Warning on a pink Disney princess swimsuit

[MightyMom]

There is a difference between over protective and proactive.

OP didn't say she thought all little girls should be wearing turtle necks and long pants to the pool..... she was trying to give everyone a "heads up" that some little girls suits are see thru. Period. end of story.

It's my personal opinion that people who get so defensive about an issue actually feel guilty. (but what do I know... i'm not a psychologist)

Some of us would love to keep out kids in a bubble and protect them from the world..... then there are the people who would let their kids run naked through the streets of NYC with no supervision.

Neither ends of the spectrum are healthy.

My life was profoundly changed because of sexual abuse I endured. I trust very few people with my children..... and I don't expect anyone to understand why I do certan things to protect my kids.... but I do expect people to respect my decisions.

 

[disneymeces]

The insensitivity of this just rubs me the wrong way. So very much. I have a personal perspective on it - my boss had her 9 year old son kidnapped, sexually assulted, video taped, tortured and murdered. Then for the trial they used the video tapes as evidence and played back every thing he did to him to a room full of strangers. And after seeing all that she then had to deal with the media and picketers outside her home saying that the murder shouldn't get the death penalty. Blaming her for everything.
Pedophiles may not be lurking 'everywhere' - but all it takes is one to destroy a kid and a family. I don't need the news or talk shows to know that.

I had just wanted to make this post to give a heads up about a Disney swimsuit to any family who wouldn't want their kid exposed - so they wouldn't be stuck in a situation where they couldn't easily get a replacement suit.

Thanks for the Post! I would not want my dd's to ever where something c-thru in public no matter what age! Too many creeps!

 

[princessmom29]

There is a difference between over protective and proactive.

OP didn't say she thought all little girls should be wearing turtle necks and long pants to the pool..... she was trying to give everyone a "heads up" that some little girls suits are see thru. Period. end of story.

It's my personal opinion that people who get so defensive about an issue actually feel guilty. (but what do I know... i'm not a psychologist)

Some of us would love to keep out kids in a bubble and protect them from the world..... then there are the people who would let their kids run naked through the streets of NYC with no supervision.

Neither ends of the spectrum are healthy.

My life was profoundly changed because of sexual abuse I endured. I trust very few people with my children..... and I don't expect anyone to understand why I do certan things to protect my kids.... but I do expect people to respect my decisions.

I see freaking out about a see thru suit and overportective rather than proactive. Proactive would be not maknig and issue of it, and choosing not to use that particular suit again.

I think that assuming that people who do not share your veiwpoint and defened theirs feel guilty is projection. (I am not a psychologist either...)

I am truly sorry that you went through something no kid should have to, and it is good that you realize that your experiences play into your parenting decisions.

 

[Familyof4lovesDW]

FYI light green can be see through also. DD was three and I was potty training and the first time she went without a swim diaper was at a family from the daycare's home I had worked at for their kids b day party. I was soooo embarrased my little DD's butt was showing. I had no idea it would do that, it was light green. Now when I buy a light colored suit I fill up the bathtub a little bit get the bottom wet and have her stand up, to make sure this never happens again. I would not want her in a see through bathing suit no matter her age! Sh had a light pink one last year and it was fine.

 

[livndisney]

I am reading people are "freaking out" about a see thru bathing suit. I must be missing it. I see the OP gave a "head's up", I see other people thanked the OP for info. Where is the "freaking out"?

To me this is an FYI- I bought a product, I was not pleaased with the product, so I am letting others know so they don't have the same problems.

 

[princessmom29]

I am reading people are "freaking out" about a see thru bathing suit. I must be missing it. I see the OP gave a "head's up", I see other people thanked the OP for info. Where is the "freaking out"?

To me this is an FYI- I bought a product, I was not pleaased with the product, so I am letting others know so they don't have the same problems.

The OP didn't buy the suit. She saw it on another child and questioned why the other parent didn't care. She said she would have "had a fit" if it had been her child. I read that as freaking out. I personally don't think it is fair to condemn another parent for NOT making a secene about it, and that is what bothered me about the initial post. I would have been the parent that let it go and just didn't use the suit again, not the one pulling my child out of the pool and making her change.

 

[livndisney]

The OP didn't buy the suit. She saw it on another child and questioned why the other parent didn't care. She said she would have "had a fit" if it had been her child. I read that as freaking out. I personally don't think it is fair to condemn another parent for NOT making a secene about it, and that is what bothered me about the initial post. I would have been the parent that let it go and just didn't use the suit again, not the one pulling my child out of the pool and making her change.

