Venting a little bit.....

[JenDisFan02]

I am loving going through threads on here, they've given me some great ideas. DH is sort of like whatever, I'd like to have free dining to pay for our airfare (meaning the cost of the free dining will be refunded to us, and we can pay for the airfare). I've been switching things, asking questions here, and have been shifting plans and all that. I get that men are different, but if I'm trying to get us the best deal, as well as low crowds, etc, I'm a little upset that he's not rolling with the punches. We've got plenty of time to get things done, it's going to be late Oct early Nov.....why be lukewarm??

Okay.....end rant. Sorry if that didn't make any sense.

Jen

 

[eyor44]

I get it. You are working so hard to have the best trip ever while being economical and he isn't really caring about all the work you put into it. My family is the same way. That's one reason I come here.

 

[pigletto]

I don't mean to laugh.. and I am certainly not laughing AT you. But I am definitely laughing with you. I have a husband who always has a very nice time on our trips and will pitch in an idea here or there when we are planning but that's it. Do you know how many tense conversations we had in those first few trips when I felt he just didn't care about the planning or anything but the bottom line (cost)? MANY!
It took about 3 trips for me to understand that he just didn't care like I did, and that was ok because I had other Disney fanatics here to share my obsession with and that was just fine.
We have it down to a science now. I give him a few choices of dates, or a few choices of resort.. he makes a selection and that is about it for his input. He also never complains when we get there and is genuinely happy with whatever I plan. In fact he even said on one trip "Kids, tell your mom she plans the best trips ever. What would we do without her?".

It's just the way it goes for us. I don't even think now that I would want a husband who was as obsessed with it as me. I like having the control and choices and I like that everyone seems genuinely pleased with what I plan. I think it would only bother me if I did all the planning and everyone complained.. but they never do.

Share your enthusiasm with us. Thats what we are here for!

 

[JenDisFan02]

Thank you for the response!! Glad to know I'm not the only one!!

 

[JenDisFan02]

Thank you, this makes me feel sooooo much better!!!!

 

[4HppyCamprs]

I don't mean to laugh.. and I am certainly not laughing AT you. But I am definitely laughing with you. I have a husband who always has a very nice time on our trips and will pitch in an idea here or there when we are planning but that's it. Do you know how many tense conversations we had in those first few trips when I felt he just didn't care about the planning or anything but the bottom line (cost)? MANY!
It took about 3 trips for me to understand that he just didn't care like I did, and that was ok because I had other Disney fanatics here to share my obsession with and that was just fine.
We have it down to a science now. I give him a few choices of dates, or a few choices of resort.. he makes a selection and that is about it for his input. He also never complains when we get there and is genuinely happy with whatever I plan. In fact he even said on one trip "Kids, tell your mom she plans the best trips ever. What would we do without her?".

It's just the way it goes for us. I don't even think now that I would want a husband who was as obsessed with it as me. I like having the control and choices and I like that everyone seems genuinely pleased with what I plan. I think it would only bother me if I did all the planning and everyone complained.. but they never do.

Share your enthusiasm with us. Thats what we are here for!

That is my husband as well. Happy to be there, appreciates how smoothly things roll but doesn't help plan.

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[tina.tina]

I don't even think now that I would want a husband who was as obsessed with it as me. I like having the control and choices and I like that everyone seems genuinely pleased with what I plan. I think it would only bother me if I did all the planning and everyone complained.. but they never do.

Share your enthusiasm with us. Thats what we are here for!

Pigletto is right. Be careful what you wish for. Your DH may have an (gasp!) opinion that doesn't agree with what you know is best. Then, what would you do!?!

You can get advice here, but nobody will know if you don't listen!

 

[ancestry]

DH and most of my family are the same way. My daughters get a bit excited and involved in the planning but the guys not so much. They just want to book it and be done with it and dislike when I keep tweaking everything.

 

[DisneyFansInLINY]

My DH is the same way. So sometimes I want to say forget it and do nothing to plan for our trip. Just so he knows how things would be otherwise.

 

[redrosesix]

I am loving going through threads on here, they've given me some great ideas. DH is sort of like whatever, I'd like to have free dining to pay for our airfare (meaning the cost of the free dining will be refunded to us, and we can pay for the airfare). I've been switching things, asking questions here, and have been shifting plans and all that. I get that men are different, but if I'm trying to get us the best deal, as well as low crowds, etc, I'm a little upset that he's not rolling with the punches. We've got plenty of time to get things done, it's going to be late Oct early Nov.....why be lukewarm??

Okay.....end rant. Sorry if that didn't make any sense.

Jen

For us, it's like shopping. He can't figure out why I don't know in advance what I want, just get in there, get it and leave asap.

It makes me wonder sometimes whether he cares what he does at all. Like if I just make sure he has food everything will be fine with him. And then I just do what I want anyways.

He says I make it too complicated, but he's the one who got lost on the way to WWoS and ended up in Kissimmee.

 

[JenDisFan02]

Yes!!! Yes!!! He is my best friend and otherwise is a wonderful spouse, but man oh man, just shut up and let me do my thing....

 

[jimandami]

My DH always tells me it doesn't matter what he thinks because he knows I will change it all a million times before we ever go....and he is 100% correct

 

[Gumbo4x4]

Information overload.

You've given him a plan, changed it, changed it again, will continue to change as you go. He doesn't want to know all the minute details about the current plan because he knows this isn't the final plan.


That's my take on it - as a man

 

[wiigirl]

 

[jmmess]

I'm right there with you! Hubby doesn't even get excited about a trip until we're on it. Of course, I love the planning, the deals, the steals, and every part of making it a reality. I now know he won't get as excited about my OCD for Disney and trip planning, so I share a few details here and there, but use these boards to feed (and shout ) my excitement!

 

[JenDisFan02]

I just texted him and told him he takes off work when I say, and fly when I say fly. No answer

Edited to add, he said that works for him

 

[blueiis99]

My DH is the same. I drive myself nuts organizing everything and when we finally get there he'll ask questions because he knows I've done all the research. Lol.

Now I get him involved by having him do the spreadsheet. (This took a little prodding)
(I use this for the chosen parks of the day, it helps keep track of EMH and restaurant reservations and flight info) I don't plan hour by hour, but I don't like sitting around for hrs asking what do you want to do for the day either

After all if my months of planning, I will hold a quick q & a during dinner a couple of times (say once a month) to get ideas on what things are a must do and restaurants they would like to try and to see how they feel about the arrangements already planned. This way I know that I have done the best I can with their input and if they don't voice when asked then they can't complain.

 

[Wildernessbride2005]

My husband gives his imput the day before we leave. Ugh. Usually he gets ignored and has a fabulous time there.

 

[SandyinMonterey]

Same here. That's why my husband calls me his travel agent.

 

[Marionnette]

I just texted him and told him he takes off work when I say, and fly when I say fly. No answer

Edited to add, he said that works for him

Strong words. In my house, they would have backfired on the spouse that used them. If my husband texted me something similar to that, he wouldn't have had to worry about whether I was taking off for the trip or not. He would have been going alone.