WBRepo-Ship of Thieves-Remember the Magic Pt 20

[JLSE50]

Wow, thanks Jan! Definitely needed that tonight.

Busy day?




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[HollyTyler]

How did I miss this? You are now doing day care? Are you an Energizer Bunny now?

I pick up 2 of Tyler's friends from school when I pick him up and bring them home with me until their mom gets out of work so they get a break every other week from the horrible and unsafe environment of the childcare at school. I hate trying to find something to do that they all want to do, so it's not easy, but I hated the idea of them being stuck in that awful place, so I offered. The kids have known me since one was 2 and one was 3, so they know to listen to me and know me well, so it works out.

 

[HollyTyler]

When I spoke to the Nurse Practitioner she told me to stop the med. she said that beta-blockers can cause depression and fatigue and diuretics can cause electrolyte imbalance. That reminded me of the heat stroke I got on the WBPC cruise and I told her about it. She said it sounds like I am very sensitive to medications. She also said I should be seeing lower and more consistent blood pressure numbers.

So I will get a blood draw tomorrow to check electrolytes, go on the cruise with an eye toward increasing activity and decreasing carbs and when I get home we will reasses.

Thanks for letting me vent and for the info Dr Hug!!


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[HollyTyler]

Busy day?




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No....well, yeah, but that's not the problem. The source of the misery is homework. Any day Tyler has homework is a horribly physical, violent, loud, stressful, angry day. Now that he's only about 60 pounds lighter than me and only about 4 inches shorter than me, it's very difficult to make him stay in his bedroom or go to bed, or do anything really. What do you do when a kid that big tells you no? I'm so tired of anger management issues but he requires constant counselling in that regard. He knows all the right answers on what to do and what not to do when frustrated and getting angry, but it is taking YEARS of practice. I'm physically wearing out. Tonight he was trying to punch through his bedroom window because I was making him stay in his room because it was past bedtime. He's only been here one day and I want him to go back to his dad's. I hate this parenting job and will NEVER have any more kids. Well, I'm too old to start over with a baby anyway, but even if I were a few years younger, I wouldn't do this again. Not enjoying it and hate feeling guilty about thinking that way. Then I wind up sad because I took away his bedtime book reading privilege (we read together in his bed every night, and it's something I enjoy too), but he ate up all that time with the raging and it was way past bedtime when he finally settled down, way too late to do that anyway.

I can no longer sit in my car to cool down like I used to because he now locks me out (I take my keys with me but he's figured out to lock the screen door which you can't unlock from the outside).

One of these days he is going to punch me and run out the door and down the road in anger and I won't be able to physically get him back into the house, he's now stronger than me.

No, this is not a change or increase in anything, just his same frustration over academics that he's always had, same level of defiance over it, it just gets harder to deal with as he gets bigger and physically able to overpower me.

I hate this mom job. Might be a bad mom for saying that, but it is what it is. OK, done venting. Hoping tomorrow will be a day without homework. And now I have to go cancel hotel reservations for a weekend getaway I was taking him on to ease my guilty feelings about leaving him for 15 days soon. He was so excited about the getaway and was looking forward to it, but I certainly can't reward him for this crap.

 

[nskjerven]

I hear ya Momma

I also really hate the job of parenting my son sometimes. I know we don't have the physical threat here but I can't stand the attitude and laziness. I've gone on strike again with Wilson.

Paul was reminding me that Willie is better with the carrot instead of the stick - so I have to remember no "rewards" unless they are for a good behavior.

Wonder if that is the same with Tyler? Why plan a weekend away out of guilt - it should be earned. Then he has something to work towards.

I think boys need concrete "what to do" in order to succeed.

Even Paul needs a list

 

[HollyTyler]

I hear ya Momma

I also really hate the job of parenting my son sometimes. I know we don't have the physical threat here but I can't stand the attitude and laziness. I've gone on strike again with Wilson.

Paul was reminding me that Willie is better with the carrot instead of the stick - so I have to remember no "rewards" unless they are for a good behavior.

Wonder if that is the same with Tyler? Why plan a weekend away out of guilt - it should be earned. Then he has something to work towards.

I think boys need concrete "what to do" in order to succeed.

Even Paul needs a list

It wasn't a reward weekend for him, but more of a "let's have a fun weekend getaway" to have some extra bonding time together since we've never been apart longer than a week. I reward regularly and he likes picking something to work towards. This was just sort of a last weekend together before I leave because he goes to his dad's Sunday the week before I leave (but I'm going to ask his dad if I can steal Friday and Saturday before I leave so we won't be apart 3 weeks). But right now, I'm so angry about today, I'm happy to be going away.

