visiting relatives out of state

[Skippy918]

Split checks are common where I live and most places ask up front. Last weekend we went to dinner with friends from out of town. It was our family of four and their family of five. Not an issue at all with splitting by family.

 

[John VN]

DW and I went out with DW's sister and her husband. We had water and they had wine and mixed drinks. 4 people split 4 ways, NOT IN MY BOOK. Their liquor bill alone was more than our meals. We paid ours, they paid their BILL.

 

[FairestOfThemAll37]

That's interesting. And not the case here. I have to think with people splitting it themselves and everyone just throwing cash into the pot that the server would do better getting the appropriate tip with separate checks. Or maybe they automatically add the tip for the larger parties and don't want people trying to avoid that by splitting?


Embarrassed? To pay for just your share? We don't drink, never order appetizers. I will always get hosed in that deal. I'm glad I live in an area where nobody bats an eye at splitting.

Me too! Thankfully separate checks isn't some taboo thing where I live. I usually ask out of the gate for a separate check so I can order what I want and not worry what anybody else does.

As somebody who drinks maybe a few times a year "just split it x ways" gets super annoying when everybody is downing an extra $50-$100 in booze (pre-dinner cocktail, bottle of wine, after dinner drink blah blah blah) so my $50 meal ends up being $100.


As for this situation-I wouldn't assume there is a host. It sounds like you guys are only seeing each other for a small amount of time so maybe the restaurant was so you wouldn't all have to sit at their house? I'd try to ask at the beginning for a separate check for you two.

 

[plutojudy]

Thanks everyone.
The wording was "Meet somewhere or maybe meet us at the house then we can go eat or something."
We already decided we will pay our share and round it up including tip.

 

[CdnCarrie]

I'm not even sure how we would go about "paying our share" over just paying our own separate bill. We never carry cash. I just use our Mastercard to rack up points and pay it back on my mobile app.

 

[shoney]

I'm not even sure how we would go about "paying our share" over just paying our own separate bill. We never carry cash. I just use our Mastercard to rack up points and pay it back on my mobile app.

When going out with groups I will stop and get cash. I never carry cash.
Sometime ppl will throw up a card and say put xxx on it. I just find it easier to stop at the ATM.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I was referring to flat out asking the relatives if they were paying before hand. Not asking on the dis.

Let's put it this way, I do not dine out with my brother's anymore since they will ask us to pay for them because they are "broke".

Then they go on vacation and buy a van.

I just don't assume anything, anymore.

 

[Kae]

I don't understand why some folks think separate checks is hard, with the P.O.S. systems place have now its very easy for a server to do. Around here they even split bottles of wine and shared apps right on the bills.

Kae

 

[MrsDuck]

Tell the server when you order that it will be just the 2 of you on one ticket. Then no need to discuss or split anything later.

Always the best approach!

 

[mjkacmom]

I don't understand why some folks think separate checks is hard, with the P.O.S. systems place have now its very easy for a server to do. Around here they even split bottles of wine and shared apps right on the bills.

Kae

I do t think anyone said it was hard, heck I've done it other places and it's great. It's just not really done here.