WBRepo-Ship of Thieves-Remember the Magic Pt 8

[EllaEnchanted]

Oh, you are going to have to have a very special Christmas Deb. I think you are really going to enjoy it.


You're probably right, but now I have so much to do when I wasn't going to do much. Mostly because we'll be out of town and won't get back until just a few days before Christmas.


Question, can we leave Tom at home while we're away. His uncle, the kid, will be here every night after work. So Tom will only be home alone after school if he's not working. Tom is 17 years old. He'll turn 18 in April 09.

Otherwise we would need to take him with us....which we can do, but then he would miss school and it's important for him to get back into it and not miss any days. Also, he may be working by then.

I think we should see if he's in the school program for votech and whether or not he has a job. As long as he's not idle, he should be fine. It's only a couple of hours from after school until his uncle gets home from work.

 

[HollyTyler]

Apparently his way of dealing with this stress is denial. Give him time to calm down again and maybe he will see the light and listen to the pros.

Thanks, I needed that reminder. He usually does come around. It gets so frustrating when he seems to have forgotten all we've been through so far. Sort of like he's giving up and thinking Tyler can just knock it off or something.

 

[EllaEnchanted]

Thanks, I needed that reminder. He usually does come around. It gets so frustrating when he seems to have forgotten all we've been through so far. Sort of like he's giving up and thinking Tyler can just knock it off or something.

That's just wishful thinking on his part....he's unable to see the reality while he's highly stressed. When he calms down and talks to the doctors and the school he gets rational and deals with it better.


It's just as hard on you and on him as it is on Tyler. You both have to take care of yourselves for having such a great amount of stress to deal with. Kind of like Ian everyday. Find a way to release it. Take a bath, read a book, do a workout or a walk. The healthier you both are, the more you can best be there for Tyler.

 

[cquick]

So Tyler's dad had to pick him up from school at 9:30 yesterday and he's furious, saying how the school is doing nothing to help Tyler, blah, blah, blah. But actually, the school has bent over backwards doing everything they possibly can to keep Tyler there. Reality is they don't have the training or capabilities to deal with his needs, so I'm going to agree to the school down the road that has the classroom for kids like him. His dad will disagree, so I'll have a huge stressful battle over that. He says it's not necessary to do this, so he wants to just pull Tyler out and put him in a completely different school district because he seems to think Tyler's doing these things on purpose!


I swear, that man's going to give me a heart attack.

Dear Holly, You know you are doing everything you can with Tyler's welfare in mind! Please don't let his dad influence you in this way. You know what Tyler needs, and if he needs a contained classroom right now, then send him there. I am sure your social worker would agree with you! After all, perhaps Tyler just needs a year or so with very close supervision at school and his counseling out of school, and things might just turn around for him.......he might me under more stress than you know at his present school. You and Tyler both need a little breathing space......maybe the new classroom might give you that change of scenery for that.

you are doing a wonderful job.....just take each day as it comes, and try to give yourself a break......you are doing what you can.
Sometimes life isn't what we think it should be, just take it as it is.......

love to you and Tyler, Connie

 

[cquick]

Anyone put up Xmas tree yet??

for thankgiving? Not me yet I will put it up on 1 Dec

Scottishwee35

We will put up our decorations next week, It's traditional to do it the weekend after Thanksgiving, so it will be the 28,29,30 of November. Although Thanksgiving is really a week late this year!

 

[cquick]

On the more amusing side, my neurologist has changed my medication for the whole stale cigarette thing I've got going. One of the possible side effects is increased irritability and aggressiveness.

One a scale of 1 to 10, I'm already probably a 10 for both. I mentioned the side effects at a meeting and you should have seen the look of terror that came over people, trying to imagine how I could possibly become more irritable and aggressive than I already am.

I have been described as everything from a bully to a small creature that looks cuddly but is really vicious and nasty.

I keep telling people that I'm really easygoing and laid back when I'm not at work, but nobody believes me.

Still, when I was asked to "get my arms around" the failing project from hell, we were going to miss our December 1st deadline by about 3 months. Now we are on track to deliver on December 1st and we only had to put in about 4 hours of weekend work just once to accomplish it.

I suppose bullies and small nasty creatures have their place.

I am so happy that the weekend is here.

I am so sorry you are so stressed, Ian. I keep thinking my life is stressful, what with taking care of Patrick and all. Then I read some of my Dis-friends posts, and I realize that I must have things pretty easy compared to all of you........it makes me feel much more in control! THANKS!!!!!!

love and Happy Thanksgiving from the Quicks

 

[cquick]

We must be related cause she is in my family too

HEY! that's great! I can use more family members!!!!!!

 

[scottishwee35]

hello everybody

Just finish working tonight and have a glass of wine now and see that it is quiet here - where is everybody??

