Violent Kid at Daycare?

[AC7179]

There is a little boy in my daughter's daycare who sent three kids to the hospital last year.

Two for stitches, one for a concussion.

He is only 2 and I don't dislike the little boy, but I am quite concerned for my daughter's safety.

His mom said he wasn't going to be at daycare this year, but today we started and suprise, he was there.

Here's the kicker, apparently the mom threw a fit and wanted him back in after she unenrolled him.

He was told he would have to go to the bottom of the waiting list.

Somehow, months later, the mom somehow got him back to the top of list, surpassing kids that have been waiting for months.

Is it an okay thing for me to voice my displeasure to the director for allowing him back in? I'm not saying that they should have kicked him out, but once she gave up his spot, I'm not sure I would be doing her any favors to get him back in.

If my daughter has to go to the hospital because of him, I would be furious, mainly because he has a history of being violent.

Can I complain about it, or is it not any of my business?

 

[Chris2597]

Yes, talk to the director. I direct a preschool program, thankfully I havent had anything as bad as you describe happen in the 25 yrs I have been directing a program.... I would want to know what the plan is to keep the other children/your daughter safe. How many chances will he have? I would also ask if the state was notified (licensing agency)of the injury incidents last yr. The state should require a correction. Good luck....but this is something that needs to be watched.

 

[Uncle Remus]

I can't believe this kid is allowed IN this program. Sounds like he AND his mother belong in a "special" program.

 

[Allison]

Of course you should talk to the director.

 

[mytwotinks]

Yes! You should definately talk to the director. I personally think the kid should have been thrown out. I can't think of a better reason to throw a kid out than sending one classmate to the E.R. not to mention 3!!!!! I would insist that your dd NEVER EVER EVER be in the same room as this kid.

 

[LadyBears]

The 2 year old caused 3 kids to go to the ER???????????

If he is doing this at 2 - can you image 12 or 20??

I would let my voice be heard with the school administration!

 

[Hedy]

I can't believe this kid is allowed IN this program. Sounds like he AND his mother belong in a "special" program.

I think somebody needs to read the "retarded" thread.

 

[Chris2597]

I wish it were as simple as not allowing a child to re-enroll....Programs that are state licensed have to adhere to guidelines concerning excluding children...there is a process..There appears to be adequate documentation to "expell" the child but the directors hand may be tied, if proper steps were not taken.
I am also curious what stress the agressive child might be under causing him to be this way.
Again, I would ask the director if the injuries that caused medical care were reported to the state. Under Tx licensing law an injury must be reported to the state licensing agency that occurs during care that causes injury requiring medical treatment...

 

[mking624]

I would personally be calling some authorities to have that home checked out. There is nothing normal about a 2 year old sending children to the hospital.

 

[Blondy876]

The 2 year old caused 3 kids to go to the ER???????????

If he is doing this at 2 - can you image 12 or 20??

I would let my voice be heard with the school administration!

Well, a 4 year old caused me to miscarry after striking me with a table, you'd be shocked at the behavior of some of these little ones. It makes me sad to think about what must have happened in their short little lives to make them so angry.

This is also what I was going to add:

I wish it were as simple as not allowing a child to re-enroll....Programs that are state licensed have to adhere to guidelines concerning excluding children...there is a process..There appears to be adequate documentation to "expell" the child but the directors hand may be tied, if proper steps were not taken.
I am also curious what stress the agressive child might be under causing him to be this way.
Again, I would ask the director if the injuries that caused medical care were reported to the state. Under Tx licensing law an injury must be reported to the state licensing agency that occurs during care that causes injury requiring medical treatment...

It's not always easy to expell a child. The child that injured me remained in my class the enitire year. It's not right, but that's the way it is in some states.

I would definatly speak to the director, but I honestly don't know what the answer would be.

 

[ZipaDeeDooDah]

Sending 1 child to the hospital would be considered an accident; 2 could be considered a fluke; but 3 should be considered a pattern.

I would definitely voice my displeasure to the director, document everything that has happened so far, and start looking for a new daycare if possible.

 

[Bob Slydell]

Certainly speak to the director.

I guess, as others have pointed out, it depends on the type of daycare as far as what they can do in terms of expelling the child. I know in my DS' preschool, they had a boy who physically attacked a couple children (including trying to choke my son ) and he was gone pretty much right away. It's spelled out in the rules and regulations of the school that a pattern of physical violence pretty gets your child expelled.

DS still refers to that boy as "the evil one".

 

[cardaway]

Do talk to those in charge and be ready to be very serious about the matter. Insist they have a solution or plan the day you complain. Many of the violent kids are actually bouncing from one daycare to another because of their violent behavior.

We have only kicked out one child in the ten years we have had ours open. Turns out he was one of the kids making the rounds. I felt sorry for the mother since she had to deal with being kicked out, but there was no way we could continue to put the other kids at risk.

 

[4greatboys]

Can I complain about it, or is it not any of my business?

Not only can you but I dont see how you cannot. This kid clearly is a danger to others and its the responsibility of the school/daycare to make sure the kids are safe. I would be in there ASAP talking to them.

Good Luck!

 

[belle&beast]

I think somebody needs to read the "retarded" thread.

This comment is uncalled for and is very offensive to others.

However, I think the OP should contact the day care director especially other children's safety is at risk.

 

[lillygator]

What exactly did he do to the other children?

I would talk to the director about the safety of your child...not necessarily the waiting list issue...

 

[lowie]

just as i wouldn't send my child to a program that has a violent teacher i wouldn't send him to one with a violent child. your daycare should have given you behavior guideline booklet when you signed up with exactly how they handle disruptive kids.

also, i agree with the poster who says that there must be something going on in this kids personal life to have them act like this at just 2 years old!

i'd pull out my child if there was anyway he'd be in contact with that other kid.

 

[belle&beast]

This comment is uncalled for and is very offensive to others.

However, I think the OP should contact the day care director especially other children's safety is at risk.

Sorry I hadn't seen the thread and that word really offends ME. I apologize

 

[mickeyfan2]

Definitely talk to the director. The kid causes injuries to other kids and then get preferential treatment!

 

[Hillbeans]

I had a similar issue with my son when he was 3 and in a daycare program. I brought my son in at a later time one day than usual, and as I was helping him by his cubby hole, I saw one of the other 3 year olds kick the teacher in the stomach and scream - the teacher was trying to subdue the child. My son had his hands over his ears and he looked terrified. I asked her at the time if she was ok and she said she was - that the student had "anxiety" from being separated from her mother.

Later that day I spoke with the teacher and the director about the incident and I was not happy with their response to the issue. It was very obvious to me that this had been going on for awhile and all these other kids were being subjected to one child taking up the time, attention, and not to mention the well being of the teacher. While I do feel that *everyone* should be given the chance to go to regular daycare/preschool, I also believe that it's not fair to subject everyone to being around a violent child.

I don't know what the answer is exactly, but I pulled my child and sent him to a home daycare setting and it worked out really well for us.