Wackiest wedding tonight

[Nancy]

I'm 48 years old and have been to lots and lots of weddings but the one I attended today really was the wackiest one ever. First off it was my SIL's BIL's wedding (her husbands brother). The wedding ceremony was a 1pm and was 45 minutes from where I live. DH and I decided to skip the ceremony and go the the reception since he worked until 5;30am and wanted to sleep a bit longer. Here is where it got strange. The invite said "adult reception immediately following in the church hall, "address" ,dinner is at 5:30.
So reading this we all assumed (including my SIL) that since it was afternoon they were reversing the reception. We would have drinks and dancing then dinner and coktail hour after dinner. NOT what happened! from 2-5:30 we sat around the church hall with cheese and crackers and warm beer cause it wasn't cold yet! People that lived close by went home after the ceremony. We got there about 10 minutes after ceremony ended, there were maybe 20 people there. The table set up was enough for 80 people, but only half the tables had table set up for dinner. there were no reserved table for family of the groom, only the bride. Big shock of the day though, 45, yes 45 extra guests showed up! They did not RSVP! So dinner was delayed an hour while extra tables were set up. Food had to be stretched to accomodate all the extras. It was really funny when an announcement was made that stated "dinner is delayed a bit because we have 45 guests show up they didn't respond" I felt so sorry for the bride and the kitchen staff. The toast to the bride and groom was made halfway through dinner kind of like an OOps I forgot type thing. Poor bride was in the bathroom crying at one point.

MOB (Mom of Bride) approaches MOG after dinner and demands to know whcih of HER family didn't RSVP. Grooms side had exactly 20n people there, all the rest were brides side. Everyone from Grooms side was there and had responded. Grooms aunt and uncle volunteered to leave before dinner since there ws so many extras, but they were convinced to stay since they HAD sent in their card.

Honeymoon for this couple is WDW! Hope it is planned better than the wedding which means hopefully her Mom had no say at all in the honeymoon plans.

 

[SplshMtn99]

We have one next month that should be interesting. Its a weekend event. Outside at a country inn/bed &breakfast. It states casual attire. Its at 1:13pm. (???) We will be sitting on bails of hay. The favors will be those squishy things that keep your beer can cool. (???) Pie instead of wedding cake. (???) Even though its casual, the bride has a very cinderella like wedding gown & the groom will have a tux. She'll be barefoot.

I along with lots of others are still very confused on what we should wear.

 

[kejoda]

oh my! what a nightmare.

 

[BeckWhy]

hehehe Your stories are very interesting!

I am so hiring a bouncer for my reception. No RSVP, you are NOT getting in. Course I'm not having an open bar either, so if people drink warm beer it's their fault for buying it.

But OMG how mad I would be if all these people just showed up. And I totally can see it happening to me. I would be my dad's side of the family. They are such cheap-os. And I'm a cheap-o, but NOT LIKE THEM! OMG! I could go on for HOURS! Anyways, I can see like my gramma (my dad's mom) "forgetting" to RSVP (course because she's a gramma we would assume she's coming anyways, but I'm just using her for an example because SHE WOULD do it), then showing up.

As for the wedding on bails of hay.. my goodness some of these weddings are getting nestalgic (sp).

 

[powellrj]

We have one next month that should be interesting. Its a weekend event. Outside at a country inn/bed &breakfast. It states casual attire. Its at 1:13pm. (???) We will be sitting on bails of hay. The favors will be those squishy things that keep your beer can cool. (???) Pie instead of wedding cake. (???) Even though its casual, the bride has a very cinderella like wedding gown & the groom will have a tux. She'll be barefoot.

I along with lots of others are still very confused on what we should wear.

you HAVE to report back after this one!!!

 

[Laugh O. Grams]

Sounds klassy with a capital K!!

 

[poochie]

OMG 45 extra people!!!!! Lets see you figure anywhere from $30 and up a head for dinner only. Hmmm no problem I just happen to have an extra $2000 in my pocket. I am planning my DD's wedding and if that happened to me I would have a stroke. Curious where was the reception held? I am from your area and I just cannot see that happening at the banquet facility I booked.

I will have an open annoucement at the dance studio welcoming any and all to the ceramony at the church. But now you got me thinking. It looks as though if we do not get a response we will be doing followup phone calls. After all we are inviting over 200 guests at this point.

 

[Grumpy's Wife]

Poor Bride. Hopefully her honeymoon will go smoothly. It really can't get much worse than the reception. Here's a little pixie dust for them just in case.

 

[DisneyMama2H&O]

We had people show up to our wedding that didn't respond either but it wasn't 45 extra. Ouch, in our area that would be more like $100 extra per person.

 

[Nancy]

OMG 45 extra people!!!!! Lets see you figure anywhere from $30 and up a head for dinner only. Hmmm no problem I just happen to have an extra $2000 in my pocket. I am planning my DD's wedding and if that happened to me I would have a stroke. Curious where was the reception held? I am from your area and I just cannot see that happening at the banquet facility I booked.

I will have an open annoucement at the dance studio welcoming any and all to the ceramony at the church. But now you got me thinking. It looks as though if we do not get a response we will be doing followup phone calls. After all we are inviting over 200 guests at this point.

The wedding was in Eden at St Mary's church, the reception was in the church hall, which wasn't all that big!

I fogot to mention the dessert fun. They served the wedding cake for dessert (which BTW, the cake was pretty small cause it was made to serve 45 less people). So the caterers take the cake away and it goes into the kitchen. A few minutes later I see a wedding guest come out with a tray of cake for her table (this is while the caterers are going back and forth trying to serve the tables). After that another guest at the next table walks into the kitchen and grabs a tray for their table. I guess they figured there wouldn't be enough cake for everyone so they just helped themseves instead of waiting. I figured these were probably the no RSVP people since they lacked a bit of class.