Scottishwee35

 

[scottishwee35]

OH god I am around 3,300 now and Marilyn you over 10,000 wow



not enough blether mmmm

anyway Ian put up tv tonight and look lovely and big, feeling like watch cinema with popcorns

Scottishwee35

 

[scottishwee35]

I am watching the news and seem bad as lots of people lost their home as 58 percent up repossesions their house.

very scarey now

Honda showshop had been shut down and lots of people angry *** they paid deposit for new car

Scottishwee35

 

[scottishwee35]

OH well I must be talking myself tonight

I try to reach to 10,000

also try to get the tag too, still nothing oh well

one day

Scottishwee35

 

[Tink rules]

Thank you, look forward to seeing you in Dover or sooner.

Sounds good....Maybe... I'll let you know... Mom wants to see St. Petersburg...






Thank you too!



Ditto too!


Thank you too Shannon, I hope someone will keep me informed of the DL Reunion so I can pop in to see everyone.


Oh... we'll let you know what they decide...


Less stress??? Try two boys who want a gift every night and try making potato pancakes for a while!

I'll make your potato pancakes if you make my Xmas cookies... and try 5 nieces and nephews & 8 gifts all on one night... plus sugar... makes for an interesting night...





I had the RNY (gastric bypass) and my ex-gf had the lapband. Both are good depending on what your insurance will cover. PM me if you would like more details or have specific questions.

Ok, way to late for me to still be posting again and trying to catch up on 30 pages in 2 days. I am off to see "Wicked" again this Sunday (b-day present for a friend) and taking the boys to the woods for T-day with the rest of the family.

Please keep me in the loop when a DL reunion is actually planned so we can join everyone.

Have a great T-Day and don't get stuffed worse than the bird!

See Steve... I told you everyone missed you... and the boys of course...

No Green Bean Casserole ... Ever!

Yes Joan....

So right Marilyn, but I wish I had his bank account....hahaha!

Deb... you keep contributing to his bank account

Well Tom is coming up in two weeks to live here. He's hitching a ride with the kid. The kid is going on a RC cruise with his mom and her side of the family. Before they take off, they're stopping at Sandi's and doing Turkey Day all together. The kid and his mom are driving back after the cruise and Tom will come up here with them. That worked out very well, timing wise.

I'm about 3/4 of the way finished with all the forms for registering him into school again. I'll get that done today.

I talked to Joe yesterday and he said that as they were pulling out of the driveway last year to go to FL, Tom said he was going to come back and live with us and get back into his desel program at school and marry his girlfriend, Deanna. Joe said that's all he wanted and he's been talking about getting back up here since they left. I think he'll do fine because he'll like what he's doing when he gets here. He'll be with his girlfriend again and us too. Plus we'll give him lots of attention and love and we we'll treat him fairly. That's got to count for something.

Just want to say a special thanks to Kathe, Connie and Michelle for being so supportive and understanding about Tom coming here. Your words of encouragement really did help. Thank you so much for caring.

Deb... I think what you are doing is great... he's comfortable there and he will do well...

Ian - it is a pain when you have to get work done like that, but I also find that when the day is over and you get it back on schedule like that it is pretty pleasing to oneself. I do like the euphoria you feel "when a plan comes together".

Deb - please enjoy your birthday week. My father firmly believes in the Alice in Wonderland song "Very merry un-birthday" concept, so I'm sure celebrating for a whole week - oh heck a whole month - isn't too bad.

Michelle - this could be almost as bad. I have family arriving on Dec 21 for Xmas and we still have to rip apart the living room and put down new laminate flooring - after we finish the kitchen. I think it's going to be a busy weekend and of course this weekend Shaelyn is having her birthday party with her friends (who wants to go skating with 12 6-7 yr olds?). And of course this weekend is the big party here in Canada - It's Grey Cup weekend (that's our version of the superbowl). We usually go but with the kitchen this year that ended that idea pretty quick.

I see Shannon has been slacking with posting pics of the kitchen so here is the latest incarnation for those that are interested:

Should be ready to take the new stove out of it's cardboard home today and put it into place. Going to put all the doors on the cabinets today as well and perhaps get ready to install the OTR microwave.

Hey... all you need is a sink... stove... countertop... when's company coming???? Glad you don't have to do Thanksgiving???

It is the notion of green bean casserole and the connotations of it. It would go well with plastic slip covers, shag carpeting and a painting on black velvet of dogs playing poker.

We never had the slip covers (just naugahyde) and I don't know what the old painting was... but the dogs weren't winning...

 

[Tink rules]

Hey Ken... what color curtains have you picked out...

 

[iankh]

Hurrah, the weekend is here.

Today turned out to be an extremely calm and quiet day. The project from hell is near complete! We had our final software delivery (otherwise known as the golden build) and everything passed!

The amazing thing is that in theory, we are now ready to go to production ... 1 week ahead of schedule!

It also means that people can take the vacation days next week that they had planned, and everyone can have a relaxing week instead of the usual stress.

When I got back to work after the wedding (it was around September 8th) my boss asked me to "get my arms around" the project.

At that point, the team thought it would be a miracle if we could deliver by the end of February which would be 2 months late.

So, for us to be ready a week ahead of schedule is remarkable. A testament to the team.

