WBRepo-Ship of Thieves-Remember the Magic Pt 11

[JLSE50]

Hi everyone.

Mom came back last Thursday and I have not had a spare minute to myself. I spent all day Friday at a place called Ashby Ponds Assisted Living. It is right next to Dulles airport (right down the street from me) and BRAND new. Oh my gosh, it was so nice, my SIL and I were ready to sign up!!

Well mom said fine while we were there, but as soon as we got home...she was calling them theives for stealing money....she is just nuts.

So I guess she will stay here till June and then I will make my other brother take her for the next 3 months. We kept her in SC for 3 months and it was a nice break.

She really would love Assisted Living...it is just too bad....

Can she stay at Ashby Ponds for overnight visits? You might call them Respite visits but you can tell her they are Sleep Overs. We did that with our Mom when my brother had to go out of town and after a few visits she was not upset at staying.

not an easy time I know
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[JLSE50]

.....I'm the baby of the family... and I figure until the day I die and long after, they will think of me that way...

And I've figured out that I've been in the kind of pain I've been in since I Had that first severe pebble back in June... things have been off since then... I guess I should figure out what to do about it...

Please get it checked. Maybe there is a stone that needs surgical help to be removed. You have tried so much and suffered so long.

 

[HollyTyler]

One of the good things about Tyler being a happy boy when you pick him up is that they seem to be dealing with the issues when they occur not handing them to you also as if more punishment could change anything. This way his guilt does not carry over from place to place. Since he does not seem able to control the outbursts when they happen and is sorry for them afterwards, having all the adults pass on the stories so he has to keep apologizing and continues to feel bad has got to wear him out and reduce his self-esteem.

Constantly feeling and being reminded that you are letting people down and cannot do anything right is one of the things that leads kids to hurt themselves--sometimes permanently. Sure don't want Tyler doing that.

Jan

I agree 100%.

Oh, his dad brought up the summer camp issue again. He went on and on about how 4 generations of his family went to this camp, how it instilled a love for the outdoors in him, etc. Well, that's fine, and I love what I've seen about that camp, but I don't think it's the right camp for Tyler. I don't think it would be good to put Tyler in a situation where they're not trained to handle kids like him (I emailed this camp and asked). I emailed his dad back this morning and explained that to him, telling him there are plenty of camps in Michigan specifically for kids with sensory processing disorder and all other autism spectrum disorders, and I gave him a link to a website that lists them all.

I expect him to be shocked that I'd say Tyler would fit in with autistic kids. He won't understand what I'm saying, but oh well. I'm firm on that.

Mr. Clueless strikes again.

 

[JLSE50]

I agree 100%.

Oh, his dad brought up the summer camp issue again. He went on and on about how 4 generations of his family went to this camp, how it instilled a love for the outdoors in him, etc. Well, that's fine, and I love what I've seen about that camp, but I don't think it's the right camp for Tyler. I don't think it would be good to put Tyler in a situation where they're not trained to handle kids like him (I emailed this camp and asked). I emailed his dad back this morning and explained that to him, telling him there are plenty of camps in Michigan specifically for kids with sensory processing disorder and all other autism spectrum disorders, and I gave him a link to a website that lists them all.

I expect him to be shocked that I'd say Tyler would fit in with autistic kids. He won't understand what I'm saying, but oh well. I'm firm on that.

Mr. Clueless strikes again.

Tyler is so blessed to have you as his Mom!

 

[JLSE50]

Thanks Lisa, I sure hope so. He's just not learning anything in school with all this crap going on, so it worries me.

I bet he is learning.

Just because he does not do a worksheet does not mean he is not learning. Maybe he would do better with oral testing.

Look at all the stuff he knows about firefighters and llamas. Look at all his other interests. Look at the stuff he comes up with. He is learning all the time and telling you all about it. If part of his problem is that he cannot get the information from his brain to the paper, think of the frustration! That cannot help him cope with stupid kids who get in his way.

Can you ask the OTs, teachers and staff about DYSGRAPHIA? If he was born without hands or fingers, they would not expect him to WRITE HIS ANSWERS ON PAPER.

 

[HollyTyler]

Tyler is so blessed to have you as his Mom!

Here's his dad's response. I'm going to try not to slap that idiot.

I disagree. His behavior with the meds lately has been great, and I don’t think there will be any problems. He doesn’t need to go to a camp for kids with disorders. I will check and see if camp Westminster has any specially trained staff, but I will check. I am confident he will do just fine at Camp Westminster.

 

[granmaz]

Here's his dad's response. I'm going to try not to slap that idiot.

