Was I Rude? Inspired by WDWorld2003's Hawaii thread

[DVCJEN]

Just as you would be embarrassed to not pay for your child, I would be embarrassed to ask for the money after I had invited a person to be my guest. To me there is no difference between inviting someone to a show, out to dinner, or on a vacation. I have extended an invitation and now it's my responsibility to host you. If I couldn't cover the entire cost, I would not invite you. It's just how I was raised. It appears on this board I am in the minority but in my circle of friends and family, this is how it is.

I agree with you. If we invited the child we would pay for their expenses.

 

[pirateofthecarolinas]

We always pay for guests of our children. Now, my children are 11 and 9 and we haven't done any out of town trips with friends.

I remember my parents telling us never to discuss money in public. They probably would have died from embarrassment if we did. My father always paid everyone's way when we invited friends on trips. He was adamant about it. My friends' families always paid my way. It is just the way my husband and I both were raised.

I feel that whatever works for each family is fine.

Lori

 

[wdwmom2]

Well, in *my* part of Maryland we prefer to abuse our guests and make them pay.

Well, we must have been neighbors!!!!!! I am origionally from Maryland and now live 3 miles from the Mason-Dixon Line. Large trips like Disney, yes, I would expect to have some help paying for the trip. Just as I would send money, pay for tickets, etc., if my child was the guest on the vacation. Now smaller trips, ones that don't tend to rack up the big bucks, I would pay for the guest's expenses. I'm not poor by any means, but also not rich. With 4 children, it's not even a choice, I couldn't afford taking EIGHT children to WDW. Just not gonna happen!!!! We have not invited many "guests" on our larger vacations, but one thing is for sure, no parent has ever expected us to foot the bill for the opportunity for their child to go along with us.

 

[wide awake]

I don't think the OP was rude. She is giving her DD's friend the chance for a vacation...not a free vacation, but a vacation costing less than 100%. People do what they can do...it could be this is the only way the friend will ever get to visit WDW...we can't afford to do it all, DD's friend is staying home doesn't seem like much of a solution.

 

[drakethib]

Heck NO.

Sound pretty nice to me.