 

[HollyTyler]

On a happier note, after years without, I finally have a camera again! Decided my phone won't take good enough pics of Hawaii scenery to do it justice! I love this camera because I can upload straight to FaceBook or email to people, as long as I'm someplace where there is a wifi connection. Hoping to have an opportunity to test it out in the next couple of days. Nothing to take pics of tonight, unfortunately. Everybody must be tired of seeing pics of my goofy cat, LOL!

 

[JLSE50]

I can log into the DIS now on my computer!! Whatever was wrong is fixed and it was not on my end because I did not do anything !!

I pick up 2 of Tyler's friends from school when I pick him up and bring them home with me until their mom gets out of work so they get a break every other week from the horrible and unsafe environment of the childcare at school. I hate trying to find something to do that they all want to do, so it's not easy, but I hated the idea of them being stuck in that awful place, so I offered. The kids have known me since one was 2 and one was 3, so they know to listen to me and know me well, so it works out.

How do you handle homework when you have the other fellows there?

Thanks

No....well, yeah, but that's not the problem. The source of the misery is homework. Any day Tyler has homework is a horribly physical, violent, loud, stressful, angry day. Now that he's only about 60 pounds lighter than me and only about 4 inches shorter than me, it's very difficult to make him stay in his bedroom or go to bed, or do anything really. What do you do when a kid that big tells you no? I'm so tired of anger management issues but he requires constant counselling in that regard. He knows all the right answers on what to do and what not to do when frustrated and getting angry, but it is taking YEARS of practice. I'm physically wearing out. Tonight he was trying to punch through his bedroom window because I was making him stay in his room because it was past bedtime. He's only been here one day and I want him to go back to his dad's. I hate this parenting job and will NEVER have any more kids. Well, I'm too old to start over with a baby anyway, but even if I were a few years younger, I wouldn't do this again. Not enjoying it and hate feeling guilty about thinking that way. Then I wind up sad because I took away his bedtime book reading privilege (we read together in his bed every night, and it's something I enjoy too), but he ate up all that time with the raging and it was way past bedtime when he finally settled down, way too late to do that anyway.

I can no longer sit in my car to cool down like I used to because he now locks me out (I take my keys with me but he's figured out to lock the screen door which you can't unlock from the outside).

One of these days he is going to punch me and run out the door and down the road in anger and I won't be able to physically get him back into the house, he's now stronger than me.

No, this is not a change or increase in anything, just his same frustration over academics that he's always had, same level of defiance over it, it just gets harder to deal with as he gets bigger and physically able to overpower me.

I hate this mom job. Might be a bad mom for saying that, but it is what it is. OK, done venting. Hoping tomorrow will be a day without homework. And now I have to go cancel hotel reservations for a weekend getaway I was taking him on to ease my guilty feelings about leaving him for 15 days soon. He was so excited about the getaway and was looking forward to it, but I certainly can't reward him for this crap.

We all have or had days like that. That is why I keep saying
PARENTING--THE TOUGHEST JOB YOU'LL EVER LOVE
You don't love it today but overall you do and you will and when you are on the trip you will both miss each other so much that it may help with the homework situation too. One never knows.

I hear ya Momma

I also really hate the job of parenting my son sometimes. I know we don't have the physical threat here but I can't stand the attitude and laziness. I've gone on strike again with Wilson.

Paul was reminding me that Willie is better with the carrot instead of the stick - so I have to remember no "rewards" unless they are for a good behavior.

Wonder if that is the same with Tyler? Why plan a weekend away out of guilt - it should be earned. Then he has something to work towards.

I think boys need concrete "what to do" in order to succeed.

Even Paul needs a list

We found that to be true especially for our younger son. He would waste time sitting at the table not doing his homework and it drove me nuts. If he would just have DONE it, he could have gone to play.

We finally negotiated a different plan every day. When he came in the door we would discuss the quantity and type of homework that needed to be done and set a plan for some free time for him to decompress after school (which was stressful for him) and then time to work. We set a timer. It did not always work, but when the amount of time he had agreed to passed, he was MORE LIKELY to settle into the homework. Note the emphasis!! Timer was where he could see it while he played so that the buzzing was not a suprise. He never did make transitions easily, even as a baby so perhaps it was partly a transition issue too.

to you both as you walk this road.
Just know that some of us have already done it and not committed homicide or suicide.

