visiting relatives out of state

[plutojudy]

We are visiting my first cousin, once removed this summer. We are staying in a hotel and seeing them for about 4 hours. There are 2 of us and 9 of them. They mentioned going to dinner. Who pays?

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

I'd say everyone pays for their own. If someone else offers, fine, but I always expect to pay for myself(and my immediate family).

 

[BLAZEY]

If you are staying in a hotel everyone pays for there own. If they are hosting you in their home I always try to pay for the meal out as they are saving me hotel cost and many times car rental/ taxi, and other meals (breakfast in the morning).

 

[rastahomie]

Manners and etiquette have changed over the years, of course. But I was raised that the hosts pay for dinner. Since your relatives are the "hosts" (even though you're only in their city, they still count as hosts in my book), they should pay.

HOWEVER, if things look awkward when the check comes, just grab it. I hate playing that stupid game.

 

[handinpocket]

You pay for yours, they pay for theirs.

 

[mom2rtk]

Tell the server when you order that it will be just the 2 of you on one ticket. Then no need to discuss or split anything later.

 

[undertheradar]

Each family pays for themselves.

 

[Gumbo4x4]

Just be sure you're up on the local bread buttering etiquette.

 

[mom2rtk]

Just be sure you're up on the local bread buttering etiquette.

The good threads never go out of style.

 

[RedAngie]

9 of them and two of you? You split the check in half, of course.

 

[rastahomie]

Just be sure you're up on the local bread buttering etiquette.

I'm going to need to know what this is about.

 

[mom2rtk]

I'm going to need to know what this is about.

Not certain this is the original, but it looks fun regardless:

https://www.disboards.com/threads/table-manners.2917532/

 

[Allison]

Everybody pays their own way.

 

[CdnCarrie]

Get 2 separated cheques. Everyone pays for their own.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

Just be sure you're up on the local bread buttering etiquette.

Yep...one bite at a time
Things you learn on the DIS...

 

[mi*vida*loca]

You split it 11 ways. They order steaks. You order side salads.

JK. I would just ask for a separate check for us two.

 

[Luv Bunnies]

If two relatives were coming to my state and paying to stay in a hotel, I would buy them dinner. I would never expect them to pick up the check, especially if there were nine people of us and only two of them. If they insisted on chipping in their share, I would accept it. But I would initially grab the check.

 

[Wendy31]

Just be sure you're up on the local bread buttering etiquette.

Not certain this is the original, but it looks fun regardless:

https://www.disboards.com/threads/table-manners.2917532/

Hahaha! I posted in that thread! It's hard to believe that's already been 5 years ago!

And, for the record, I knew the correct way to butter my bread.

 

[shoney]

I would never ask for separate checks. Just not something that is the norm.

If I were the hosts I would pay for ur dinner.

If they aren't going to I would just offer up enough cash to cover what I ordered plus tax and tip and then add extra.

 

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

We are visiting my first cousin, once removed this summer. We are staying in a hotel and seeing them for about 4 hours. There are 2 of us and 9 of them. They mentioned going to dinner. Who pays?

Well technically because they are hosting and mentioned it, they should. But I wouldn't count on it. I'd say there is a good chance each family will pay for their own.