At MK Winnie the Pooh, Jungle Cruise, Peoplemover, Speedway, Dumbo, Mickeys philharmagic, tiki room, Peter Pan maybe (this is elevated), laugh floor
At AK Safari, And the shows here
At Epcot Nemo, living with the land, figment, spaceship earth, Ellen's energy adventure (Dinos ok?), Mexico boat ride
HS do the shows, TSM maybe, muppet vision
Hopefully that will give you a fair amount to do, maybe she will warm up to stuff once you get there!
This looks like a great starter list for you.
At MK I would add the people mover (TTA), its fun for everybody and pretty mild thrill wise, but gives a view inside space mountain which kids that might not want to brave the coaster can at least then see. It does also give a glimpse into Buzz lightyear though, if those toy aliens are a problem. if they are not a problem also do that ride, the kids will love it (definitely no chest popping going on).
Also at MK don't forget the train around the park is a ride too.