Walking down the aisle without your dad -even though he'll be at the wedding????

[tinkandonaldfans]

As I'm not super close with my dad i'm a little unsure whether I want to walk down the aisle with him. has anyone done it on their own even if your dad was there? was it awkward?

 

[malibustacey]

im not very close with my dad either, but i am going to get him to walk me down...

i'd like to hear if anyone else has done the same -not been close but has had their dad walk them, or like you, tinkandonaldfans, walk down alone?

 

[acwinsett]

I'm not walking down the aisle with my dad at my upcoming wedding, but it's for different reasons. This is my 2nd wedding and my dad walked with me at my first one. This time I thought it would be nice to have my son walk with me. My dad will be included in other ways, though. He'll do a reading during the ceremony and say the blessing at the dinner reception.

 

[pinkcow]

I need to figure this out as well. Both my Dad and Stepdad will be attending. Regardless of who I choose, or both, someone will feel their toes are being stepped on. I had considered walking down the isle with my Grandfather, but he will not be able to attended due to health issues. I too am curious as to what past brides have done.

 

[Boardwalk_bride]

My dad will be at my wedding, and we are pretty close, but he will not be walking me down the aisle. I have always been independent, so I guess I just want to feel that way on my wedding as well.

 

[Chilly]

I would rather walk on my own, but am letting my Dad walk me as he would be realy upset if I said I didn't want him to. My Step-Dad is also attending but would not expect to walk me down the aisle.

 

[malibustacey]

its strange because i have lived with my stepdad with my mum since i was a little girl- he has been more in my life than my dad, but i still wouldnt want him to walk me down the aisle, i want my dad- even though im not close with him.... its tough. I dont think my stepdad with be bothered at all- even though he is the one who has seen me grow up day by day and my dad has just been there for days out and for weekend visits?

i dont even know how i would feel walking by myself... i havent considered it..?

 

[CharacterFan]

I'm close with my dad, but the attention would bother him so I'm going to walk alone. Which also feels better for me as well. I'm a grown woman I don't need to be given away.

My dad will walk in before if he wants, but he kind of is talking right now about just being seated with the other guests. If he does decide he wants to be in the procession I'm going to find him one of his favorite theme songs to make him feel a bit more comfortable.

 

[Sarah84]

THis is something i was wondering too, im not close to my dad infact I hardly have any contact with him so im sure he won't even be at my wedding and was wondering if i'd look strange walking down the aisle on my own?

 

[AbbyPan]

A friend of mine had both her stepdad and dad attend the wedding so she chose to have her mom walk her down aisle. She was closer to her mom anyway. That's another option.

 

[dis75ney]

I need to figure this out as well. Both my Dad and Stepdad will be attending. Regardless of who I choose, or both, someone will feel their toes are being stepped on. I had considered walking down the isle with my Grandfather, but he will not be able to attended due to health issues. I too am curious as to what past brides have done.

A friend of mine had her bio-dad walk her down the first half of the aisle, then her step-dad took over for the second half. My friend's bio-dad actually came up with that - he thought it would symbolize that he (bio-dad) was her first love, then her step-dad was her second, and then she was "passed off" to her fiance for the greatest love of all. My friend adamantly refused to be "given away"...I do believe that death was threatened upon the pastor if the words "Who gives this woman" appeared in the ceremony...

 

[jemhao]

A friend of mine had both her stepdad and dad attend the wedding so she chose to have her mom walk her down aisle. She was closer to her mom anyway. That's another option.

That's exactly what I'm doing. I'm not very close to my dad, and I respect my step-dad very much, but it's really my mom who has been there for me my whole life. DF and I don't want to do anything at the wedding out of obligation, so we both decided that my mom walking me down would just be awesome..and everyone (dad and step-dad included) agreed!
Ultimately, don't do anything you're not comfortable doing...if you don't see your dad walking you down, or if you'd rather have someone else do it, then forget about tradition and do what makes you happy

 

[Sarah84]

A friend of mine had both her stepdad and dad attend the wedding so she chose to have her mom walk her down aisle. She was closer to her mom anyway. That's another option.

That was something i was considering as I am extremely close to my mum and shes the only one whos always been there for me. I was just a bit worried it might be wierd as i had never heard of anyone doing that before, but glad to see there are actually other people having their mums do it

 

[rachy]

I am also considering getting my mum to walk me down the aisle, as she is the one who i am most close to. My dad lives in Ireland so i only see him about twice a year.

Not too sure how my dad will feel about it though and unsure on how to mention it to him without him been upset.

Rachel
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[jemhao]

I am also considering getting my mum to walk me down the aisle, as she is the one who i am most close to. My dad lives in Ireland so i only see him about twice a year.

Not too sure how my dad will feel about it though and unsure on how to mention it to him without him been upset.

Rachel
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Rachel- not that I can speak for your dad by any means, but I think that parents are very conscious about their relationship to their children. What I mean by that is that if your dad only sees you a couple times a year, then I'm sure he's already aware that you and your mom are really close. That might make the conversation a little easier for you if you do decide to approach him about your mom walking you down.
Good luck with whatever you decide

 

[NitroStitch]

I've also heard of brides that have had a father on one arm and stepfather on the other - of course, that depends on everyone getting along well enough to get through that...and you'd need an aisle wide enough for three people.

 

[managirl]

I had a huge dilemma with this also. For weeks and weeks i went back and forth. I have never lived with my dad in my whole life, although we have been in contact. I want to walk down the aisle by myself but i thought it would hurt his feelings. Turns out, he called me and said he didnt want to walk me because he didnt believe in it!! Go figure! i freaked out for nothing. Anyways. Im walking up the back steps of SBP so its not that far anyways!!!

 

[tinkandonaldfans]

A friend of mine had both her stepdad and dad attend the wedding so she chose to have her mom walk her down aisle. She was closer to her mom anyway. That's another option.

I love that idea! My other sisters havn't had a traditional wedding and my mum has felt a little uninvolved so i think this would be perfect alternative!

Thanks for everyone's input!

 

[Chilly]

A friend of mine had her bio-dad walk her down the first half of the aisle, then her step-dad took over for the second half. My friend's bio-dad actually came up with that - he thought it would symbolize that he (bio-dad) was her first love, then her step-dad was her second, and then she was "passed off" to her fiance for the greatest love of all. My friend adamantly refused to be "given away"...I do believe that death was threatened upon the pastor if the words "Who gives this woman" appeared in the ceremony...

Yes they'll be no "Who gives this woman" in my ceremony either.

 

[Elsha]

My uncle will be walking me down the aisle for my VR (didn't do the 'real' wedding so hitting the traditional stuff then). We've always been extremely close. Much closer than I've ever been with both my bio dad and step dad. So it fits for me.

If he wasn't an option, would be either my mum or my best friend (happens to be a guy).