Am I a bully or what? I really did bully people on this one, most of the time having folks PO's and upset with me. But, it paid off.

On another note, I was feeling awful today. Not sure if I have something flu-like or whether these are side effects from the new meds my neurologist put me on.

My muscles ached today, and my joints hurt. I have not eaten anything since the packet of oatmeal I had at 5:30 AM.

I also had a headache today. I don't get headaches. I've only had one in my life which believe it or not was in about 1968, so I don't know what's up.

I called the neurologist's office. A nurse phoned me back and told me to stay on the meds. The neurologist phoned the time I left my desk. He then called the house, and told Sukie he would call me in the morning.

I probably won't be home in the morning, because we have to go to the green grocer, the supermarket, and pick up the heritage turkey I reserved at a farmers market.

I'll have to see how I feel tomorrow.

I was going to go out tonight and try to get some of the shopping done this evening, but have instead decided to stay in and rest.

 

[Tigger1221]

Deb- I think it is great what you are doing for Tom. It will change your way of living but he will be very grateful to you forever.

Holly- I hope things get better with Tyler. My mom's neighbor (the one that went with us last weekend) son has what Tyler has. He is having a tough time right now too. THey said the most helpful thing for him has been Occupational Therapy since it taought her how to deal with him too. He also has tutors that the school pays for, maybe you could look into something like that to help him stay caught up.

Hi to everyone else! It has been a rough week and I am glad its over.

 

[HollyTyler]

Not much time to keep up with all the threads. We are in OR now for this week, will be in WA next week for Thanksgiving and then head south. We plan at least 2 weeks in CA, one heading south and one at RV park by DL. Maybe 10 days at the Anaheim one. We will see. Then we will head to San Diego for a few days and then east. Not sure where we will be Christmas, but we do have a small artificial tree in the MH that DrHug bought last year, so where we are is where Christmas will be. We are anxious to get on the road, but must do a bit of family first. Thanksgiving will be at our neice and nephew's this year. We handed the Thanksgiving torch to them and they are very excited to continue the tradition.

Holly, we continue to keep Tyler in our prayers.

Thanks Angie, I welcome all prayers. He's on lots of peoples' prayer lists and I'm grateful for each and every one. He deserves to get things straightened out.

And how exciting all your traveling sounds! I'm so happy for you and Dr. Hug with your new freedome.

 

[MouseFaninQueue]

Hey... all you need is a sink... stove... countertop... when's company coming???? Glad you don't have to do Thanksgiving???

This was our kitchen a few days AFTER our Thanksgiving. This looks good compared to what it was on Thanksgiving!

Hanging the microwave tonight but it is frustrating the hell out of me so taking a break from it. Gotta walk away some times - just like Kenny Rogers sang. "Know when to walk away, know when to run!" And here I thought it was a song about gambling, not kitchen renos!

 

[MouseFaninQueue]

Hey Ken... what color curtains have you picked out...

I used to like you ... Besides, like I am going to have any say in the curtains....

 

[HollyTyler]

Dear Holly, You know you are doing everything you can with Tyler's welfare in mind! Please don't let his dad influence you in this way. You know what Tyler needs, and if he needs a contained classroom right now, then send him there. I am sure your social worker would agree with you! After all, perhaps Tyler just needs a year or so with very close supervision at school and his counseling out of school, and things might just turn around for him.......he might me under more stress than you know at his present school. You and Tyler both need a little breathing space......maybe the new classroom might give you that change of scenery for that.

you are doing a wonderful job.....just take each day as it comes, and try to give yourself a break......you are doing what you can.
Sometimes life isn't what we think it should be, just take it as it is.......

love to you and Tyler, Connie

Thanks Connie. I know that's what Tyler needs. At first I was against it, then I was warming to the idea but still hesitant, then Gaylean's comments really turned me in the right direction. The school social worker called me at work this afternoon to basically break the news to me that they can no longer support him at his current school and that he needs to be moved. She told me they can't do so unless I sign papers, which of course I'll do, but she was just calling to strongly suggest that we agree. She was dreading making the phone calls to me and his dad today and was so relieved when I told her I'd already made up my mind to agree.

I warned her about the opposition she'll get from his dad and she told me she already knows. She could tell from his body language when she mentioned it to him yesterday when he picked up Tyler. I asked her if we can do this on just my signature alone or if they need his signature too, and she's going to find out the answer for me, but she's pretty sure they can do it on just my signature. I'll be going against our custody order by doing that, but I don't care at this point.

His dad's solution is to pull him out and start him in a new school district. That's so insane because then we'd have to go through the whole process all over again. I absolutely refuse. I suspect he might try to do that without my consent just like I'm going to sign to have Tyler switched in his current district. This is going to be an ugly mess, but I'm standing my ground.

 

[tink1963]

Hi gang,

We wanted to share a slideshow of the Tea Fire. It started last Thur and burned 231 home.

http://picasaweb.google.com/steveoinsb/TeaFireNov13th#slideshow