I disagree. His behavior with the meds lately has been great, and I don’t think there will be any problems. He doesn’t need to go to a camp for kids with disorders. I will check and see if camp Westminster has any specially trained staff, but I will check. I am confident he will do just fine at Camp Westminster.

Oh, I think we will all line up behind you here!! Why do men find it so hard to adjust to things like this?

Perhaps the staff at his school might be able to write a letter explaining what difficulties Tyler would have at such a camp.

I imagine he would need your agreement legally to send him somewhere residential.

 

[scottishwee35]

Does she have greyhound in her? She has really long legs but her paws are not that big, so she'll be tall and thin by the looks of it.

I think GREYHOUND

I was thinkin' the same thing. If not greyhound, then whippit maybe?

defintely greyhound because they had greyhound last time and they want same one but different colour this time...

I have not see her yet ( i mean the puppy)...hope see in April...

Scottishwee35

 

[HollyTyler]

Oh, I think we will all line up behind you here!! Why do men find it so hard to adjust to things like this?

Perhaps the staff at his school might be able to write a letter explaining what difficulties Tyler would have at such a camp.

I imagine he would need your agreement legally to send him somewhere residential.

Well, I'd have to send the camp a copy of our custody order in advance of him signing him up because I doubt he'd tell them that part of things. If he pushes it, that's what I'll do.

I do like the idea of a note from the school. Since they're with him all day, they'd best know what accommodations he needs. Thanks!

 

[JLSE50]

Oh, I think we will all line up behind you here!! Why do men find it so hard to adjust to things like this?

Perhaps the staff at his school might be able to write a letter explaining what difficulties Tyler would have at such a camp.

I imagine he would need your agreement legally to send him somewhere residential.

I think men take children's difficulties personally as if it is a reflection of their sperm quality.

 

[HollyTyler]

I think men take children's difficulties personally as if it is a reflection of their sperm quality.

So I should reassure him that his sperm quality is just fine.

 

[HollyTyler]

A friend just reminded me that most camping activities are actually very good for sensory issues and that I should compromise and do the 3 night camp this year and see how he does.

 

[granmaz]

A friend just reminded me that most camping activities are actually very good for sensory issues and that I should compromise and do the 3 night camp this year and see how he does.

A pity they don't start with an overnight stay to give Tyler a taster.

 

[granmaz]

I think men take children's difficulties personally as if it is a reflection of their sperm quality.

You could well be right.

 

[mishoe01]

Oh, I think we will all line up behind you here!! Why do men find it so hard to adjust to things like this?

Perhaps the staff at his school might be able to write a letter explaining what difficulties Tyler would have at such a camp.

I imagine he would need your agreement legally to send him somewhere residential.

I was thinking this too....or the IEP. Then atleast the Camp can answer Chuck's email truthfully (knowing what their limitations are).

 

[HollyTyler]

I was thinking this too....or the IEP. Then atleast the Camp can answer Chuck's email truthfully (knowing what their limitations are).

Oh, Monica, that's perfect! The IEP is much more detailed than any letter would be because it also has input from his previous school, so it would be very accurate. Thanks so much! When I hear back from the camp, I'll ask them if I can send them his IEP to look over.

Thanks!

 

[HollyTyler]

I love group brainstorming! One of my friends has another suggestion. She suggested asking his dad to compromise by letting Tyler do a short trial at a camp for kids with sensory processing disorder this year, and if he is successful there, I’d consider his dad’s camp for next year if they would recommend a regular camp, and then do the 3 night trial camp next year at his dad’s camp to see how that goes. Makes sense to me.

 

[JLSE50]

So I should reassure him that his sperm quality is just fine.

: I don't know. If you do will he start seeing Tyler as a unique individual and not a clone of himself?

 

[JLSE50]

I love group brainstorming! One of my friends has another suggestion. She suggested asking his dad to compromise by letting Tyler do a short trial at a camp for kids with sensory processing disorder this year, and if he is successful there, I’d consider his dad’s camp for next year if they would recommend a regular camp, and then do the 3 night trial camp next year at his dad’s camp to see how that goes. Makes sense to me.

I am so glad you are talking to people about this and not dealing only with Tyler's Dad. This way you are getting a lot of ideas and once you factor in the input from the teachers and aids you can make a proposal to Dad that you are comfortable with and is in Tyler's best interest.

Monica's idea of sending the IEP is great. The camp may disqualify themselves and then you are not the "bad cop." Yah Monica

You go Holly!!!

 

[nskjerven]

Michelle do you have an appt to see the doctor? If not WHY NOT you can't have this interfering with travel plans....deal and get well please