It wasn't a reward weekend for him, but more of a "let's have a fun weekend getaway" to have some extra bonding time together since we've never been apart longer than a week. I reward regularly and he likes picking something to work towards. This was just sort of a last weekend together before I leave because he goes to his dad's Sunday the week before I leave (but I'm going to ask his dad if I can steal Friday and Saturday before I leave so we won't be apart 3 weeks). But right now, I'm so angry about today, I'm happy to be going away.

On a happier note, after years without, I finally have a camera again! Decided my phone won't take good enough pics of Hawaii scenery to do it justice! I love this camera because I can upload straight to FaceBook or email to people, as long as I'm someplace where there is a wifi connection. Hoping to have an opportunity to test it out in the next couple of days. Nothing to take pics of tonight, unfortunately. Everybody must be tired of seeing pics of my goofy cat, LOL!

I did not know they made these!! What did you get and are they expensive?

 

[HollyTyler]

I can log into the DIS now on my computer!! Whatever was wrong is fixed and it was not on my end because I did not do anything !!






How do you handle homework when you have the other fellows there?


He does homework when they leave, after dinner, because I definitely don't want to deal with 2 other kids and their homework. Yikes!


Thanks





We all have or had days like that. That is why I keep saying
PARENTING--THE TOUGHEST JOB YOU'LL EVER LOVE
You don't love it today but overall you do and you will and when you are on the trip you will both miss each other so much that it may help with the homework situation too. One never knows.


Thanks Jan!


We found that to be true especially for our younger son. He would waste time sitting at the table not doing his homework and it drove me nuts. If he would just have DONE it, he could have gone to play.

We finally negotiated a different plan every day. When he came in the door we would discuss the quantity and type of homework that needed to be done and set a plan for some free time for him to decompress after school (which was stressful for him) and then time to work. We set a timer. It did not always work, but when the amount of time he had agreed to passed, he was MORE LIKELY to settle into the homework. Note the emphasis!! Timer was where he could see it while he played so that the buzzing was not a suprise. He never did make transitions easily, even as a baby so perhaps it was partly a transition issue too.

to you both as you walk this road.
Just know that some of us have already done it and not committed homicide or suicide.


Great ideas, we do something similar with the timer, same basic principle. Glad to hear he might surviving until adulthood, LOL!








I did not know they made these!! What did you get and are they expensive?

It's a Samsung something or other, display model, so it was about $70. I'll look it up and post a link tonight.

 

[MrsMork]

We have a family member like that it does wear thin !





I bet you have space in your conversations for others to share their experiences and/or change the subject to something else--even the impact of the lunar orbit on plate tectonics

not according to our kids!!!

No....well, yeah, but that's not the problem. The source of the misery is homework. Any day Tyler has homework is a horribly physical, violent, loud, stressful, angry day. Now that he's only about 60 pounds lighter than me and only about 4 inches shorter than me, it's very difficult to make him stay in his bedroom or go to bed, or do anything really. What do you do when a kid that big tells you no? I'm so tired of anger management issues but he requires constant counselling in that regard. He knows all the right answers on what to do and what not to do when frustrated and getting angry, but it is taking YEARS of practice. I'm physically wearing out. Tonight he was trying to punch through his bedroom window because I was making him stay in his room because it was past bedtime. He's only been here one day and I want him to go back to his dad's. I hate this parenting job and will NEVER have any more kids. Well, I'm too old to start over with a baby anyway, but even if I were a few years younger, I wouldn't do this again. Not enjoying it and hate feeling guilty about thinking that way. Then I wind up sad because I took away his bedtime book reading privilege (we read together in his bed every night, and it's something I enjoy too), but he ate up all that time with the raging and it was way past bedtime when he finally settled down, way too late to do that anyway.

I can no longer sit in my car to cool down like I used to because he now locks me out (I take my keys with me but he's figured out to lock the screen door which you can't unlock from the outside).

One of these days he is going to punch me and run out the door and down the road in anger and I won't be able to physically get him back into the house, he's now stronger than me.

No, this is not a change or increase in anything, just his same frustration over academics that he's always had, same level of defiance over it, it just gets harder to deal with as he gets bigger and physically able to overpower me.

I hate this mom job. Might be a bad mom for saying that, but it is what it is. OK, done venting. Hoping tomorrow will be a day without homework. And now I have to go cancel hotel reservations for a weekend getaway I was taking him on to ease my guilty feelings about leaving him for 15 days soon. He was so excited about the getaway and was looking forward to it, but I certainly can't reward him for this crap.

