Want to Send Someone Special To Disney World

[charming23]

You could still give her a $25 Disney giftcard as the jumpstart to her saving up for a trip of her own. Then you can help her plan as others have suggested

 

[Allison]

It was in no way 10 pages of people calling you selfish or hateful. It was people attempting to make you and others aware of the unintentional problems a situation like this could create.

 

[wendow]

It was in no way 10 pages of people calling you selfish or hateful. It was people attempting to make you and others aware of the unintentional problems a situation like this could create.

I agree.

OP, I saw no one call you selfish or hateful. 99% of the posts on this thread were done very nicely. I have no idea what you are referring to. No one was trying to destroy your dreams. As a mom who has had wonderful therapist and myself, once a behavioral therapist, I get your heart in this. I think most here do.

 

[elfbo]

Im really glad you decided not to go with the overly pricey gift. Especially as you had it confirmed that teachers cannot accept gifts over 25$. I do agree with the suggestion of giving her a 25$ disney gift card to help with her trip (Every dollar counts!).

Also if you want to give her special recognition make a donation to the school shes working for in her name. That way shows her how much you appreciate her hard work, and it shows the school that she does such good work as to leave a telling impact on the kids she works with.

 

[dreamin_disney]

well you said you became good friends with her so after the last session she will nolonger be your sons therapist. If you continue the friendship then you can give her the gift as a friend right?Then her being a district emplyee has nothing to do with her because she is now recieving the gift from a friend. I think this is wonderful of you to do but she might feel uncomfotable accepting such am expensive gift, i know I would but she's lucky!!!!!

 

[Friendly Frog]

Is she allowed to tutor or have a second job? If so, hire her and pay her really well. This way she gets her trip money and your child gets a little more time with her. Just remember to give Uncle Sam his cut or she will have more problems!

I think your intentions are wonderful but neither of you want to so anything that could cost her her job.

 

[Bonniec]

Wow people really need to chill out. I think you've all made your point.

It was a very thoughtful idea, and I'm sure your intentions were good. Don't let the horrible responses on here make you think you weren't trying to do a good thing.

Oh and by the way she wasn't trying to get anyone sacked she just wanted to show her appreciation. Get some perspective!

If the therapist didn't follow the rules and regulations of her employer then shed be responsible for the consequences.

Some of you should be ashamed of how you have responded.

I totally agree with this.

 

[peanutsmommy10]

actually nonameneeded was calling me selfish and saying i was pretty much horrible for wanting to do this. so yes it did sting. I didn't know any of these implications beforehand and I talked to other teachers and they didn't know of these rules either.

 

[Leigha]

Ok to set the record straight. NO I did NOT know when I set out to do this she could in any way get fired for accepting such a gift. I didn't want to give her this to be selfish or whatever you want to call me. I simply wanted to thank her. I didn't expect this to turn into 10 pages of how selfish I was and hateful and how I was jeopardizing her job. I would NEVER EVER want to put her job in jeopardy. She's done too much good for my son. I would never hurt her that way. But I do believe she deserves some recognition. Something special. I haven't figured out what a simple $25 gc doesn't seem good enough. And just because I'm a single mom of 5 kids does not give anyone the right to judge what I can and cannot afford to spend on someone. I enjoy giving people gifts and seeing them happy.

Wow! I read your first post and thought, How Sweet!! I work at a school and it is so nice to see someone appreciate someone's help so much!! It is such a special and personal way to thank someone! I never thought you were selfish or wanted her fired. I admit I haven't read 10 pages but can tell from the few posts of yours I've read that you're NOT that type of person! Some really hurtful things must have been said on here and it amazes me how Disney lovers can be such people. The two don't seem to go together. I'd walk away from this thread and all the mean spirit!!

 

[crashbb]

I guess for me (and probably many other posters) it was when the OP called the school board and found out the rules and then said that she still planned on giving the gift (despite now knowing that it was against the rules) and made a comment about how she would feel if the gift were turned down, that I started questioning what the OP was thinking. I agree that it was/is a sweet idea and fully believe that the OP (at first) didn't think about any possible consequences, but to state that she'd still do it after knowing it was against the board's rules seemed very wrong.

I have to admit, that I actually think the gift is ill advised anyway. The gift would not, at all, cover the full cost of the trip and it would force the receiver to spend money on a trip that may not be to their first choice (or even any choice) destination. I know we all love WDW/DL, but it isn't everyone's destination of choice.

 

[JB2K]

If you mail the gift cards to her she does not need to know who its from.Just a fairy godmother sprinkling some pixe dust

I imagine she would know -- Disney fans are pretty easy to figure out in large circles of friends.

Also, who's to say the cards wouldn't be destroyed before they were taken out of the envelope?

Still a bad idea, all-around...

 

[crisi]

I have to admit, that I actually think the gift is ill advised anyway. The gift would not, at all, cover the full cost of the trip and it would force the receiver to spend money on a trip that may not be to their first choice (or even any choice) destination. I know we all love WDW/DL, but it isn't everyone's destination of choice.

And even when people say "oh, I'd love to be able to go" or "we've been hoping to go for ages" it STILL might not be their first choice in how they want to use their vacation time or money. Money is not always the limiting factor in vacationing.

A friend of mine has a husband who hates to travel anywhere he can not drive to in a few hours. Shell tell you about all the places she would love to go, but truth is, she isn't going anywhere because she won't go without him and he won't get on a plane

 

[fbb]

Interesting info in this thread.

If I had known then what I know now, I would have anonymously given my calculus teacher 'a trip to Disney', then anonymously reported it.

 

[cseca]

Hi OP,
I don't normally respond to threads like this but I just want to say you have a good heart
Remember, it's hard to "see" people's intention in a post. So some posts might sound mean but they weren't meant to be.
Don't let a couple posters ruin your day/week/year... they're just people on the internet. Chances are you'll never see them.

Try to have a magical day!

 

[Nayan]

And even when people say "oh, I'd love to be able to go" or "we've been hoping to go for ages" it STILL might not be their first choice in how they want to use their vacation time or money. Money is not always the limiting factor in vacationing.

A friend of mine has a husband who hates to travel anywhere he can not drive to in a few hours. Shell tell you about all the places she would love to go, but truth is, she isn't going anywhere because she won't go without him and he won't get on a plane

This is my DH. I have so many places I'd love to go but I'm not getting to any of them anytime soon. Just because people say they'd love to go doesn't mean they actually want to.

 

[DOREEN1779]

actually nonameneeded was calling me selfish and saying i was pretty much horrible for wanting to do this. so yes it did sting. I didn't know any of these implications beforehand and I talked to other teachers and they didn't know of these rules either.

Your heart is in the right place and I know how special some teachers are and how we want to show them how much we appreciate them. I think people are concerned because it takes so much time, determination, and fortitude to be a speech therapist and they don't want to see their position comprimised due to a school policy. I can see how some comments seem harsh but I think they are really looking out for you and they do not want to see you put in a very incomfortable situation. If I were a ST, I would love that gift but I would be uncomfortable accepting it and probably would decline. Who wouldn't love some Disney magic! But whatever you decide, it is great that she was able to make such an impact on your family that you would offer such an awesome gift.