Warning on a pink Disney princess swimsuit

[seashell724]

No kids here yet.
However, if I saw other kids in see through bathing suits it would be a little disconcerting.
If they are old enough to be in bathing suits then they are old enough to have them not show through!
I mean, there is such a thing as decency, even when you're tiny!

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Op- thanks for the heads up. I do not want any of my kids in see through clothing no matter how young they are. It has nothing to do with anything other than their privates are private not public.
I don't get why some people have to be so nasty about it.

 

[chicagodisneyfan]

What could one possibly see in a little kids see-thru swimsuit?

Then again in my circle it is common to see toddler girls only wearing bottoms and no tops when swimming.

 

[candielips]

What could one possibly see in a little kids see-thru swimsuit?

Then again in my circle it is common to see toddler girls only wearing bottoms and no tops when swimming.

To answer this question is like trying to tell someone why a pedophile wants what they want. We as "normal" people are incapable of even understanding why someone would want to look at and harm a child to begin with, but they do.

Thank you to the OP. I am wanting to pick our DD, who will only be 3, up a couple of disney bathing suits for our upcoming trip. I will def stay away from light coloured ones.

 

[princesskayla]

Thanks for the heads up!! I will check ours before we head for the pool. I never even thought of that happening.

 

[ckrum]

Thanks for the head up. Just bought DD a new suit for our trip. It's not from Disney, but now I'm going to get it wet just to be sure it's not going to become see through. I hadn't even thought of that happening. And, since I make DD wear a suit to cover her "private areas" then I don't want to find out it's see through.

 

[Mickey1Fan]

Red can be see through when wet too.

 

[TinkerbelleAbbysMom]

To those of you who don't think pedophiles are everywhere.. just do a search on your state sex offender registry. I just did a 5 mile radius search from my home. There are 103!!! And I live in a small community in Murfreesboro, TN. They are everywhere.. and you never know what they look like! IMHO, you can't be too careful.

 

[ireland_nicole]

Thank you OP; it was something I hadn't considered, although for modesty's sake my DD wears a swimdressover leggings, but I hadn't considered the fabric choice and the sheer factor. I really appreciate your letting us know; and I'm terribly sorry about your boss's son. I can't think of anything in life that could be harder or that any parent fears more.

 

[prncess674]

for modesty's sake my DD wears a swimdressover leggings

How does your DD feel about sticking out like a sore thumb in a pool full of "regular" swimwear? You may be drawing undo attention to your daughter by dressing her in this overly conservitive manner, simply because a pedophile may say "I just gotta see what her Momma is trying to hide with the ridiculous swim attire." As someone who travels extensively it is better to dress like everyone else if you want to blend in. I also don't think a small child should be in a string bikini, but that is more because it isn't appropriate for the rough and tumble play of most toddlers.

 

[livndisney]

How does your DD feel about sticking out like a sore thumb in a pool full of "regular" swimwear? You may be drawing undo attention to your daughter by dressing her in this overly conservitive manner, simply because a pedophile may say "I just gotta see what her Momma is trying to hide with the ridiculous swim attire." As someone who travels extensively it is better to dress like everyone else if you want to blend in. I also don't think a small child should be in a string bikini, but that is more because it isn't appropriate for the rough and tumble play of most toddlers.

Maybe it is a regional thing, but where we live we see more and more "modest" swimsuits. To say nothing of the added sun protection more modest suits provide. The "string" bikini is becoming the oddity.

 

[Zeebs]

Op- thanks for the heads up. I do not want any of my kids in see through clothing no matter how young they are. It has nothing to do with anything other than their privates are private not public.
I don't get why some people have to be so nasty about it.

Why is always considered nasty if someone offers a different point of view?

If I have just forked out a decent amount of money for a swimsuit and it is see through, I would be annoyed and would be taking it back.

I also wouldn't have a fit about it as even though I would be returning it a one off wouldn't bother me too much.

But then again I am one of those parents who would let their children go into the sea nude if the situation arises. I realise this isn't how everyone wants to raise their children and that is up to them, but I object to having the "perverts are everywhere how could you allow that" thrown at me for everything that concerns children.

Teach your children well, which is what we do in our house. But to me one of my biggest fears is that my children grow up thinking everyone in the world is out to get them.

And before I get the you don't know the damage this kind of things can do, I do have first hand knowledge and I still refuse to allow what happen to me rule my life.

