "meal," or any food served at all, is just a bonus.[/QUOTE]

Yes, the wedding is the important part but the reception is kind of a "thank you for coming to our wedding" for the guests- at least that is how I always thought of it.