 

[bettyann29]

Oh that poor bride!! That is horrible..

We went to a wedding in February, I believe, it was so it was cold.. The actual wedding ceremony was held in a log cabin chapel which was very nice and elegant.. the reception was out in the sticks about 30 minutes away.. it was held in this old barn that was apparently over 100 years old and was brought from New York or something down here to Texas years ago.. it was huge!! Well just to start we parked in the grass (no big deal) as this was held in this big field.. to start with to walk from the car to the barn we had to dodge cow patties (yes huuuuuge ones!).. There was NO heat in this barn and the doors were left open the entire time.. it was literally freezing.. The food was good, the music was good.. but if you had to go to the bathroom you had to use an outhouse behind the barn in the field!!! yikes of which you had to dodge the cow patties again..

I have this thing about outhouses so I refused to drink anything the whole time as I didnt want to have to go to the bathroom..

 

[sajetto]

OMG I feel so sorry for that bride. I would probably start crying too and I'd feel like my family had no class for 45 of them to show up out of no where!

 

[4nana]

OMG ~ just when you think you've heard it all!!!

What a rocky start for your wedding day... best wishes and good luck to this couple!!

How sad, sounds like groom's family puts the 'dys' in functional.

 

[SplshMtn99]

Oh that poor bride!! That is horrible..

We went to a wedding in February, I believe, it was so it was cold.. The actual wedding ceremony was held in a log cabin chapel which was very nice and elegant.. the reception was out in the sticks about 30 minutes away.. it was held in this old barn that was apparently over 100 years old and was brought from New York or something down here to Texas years ago.. it was huge!! Well just to start we parked in the grass (no big deal) as this was held in this big field.. to start with to walk from the car to the barn we had to dodge cow patties (yes huuuuuge ones!).. There was NO heat in this barn and the doors were left open the entire time.. it was literally freezing.. The food was good, the music was good.. but if you had to go to the bathroom you had to use an outhouse behind the barn in the field!!! yikes of which you had to dodge the cow patties again..

I have this thing about outhouses so I refused to drink anything the whole time as I didnt want to have to go to the bathroom..

Must be a relative of the one we are going to.

 

[TnTsParty]

Gosh I feel sorry for that bride - at least its over. Hope the honeymoon went better. I on the other hand didn't have to worry about extra people show up I had people tell me they were coming so I paid for them and they never showed!! Talk about mad!!

 

[sameyeyam]

Stories like these are exactly why I got married in Reno!

Pulled out the phone book the morning of wedding, called made a noon reservation, then called all of family that were staying in area hotels and said "Be there at Noon".

The chapel was nicely decorated, we had a great time, no stress, no planning. When I called the chapel they even gave me several chapel color choices. It was awesome!

Then afterwards we went to one of the nicer Casino buffets, no reservations requred. They are used to thousands of people every day, so our group was fairly small. Everyone got to eat what they want, no complaints.

I know everyone is different and some women have "dream weddings" planned, but I just cringe when I watch people stressing over weddings and having problems, when it really can be so simple!

 

[LMC]

I hope my kids see the "value" of going to the courthouse and then using the wedding money to purchase a home with! My wedding was very small but still cost a lot and I did all I could to keep the expense down as I paid for it. I would not have let anyone in to the dinner that had not RSVPd. I'll have to remember that, if any of my kids have something as fancy as that. I'll have a guest list and anyone not on it won't get in!!!!

 

[bettyann29]

Stories like these are exactly why I got married in Reno!

Pulled out the phone book the morning of wedding, called made a noon reservation, then called all of family that were staying in area hotels and said "Be there at Noon".

The chapel was nicely decorated, we had a great time, no stress, no planning. When I called the chapel they even gave me several chapel color choices. It was awesome!

Then afterwards we went to one of the nicer Casino buffets, no reservations requred. They are used to thousands of people every day, so our group was fairly small. Everyone got to eat what they want, no complaints.

I know everyone is different and some women have "dream weddings" planned, but I just cringe when I watch people stressing over weddings and having problems, when it really can be so simple!

Sounds like a nice simple wedding.. I am getting married in April.. We would love to get married on a beach in the Caribbean because together we have found and really love the Caribbean, the beaches, etc.. I found a wonderful place in Jamaica and I am contemplating us just eloping to Jamaica and getting married when we go on a cruise, barefoot on the beach. Its hard because although we want to do what we want, we also want everyone to share our wonderful wedding.. but it is so stressful and I am really getting stressed right now with all the details and getting everything together.. and after hearing OP's story I am stressed that this will happen to me.. The beach is looking better and better all the time..

 

[LoraJ]

Sounds like a nice simple wedding.. I am getting married in April.. We would love to get married on a beach in the Caribbean because together we have found and really love the Caribbean, the beaches, etc.. I found a wonderful place in Jamaica and I am contemplating us just eloping to Jamaica and getting married when we go on a cruise, barefoot on the beach. Its hard because although we want to do what we want, we also want everyone to share our wonderful wedding.. but it is so stressful and I am really getting stressed right now with all the details and getting everything together.. and after hearing OP's story I am stressed that this will happen to me.. The beach is looking better and better all the time..

We're most likely going to go to vegas and get married. One part of me wants to elope, but like you, I know there are people who want to share the day with us, and who I want to be there. So, we're probably just going to do a Vegas chapel and then have dinner somewhere. No fancy reception.

 

[MamaLema]

Anyone who knows me knows how I feel about RVSP's (respond, dammit!!!)

If that were my wedding, I would have served the guests that replied and told the others that there's a KFC at the corner if they're hungry. OK, OK I wouldn't do that, but it's tempting