Kirsten

 

[luvsJack]

I am another that would probably take the suit back if it was brand new, but I wouldn't get all upset about it at the time.

Any child being assaulted by a pedophile is a horrible, horrible thing. No child should ever have to go through something like that and any pedophile that is caught should be locked away forever (at the very least).

BUT, making sure your child is not in a see through suit is not going keep one away. Making sure your child doesn't wear shorts with words on the butt is not going to keep one away. A pedophile is looking for the child with a see through top on, he's looking for the child he can make trust him or the child he can lure away from mom and dad or the child that mom and dad or watching or whatever he needs to watch for that makes the child vulnerable. And he's probably NOT going to be one of the drunken adults around the pool, he's probably going to be the nice guy playing with the kids and "watching" over them so the adults can have a good time.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Why is always considered nasty if someone offers a different point of view?

If I have just forked out a decent amount of money for a swimsuit and it is see through, I would be annoyed and would be taking it back.

I also wouldn't have a fit about it as even though I would be returning it a one off wouldn't bother me too much.

But then again I am one of those parents who would let their children go into the sea nude if the situation arises. I realise this isn't how everyone wants to raise their children and that is up to them, but I object to having the "perverts are everywhere how could you allow that" thrown at me for everything that concerns children.

Teach your children well, which is what we do in our house. But to me one of my biggest fears is that my children grow up thinking everyone in the world is out to get them.

And before I get the you don't know the damage this kind of things can do, I do have first hand knowledge and I still refuse to allow what happen to me rule my life.

Kirsten

I completely support everyone having different opinions. I do not support people being nasty about it and acting condescending because someone feels differently. That is what I was referring to.
For me it is not about weirdos etc. because if a weirdo likes your kid it doesn't matter what they are wearing- I just feel their private parts are private. I wouldn't go around with mine hanging out and I don't let my kids go in public with theirs hanging out. For us that is just not appropriate.

 

[Hannathy]

To those of you who don't think pedophiles are everywhere.. just do a search on your state sex offender registry. I just did a 5 mile radius search from my home. There are 103!!! And I live in a small community in Murfreesboro, TN. They are everywhere.. and you never know what they look like! IMHO, you can't be too careful.

You do realize that the vast majority of those are not what you would truly call a sex offender, don't you?

If your 18 yr old son fools around with his 17 yr old consenting girlfriend and her Daddy gets mad, he could end up having to register as a sex offender for the rest of his life?

Those lists are ridiculous and do nothing but alarm people and dilute the purpose of alerting the community to the very minute risk of the very few true sex offenders.

I refuse to live my life or my children's life in fear because the 24 hour news channels have to fill the time between commercials.

 

[princessmom29]

Why is always considered nasty if someone offers a different point of view?

If I have just forked out a decent amount of money for a swimsuit and it is see through, I would be annoyed and would be taking it back.

I also wouldn't have a fit about it as even though I would be returning it a one off wouldn't bother me too much.

But then again I am one of those parents who would let their children go into the sea nude if the situation arises. I realise this isn't how everyone wants to raise their children and that is up to them, but I object to having the "perverts are everywhere how could you allow that" thrown at me for everything that concerns children.

Teach your children well, which is what we do in our house. But to me one of my biggest fears is that my children grow up thinking everyone in the world is out to get them.

And before I get the you don't know the damage this kind of things can do, I do have first hand knowledge and I still refuse to allow what happen to me rule my life.

Kirsten

Thank you for saying this. This a pretty good statement of the hpilosophy I try to raise DD by as well. I don't want her to grow up living in fear and looking over her shouldre. My mom did that to me and I HATED it. DD's best friend's mom is much the same and it really makes me sad for her little girl. She can never go to a friend's house to play, no matter how well mom and dad know the family, she has never spent the night away from mom and dad and will never be allowed to, she cannot swim in public for fear someone might be watching her, and is very wary of any new situation because in the words of the child "people are bad".

I am another that would probably take the suit back if it was brand new, but I wouldn't get all upset about it at the time.

Any child being assaulted by a pedophile is a horrible, horrible thing. No child should ever have to go through something like that and any pedophile that is caught should be locked away forever (at the very least).