You are not a bad mom! I cannot tell you how many times Dennis and I have said "don't have any kids, oops too late!!!" But, ya love 'em so you continue on. It is especially hard when you have had such a rotten day - and we all had them! - and then some fool posts on FB how wonderful their kids are!

 

[ragdoll]

It is especially hard when you have had such a rotten day - and we all had them! - and then some fool posts on FB how wonderful their kids are!

Anyone who insists that their little angels never give them problems is lying.

Holly, your feelings are perfectly valid. We have all been there. It sounds like you need a Hawaiian cruise.

Jan, glad that you called the doctor. Hope you are feeling better now.

Donna

 

[JLSE50]

Anyone who insists that their little angels never give them problems is lying.

Holly, your feelings are perfectly valid. We have all been there. It sounds like you need a Hawaiian cruise.

Jan, glad that you called the doctor. Hope you are feeling better now.

Donna

Thanks Donna !!
I slept better last night and feel better today.

How are you and Harry?
The kids?




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[JLSE50]

not according to our kids!!!
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They only say that because they are your kids......
When they are younger they push our buttons different ways


And


They wish they were retired and could do more Disney stuff too.
Can you say 'jealous' ?


. Come to think of it--
I wonder how many childhood behavior issues (adult too) are based on jealousy--thinking someone else has it better than I.
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[MrsMork]

And


They wish they were retired and could do more Disney stuff too.
Can you say 'jealous' ?


. Come to think of it--
I wonder how many childhood behavior issues (adult too) are based on jealousy--thinking someone else has it better than I.
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I think you nailed it. We have one that is at WDW doing the CP and applied to stay on doing a professional internship...he should hear this week. Another has taken 3 Disney cruises, one to celebrate their 10th anniversary and they are joining us at DL in October - again. Only our middle child has not had the resourses to indulge, but she is on her way - doing better - and Dennis and I were just last night saying we need to hook her up with a trip next spring when she has vacation time available. Maybe Aulani???? Her very best friend lives on Maui. Anyway, they laugh at us and say "oh no, talking Disney again!

 

[EllaEnchanted]

There's something to be said for the wooden spoon in child rearing. My mom threatened us with it all the time and we behaved. She never once used it on us, but boy did she like to tell us that she would. That in itself was enough.

Then again, we only had three TV channels and not all the influences that kids have today. It was a different era. Kids were raised by aunts, uncles, grandparents and neighbors....not just parents.

So sorry for the hard times that you're having Holly. Just stick to your guns and let him know that you're the parent and he's the child, no matter how big he gets. If you have to stand on a chair when you tell him that, then do so.

Lots of hugs sweetie, see you soon. You need this vacation.

 

[scottishwee35]

Hello Everyone

How are you? I am fine and busy...

Oh Hawaii cruise is coming soon, as far no luck with lottery as I won only 10 pounds huh...

thinking of you all as cannot believe 4 years in May with Panama Canal, I don't think I will never forget it...

Scottishwee35

 

[scottishwee35]

not according to our kids!!!



You are not a bad mom! I cannot tell you how many times Dennis and I have said "don't have any kids, oops too late!!!" But, ya love 'em so you continue on. It is especially hard when you have had such a rotten day - and we all had them! - and then some fool posts on FB how wonderful their kids are!

Holly, she tell you that you are not a bad mom...

When I was reading it and make me think about Olivia as she can be hard work for us as she is deaf child as I thought we can cope with her *** we know what deaf child like but it was hard work... Olivia and I can be clashing together sometime.

Now she is 12 years old and much better calm depend on her mood as she have mood swings every month

Another hand she can be lovely girl, sometime she was so horrible cheeky to us grrrr

No matter what you think as you felt that you are bad mother but you are not.

You need break to Hawaii cruise and enjoy your freedom

love and hugs from me

Remember there will be up and down, some day good some day bad .......

 

[scottishwee35]

I am sad that I am going to cancel Fantasy Cruise for this Oct which I was so looking forwrd to.

The reason that the flights are far too expensive and few months ago, we booked NCL Spirit with Deaf World Cruise for next year in Europe.

Ian felt two cruise are too much also flights too dear too and much better in Europe.

I will contact DU to cancel it or move it to another dates but cannot decide yet.

Trouble that I don't want to cancel it? Is it me? I realised that kids are grown up and can be expensive for next disney cruise?

 

[scottishwee35]

I love Magic....

Hope I will be on someday...

someone send me

 

[scottishwee35]

Oh well I am off to Bed now

Goodnight