I know the OP didn't buy the suit-my comment was about a general product review.

The OP said she would have had a fit, not that she DID have a fit.
(If I bought a product and when I tried to use it it didn't work, I might "have a fit" too LOL)

I think a lot is being read into this thread.

Where did she say anything about pulling the child out of the pool?

Here is the OP:

We were on a cruise a few months back and I forgot to share this.

On board there was a little girl in a pale pink Disney princess swimsuit. Well when she got wet in the pool the suit became pretty much became see through. The parents didn't seem to care but I would have had a fit if it were my kid with all those drunk adults surrounding the pool. Thought I'd give a heads up if anyone else purchased one of these for a vacation. You may want to try it in the shower before packing it for vacation and finding out at the last minute that it's a problem.

 

[ali2000]

Personally, I think everyone should "agree to disagree" on this one and leave it at that. We all know every parent has different ways of raising their children and, as fellow parents, we should all respect that and not "dis" others' opinions.

 

[scrappingizlife]

I for one would not want my daughter or sons for that matter to go around with anything see through. Child or not, they are called private parts for a reason. I just bought my DD a pink Disney princess bathing suit at Babies R us. It had the princesses in the front for coverage, and a frilly skirt to cover the rest. I hope it's not the one that you're speaking of. If so I will return it.

 

[Leajess99]

How does your DD feel about sticking out like a sore thumb in a pool full of "regular" swimwear? You may be drawing undo attention to your daughter by dressing her in this overly conservitive manner, simply because a pedophile may say "I just gotta see what her Momma is trying to hide with the ridiculous swim attire." As someone who travels extensively it is better to dress like everyone else if you want to blend in. I also don't think a small child should be in a string bikini, but that is more because it isn't appropriate for the rough and tumble play of most toddlers.

Who is to say her dd dresses this way due to pedophiles?? Maybe her dd has extremely fair colored skin and this is a way to protect her from burning. Maybe her dd is very self concious and chooses to dress this way or maybe it is religious reasons. Statements like this are rude.

 

[Leajess99]

There is a difference between over protective and proactive.

OP didn't say she thought all little girls should be wearing turtle necks and long pants to the pool..... she was trying to give everyone a "heads up" that some little girls suits are see thru. Period. end of story.

It's my personal opinion that people who get so defensive about an issue actually feel guilty. (but what do I know... i'm not a psychologist)

Some of us would love to keep out kids in a bubble and protect them from the world..... then there are the people who would let their kids run naked through the streets of NYC with no supervision.

Neither ends of the spectrum are healthy.

My life was profoundly changed because of sexual abuse I endured. I trust very few people with my children..... and I don't expect anyone to understand why I do certan things to protect my kids.... but I do expect people to respect my decisions.

I can so understand and feel the same way. I teach my kids but I am also very protective of who watches them. They do not go outside alone because there are so many risks and not just sexual predators. It is MY responsibility as a parent to teach and protect MY children. I watch as a friend lets her daughter go with everyone because she needs a break and it scares me for that little girl.

We had a father in a local city who was sexually assaulting his daughter's friends during sleepovers at their house. No one knew he was a sex offender, not even the police whose building he was using as a teacher of (I believe) martial arts.

 

[tlens]

Unfortunately, the prevelance of child porn makes me think there are more pedophiles than I care to think about. On a cruise ship of a 1000 people, I'm sure there are more than one person who secretly likes little kids.

All I know is, I'd rather that person not be getting off on watching my kid so thanks OP for the warning.

 

[angelat]

You do realize that the vast majority of those are not what you would truly call a sex offender, don't you?

If your 18 yr old son fools around with his 17 yr old consenting girlfriend and her Daddy gets mad, he could end up having to register as a sex offender for the rest of his life?

Those lists are ridiculous and do nothing but alarm people and dilute the purpose of alerting the community to the very minute risk of the very few true sex offenders.

I refuse to live my life or my children's life in fear because the 24 hour news channels have to fill the time between commercials.

It seems you are passionate about this. However, perhaps you could not be so condescending to others who are also passionate in a different way???

Quite honestly, with a search of the sex offenders in my area more than half are considered violent or have a crime against children.