BUT, making sure your child is not in a see through suit is not going keep one away. Making sure your child doesn't wear shorts with words on the butt is not going to keep one away. A pedophile is looking for the child with a see through top on, he's looking for the child he can make trust him or the child he can lure away from mom and dad or the child that mom and dad or watching or whatever he needs to watch for that makes the child vulnerable. And he's probably NOT going to be one of the drunken adults around the pool, he's probably going to be the nice guy playing with the kids and "watching" over them so the adults can have a good time.

You are exactly right. Studies have shown that what attracts a pedophile to a child is usually not anythnig physical at all. It is the child who is veunerable, isolated, and compliant. The kid looking for a friend, someone to talk to. In other words the child that is least likely to tell what happened. They dfon't want the highly visible, highly involved child, but the kid on the fringe that no one is really paying attention to. It has nothing to do with clothing or the lack thereof. You are right, a pedophile is typically just the "regular guy" type that blends into the crowd. The don't want to do anything to draw attention to themselves and want to appear very nonthreatening to kids. Those are the guys to watch for, not the drunks at the pool.
I would alos take the suit back if it were new, but would not make a big deal of it at the time. It is just not worth it, and would serve no purpose other than to upset my child.

 

[ireland_nicole]

How does your DD feel about sticking out like a sore thumb in a pool full of "regular" swimwear? You may be drawing undo attention to your daughter by dressing her in this overly conservitive manner, simply because a pedophile may say "I just gotta see what her Momma is trying to hide with the ridiculous swim attire." As someone who travels extensively it is better to dress like everyone else if you want to blend in. I also don't think a small child should be in a string bikini, but that is more because it isn't appropriate for the rough and tumble play of most toddlers.

Wow; that's a pretty judgemental comment. Not that I need to explain this, but DD is extremely sun sensitive due to her Epilepsy medication, has autism, and though she is developing the body of a 10 year old, she has the emotional maturity of around a 4 year old. She has no stranger anxiety, and has literally offered to walk off with other individuals. No, I do not leave her alone in public for a second, but I am highly aware that she is at very elevated risk for an abduction or abuse, and aside from that fact that we are a modest family. FWIW, her leggings are bermuda length and her swimdress is a mini length w/ cap sleeves that cover her shoulders. The only comments I get are how cute her suit is and others- both girls and their mommas, asking where they can get one. I was simply trying to thank the OP for a helpful post. Sometimes it's better not to jump to hasty conclusions.

 

[ireland_nicole]

You do realize that the vast majority of those are not what you would truly call a sex offender, don't you?

If your 18 yr old son fools around with his 17 yr old consenting girlfriend and her Daddy gets mad, he could end up having to register as a sex offender for the rest of his life?

Those lists are ridiculous and do nothing but alarm people and dilute the purpose of alerting the community to the very minute risk of the very few true sex offenders.

I refuse to live my life or my children's life in fear because the 24 hour news channels have to fill the time between commercials.

I don't know about your area, but in mine that is certainly not the case. Family watchdog provides a service here in TX, I don't know what the laws are in other states, but the map shows the home address, picture, work location, and crime the offender was convicted of (including in many cases the age of the offender and victim at time of conviction.) I can assure you, the vast majority of those in my zip code are not 18 y/o'ds w/ a statutory rape conviction from consensual acts w/ their 16 y/o girlfriend.

 

[TinkerbelleAbbysMom]

Same for us ireland_nicole! Listen, my point is really just that we should be aware of who/what is in the area. I attended a child abuse prevention conference and it is very scary to see/know what is out there! A child's innocence is just so precious. Does this mean I won't ever let her do anything. No, I will teach her stranger danger, etc. However, I also as a parent am not going to turn a blind eye to this risk. I will be very careful for who I let her spend time with.
To the poster who has personal experience, I am thankful that it hasn't ruined your life. My guess is though, that you had good support to work thorugh this. I work with ladies on a regular basis who aren't so lucky.
Thing is we all have different points of view here, obviously. So, thanks to the OP who wanted to give fair warning. I appreciate that.. if for nothing else it would help me make sure I don't purchase a light colored suit. That would make people run from the pools as if a hurricaine were a 'comin!!

 

[TinkerbelleAbbysMom]

As for who reports to the SRO, it varies by state. It does list any type of sexual crime, offensive or not. Just redid my search and 6 of the first 50 were stat rape. The others were rape, attempted rape, etc. 5 of those were in their 30s. Only one said "he was 21 , she was 15". So, that being said, they aren't just stat rape charges. Just please be aware, this is a big deal. Just teach your children to beware!