We lost the baby...

[Blondy876]

Thank you all so much for your prayers and support. I had a second ultrasound today which confirmed that I had miscarried, but I think in my heart I already knew it. We leave for disney in 21 days and I don't know if I even want to go.

I had to explain to my 4 year old dd that this baby wouldn't be coming. I told her that the baby got sick so God took it back to heaven and when it gets all better God will probably send it back. She cried and cried. I think it was worse telling her than it was hearing the news myself.

Again thank you all for your support, it really helps.

Jenn

 

[poohbears5]

I am sorry

 

[minniepumpernickel]

Thats so sad....so very sorry......

 

[ckmommy]

(((((HUGS)))) to you Jenn! So sorry about your loss! I can not even begin to imagine how tough this must be on you and your family! God works in mysterious ways.....I hope that YOU are doing OK and can go to Disney---may pixie dust fall on you!!!

 

[Kimberle]

I'm very sorry.

I hope you can find a good suport group of other women who have miscarried. It can be so helpful to talk with other's who have BTDT.

Your little angle will always live in your heart.

 

[MickeysMommy]

Oh Jenn, I am so sorry. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Please go to Disney and let the magic warm your hearts. It's the greatest place on earth and you need a little magic now. Please know that everything happens for a reason and you will be ok! God Bless!

 

[FOJMO]

Jenn,

I am so very sorry about your loss. I have never been pregnant (we adopted), but I can only imagine the pain you are feeling at losing someone who was already a part of you and your family.

I feel especially bad for your DD, as she can really not compehend what happened to her little brother or sister (not that it's comprehensible for ANYONE, young or old).

I would encourage you to keep your trip to WDW. It will be an outlet for your whole family, especially your DD. It's hard for us to understand God's plan, but I will offer prayers for you and all of your family for understanding and acceptance and that you will all have each other to rely on. We DISers are also here for you, too. We care... VAL

 

[ead79]

Jenn, I am so sorry that you lost the baby. My prayers are with you.

 

[zakatak]

I am so very sorry for your loss.

 

[Tiggeroo]

I'm so so sorry. If you are physically able you should really try to go to Disney. It will be a time you can spend with your family.

 

[sha_lyn]

A Mormon friend told me years ago that some spirits are so perfect that they only need a short time here on earth before they can become angels. I don't know if that will help you or not, but it did help me to put some meaning to losing the baby I lost many years ago.

 

[CourtasanSatine]

and some major Pd

 

[CamColt]

Im so sorry to hear this news. You are in my thoughts & prayers.

 

[DisneyCP2002]

So Sorry to hear of your loss I would keep the trip to WDW if at all possible. I took a trip after losing a loved one and it really helped getting away from things and just relaxing. I would imagine your DD would love it to just get away as well.

 

[robinb]

{{Hugs}}

I am so sorry for your loss .

 

[GEM]

Just wanted to post as someone who's been there - although we didn't have another child to explain it too. I'm sure that makes it even harder. We lost our first baby a year ago in August. What really helped me was to talk to other women who had been through the same experience. It seemed like people who hadn't been there really didn't understand. They saw it as more of a minor medical problem (like the flu or something) and I saw it as the loss of a very real (and already much loved) baby. Even though I got pregnant again just two months later and we now have a baby boy that I absolutely adore, I still cry when I think about that other baby, the one I always think of as our first. You will all be in my thoughts. Please PM me if you need to talk.

 

[Dan Murphy]

So very sorry to hear of your loss, Jenn. My best wishes are with you guys, and your little 4 year old too. A tough time for sure.

I know some DIS'ers who have also lost their babies in the recent months will most likely be adding a thought or two here. Try and touch base with them in PM or email, it can really help when you are hurting to talk with others in the same way.

Again, so very sorry for your hurt.


Dan

 

[Minnesota!]

I am so, so so so so so so so so so so sorry for your loss. I have to say, I know what you are feeling. I have had 5 miscarriages since 02/02. The most recent being August 24 at 9 weeks. It is just such an awful thing. Finding out you are pg. is the highest high, then losing the baby is the lowest low. I know that you feel you can't function right now, but I encourage you with all my might - GO TO DISNEY! I did. I also went to Cincinatti for a long weekend, and then after this last one, I went to Yankee Candle and bought LOTS of stuff. You need to do right now whatever makes you happy. Tomorrow will be 2 months since I m/c my baby, and it still sucks. I still cringe when I see pg women. I have a friend that was due just 6 days before me, and to hear her talk about her pregnancy now (I would be 17 weeks today), it hurts. But, you know what, your angel is serving a higher purpose now. That doesn't help much, I know, but maybe will a little? I don't know what to say. The pain and sick feeling of loss is still so raw for you, I am sure nothing is consoling your emotions. If you ever want to talk, or just vent, PM me, or my email is in my profile. Take care of you. And go on to Disney. You will be glad you did. Maybe do something special there in honor of your baby. Or something at home. Plant a tree, light a candle, etc. Just take it easy. ((((hugs))) to you and your family. ANd HUGE hugs to your daughter and helping her understand.

PS - I wanted to add, you should really really feel ok with talking to me, or anyone else on this board that has been through a m/c. With this last one, there was a very caring person on this board that reached out to me, and told me what to expect emotionally and physically, and it really helped me go through all the processes. Please don't feel awkward reaching out to us strangers, we are here for you!

 

[LadyTrampScamp&Angel]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

 

[jacksonsmom]

I am so sorry
Losing a much loved baby at any time during a pregnancy is a hard blow.
I lost my first baby 8/98. It was so heartbreaking because we had been undergoing infertility treatment. I was so lost for a while, not really wanted to do anything "fun"

Of course you HAVE to go on. And I did go on to get pregnant again, shocked that it only took 3 months!

Anyway, ry to do something to remember your little one. We named our baby, we gave it a unisex name. In the beginning I would look up at the stars in the night sky & talk to my baby. Tell her (yes, I believe it was a girl) how much I miss her growing inside & how much I will miss holding her.

If you run into people that say things that hurt, something was probably wrong with it, luckily you didn't know it yet, etc, don't listen to them. They usually say those things because they don't know what it is like to lose a baby at ANY age.
Just grieve how you NEED to grieve.

I would also try to go to Disney. It might be a little sad at times, but seeing your other DD having fun I think would make you smile.

I am here if you need to talk
Take care