The OP was making an informational post about something that obviously many people were thankful to know about. Sometimes people don't post things to solicit responses one way or another from anyone; they are just trying to be helpful.

Thanks OP!!

 

[princessmom29]

It seems you are passionate about this. However, perhaps you could not be so condescending to others who are also passionate in a different way???

Quite honestly, with a search of the sex offenders in my area more than half are considered violent or have a crime against children.

The OP was making an informational post about something that obviously many people were thankful to know about. Sometimes people don't post things to solicit responses one way or another from anyone; they are just trying to be helpful.

Thanks OP!!

In Alabama statutory rape goes into those "crimes against children" numbers because the victim was legally a child. However you look at it, numbers on sex offender registries are definitley inflated. Not everyone on those lists is a pedophile, not even close.

 

[Hannathy]

In Alabama statutory rape goes into those "crimes against children" numbers because the victim was legally a child. However you look at it, numbers on sex offender registries are definitley inflated. Not everyone on those lists is a pedophile, not even close.

Thank You!!!!

Yes an 18 yr old who has sex or "molests" a 17 yr old is having sex with a child! That is how it will be listed for the rest of that poor boys life. Same if the girl is 18 and the boy is younger. That doesn't make them pedophiles it just makes them normal teenagers that got caught.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Good Lord! Nobody is saying the whole world is full of perverts in every corner. The OP was giving a heads up on something that many people would be interested in knowing. Regardless of anything I don't want my kids in see through clothing. It's not appropriate. Like I said before their private parts are private not public.

 

[Zeebs]

I completely support everyone having different opinions. I do not support people being nasty about it and acting condescending because someone feels differently. That is what I was referring to.
For me it is not about weirdos etc. because if a weirdo likes your kid it doesn't matter what they are wearing- I just feel their private parts are private. I wouldn't go around with mine hanging out and I don't let my kids go in public with theirs hanging out. For us that is just not appropriate.

Totallly respect that your point of view, (and would like to point out I certainly wouldn't be wandering around with it all hanging out either but my kids are little so I don't see an issue) and I also don't have a problem with the OP giving a heads up of see through bathing suit as quite frankly it seems as it is an inferior product.


I guess my issue is with the (and I could have taken it the wrong way) assumption because the parents of the little girl didn't seem to care she was wearing a see through suit they weren't parenting right.

I understand that some parents would rather risk nothing when it comes to their children and that is their look out. (none of this is directed at the poster I quoted I just wanted to answer her) I still think it is overdoing it, but they aren't my children so they aren't my lookout. We all take risks in one thing or another.

Unless a child never leaves your side, you can never be 100% sure it will never happen to them, but the risk of a stranger doing it is much much less than someone you know and trust.


Also to the person who suggested that I am guilty of something I am interested in what you think I am guilty of, because I don't see everyone as a potentional thread, does not mean I do not value, love, protect my children.

Kirsten

 

[Zeebs]

Good Lord! Nobody is saying the whole world is full of perverts in every corner. The OP was giving a heads up on something that many people would be interested in knowing. Regardless of anything I don't want my kids in see through clothing. It's not appropriate. Like I said before their private parts are private not public.

Not picking on you, I promise but that is what I feel some people are saying, pretty much guilty until proven innocent.

Again I agree, good heads up on the bathing suit as it doesn't do the job you are paying for it to do.

Kirsten

 

[kelleyrn2000]

OP, thank you again for sharing. I too would have "pitched a fit" if my kids suits were see through in public. And DH would have pitched an even bigger fit if either of his dd were wearing see through bathing suits. Modesty is important in our family. So your post is appreciated

 

[LittleMissMagic]

How does your DD feel about sticking out like a sore thumb in a pool full of "regular" swimwear? You may be drawing undo attention to your daughter by dressing her in this overly conservitive manner, simply because a pedophile may say "I just gotta see what her Momma is trying to hide with the ridiculous swim attire." As someone who travels extensively it is better to dress like everyone else if you want to blend in. I also don't think a small child should be in a string bikini, but that is more because it isn't appropriate for the rough and tumble play of most toddlers.

Let's not be rude. You don't know anything about this family. Many religions forbid bare legs and arms. Or maybe her DD has sensitive skin that is best hidden from the sun.

If I were to see a little girl wearing swim leggings, her mother hiding her body from pedophiles would be far from the first thing to come to mind.