Vent- I was rude this morning-

[englishteacha]

I wish people didn't just drop in. It doesn't happen often but it bothers me when it does. My sister often calls us early in the morning (My DH works nights, so we ask everyone not to call before 10 AM). She called at 7:25 on Saturday. She thinks it's FUNNY to call and wake us, and we've spoken to her about it dozens of times. We have a phone by our bed in case of emergencies and snow days. She calls early and every time says, "Oh, I just wanted to leave a message." It makes me so angry, but I can't turn off the ringers to all the phones in the off chance she's going to be a brat and call early.

 

[meloneyb21]

I hate when people think they're doing something right by calling first....when they're already outside! Like "Hey, I'm outside, come open the door." Therefore, they kinda catch you when you answer the phone and they're already there so you're basically stuck.

 

[kaytieeldr]

Here, OP - you need one (or more) of these http://www.amazon.com/Go-Away-Door-Mat-1601/dp/B000I1UYXO

 

[Silent1CB]

I would have answered the door in my sexiest nighty & pretended like I had a male guest in my room waiting for me to return to him.

Sorry, now isn't a good time to visit.

 

[mom2rb]

I have no idea why your mom would take their side. Does she think it is ok to just drop by? I would have opened my door just to tell them to get the h#$$ off of my porch.

 

[Angelhalo]

OP I agree with you!

A few weeks ago we had a yard sale and a fellow praise band member from church stopped by on her morning jog. She saw some paintings that she liked but had no money with her so I set them inside for her. (I offered to just give them to her as I didn't care about the money, but she couldn't carry them with her on her jog) I keep meaning to take them to her at church because she keeps saying she is going to stop by one day for them. If she stops by I'll have to let her in because it would seem rude not too. But, I never know what my house will look like. Some days it is spotless and some days it looks like my husband turned into a tornado. I DO NOT want her to "stop by"!!!! Why do people think "Stopping by" is ok???

 

[Chernabog#1fan]

I wish people didn't just drop in. It doesn't happen often but it bothers me when it does. My sister often calls us early in the morning (My DH works nights, so we ask everyone not to call before 10 AM). She called at 7:25 on Saturday. She thinks it's FUNNY to call and wake us, and we've spoken to her about it dozens of times. We have a phone by our bed in case of emergencies and snow days. She calls early and every time says, "Oh, I just wanted to leave a message." It makes me so angry, but I can't turn off the ringers to all the phones in the off chance she's going to be a brat and call early.

Are you able to block just her number from calling? I know it is a feature a lot of phone companies are offering now.

 

[Bunchkin]

Wow! That is the rudest thing I've heard lately!

My family all knows to call first.

DH's family is another story though!
For example, we've had his parents come in to town without any notice and just call up and say what are you doing. We were in Chicago and they came in from Vegas.
Another example, the day after bringing our son home from the hospital after his birth, DH's sister and her husband rang the doorbell and we had NO clue they were in town! Again we were in Chicago and they are from California!! There we were, it was early morning, everyone in their pajamas and just taking it easy and oodeling over the baby and feeding him, letting his big sister get to know him...and the doorbell rings with 2 of the most annoying people in the family (world) who we rarely speak to!!!!!

 

[Stacerita]

Ugh! I hate when people just stop by. All my friends know not to stop by without a call first. And my family who I am close with knows this as well. Its just rude. We also don't call too early in the morning or too late in the evening. Its just not right.

 

[RC Fan]

Here, OP - you need one (or more) of these http://www.amazon.com/Go-Away-Door-Mat-1601/dp/B000I1UYXO

Nice! I like it! There was a saying I got from these boards that I always think should be made into one of those cutesy signs: If we didn't invite you, you aren't welcome .

 

[teskak]

I agree with the earlier poster - greet them at the door in a sheet & mussed up hair.

Say that you & a friend were "greeting the morning" and that you will be with them shortly. Or that you were doing it yourself.... Let them in and toddle off to the bedroom, then bless them with 15 mins of OOH, AAAH, screaming etc. After you have reached a natural & very loud conclusion have a shower and greet them afterwards with a big smile & ask what was the reason for showing up so early.

If they have kids they will be long gone & never trouble you again.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I wish people didn't just drop in. It doesn't happen often but it bothers me when it does. My sister often calls us early in the morning (My DH works nights, so we ask everyone not to call before 10 AM). She called at 7:25 on Saturday. She thinks it's FUNNY to call and wake us, and we've spoken to her about it dozens of times. We have a phone by our bed in case of emergencies and snow days. She calls early and every time says, "Oh, I just wanted to leave a message." It makes me so angry, but I can't turn off the ringers to all the phones in the off chance she's going to be a brat and call early.

Wow. I would block her number if my sister did that.

 

[dismom2]

I wish people didn't just drop in. It doesn't happen often but it bothers me when it does. My sister often calls us early in the morning (My DH works nights, so we ask everyone not to call before 10 AM). She called at 7:25 on Saturday. She thinks it's FUNNY to call and wake us, and we've spoken to her about it dozens of times. We have a phone by our bed in case of emergencies and snow days. She calls early and every time says, "Oh, I just wanted to leave a message." It makes me so angry, but I can't turn off the ringers to all the phones in the off chance she's going to be a brat and call early.

I can relate...
My in-law's are VERY early risers (can we say 'Morning People'?) while I am the opposite (night owl), and they used to call at like 5:30 am. Just because they are awake does not mean we are (and we're not). They didn't stop until I got mad. They couldn't just stop when I nicely asked them, repeatedly. Of course, that made me look like a meanie. But, at least they don't do it anymore.

OP: maybe you could put a 'do not disturb' sign on the door (like the kind used in hotels), or make your own sign. I've seen signs that people taped to their door saying baby is sleeping, or someone is sick... you could also say you are busy studying.

 

[Darsa]

I haven't read all of the posts here, but I can definitely sympathize with you, OP! My DH is going through the same type thing, finishing school/work/internship all at the same time, and sleep is something of a luxury for the poor guy. We try sososo hard to make sure that he's not disturbed when he finally DOES catch some sleep, but there are a select few family members who have no concept of consideration for others.

I am VERY sorry you have to deal with this; hopefully they'll catch a clue. When I read they were knocking on the WINDOWS and on YOUR BEDROOM window, I was like for you, I can NOT imagine anything more rude than that.

 

[JR6ooo4]

UGH! I am right there with you! CALL FIRST! It is so rude!

The other Sunday, I was home and was having a lazy cleaning morning. I was still in my PJ's (which are SCARY!), my hair was a mess, and I didn't have a stitch of makeup on. I had the TV on and was cleaning my floors, and I looked out my big front living room pictur window and see a car pull up in my driveway. It was the people who sold us our house! They must have come to be nosy! I immediately ran and hid in the basement, but I heard them knocking on my front door for about ten minutes... hopefully they got the message, what with the TV on and all!

Ouch!!! You sew your makeup on? Heheheheee

Mikeeee

 

[mrsklamc]

I had kind of an epiphany about this. Someone called my husband, who was on the phone with his parents. When he didn't answer, they jumped online looking for him. We are creating a society where everybody thinks everyone should be immediately available to them.

 

[zippitydoo]

You were def not the rude one they were. Just the fact that they knew you might be busy and they still came over uninvited. and not only thay they persistently kept knocking. I mean get the hint and leave your not welcome if you would of been polite and called first i would of told you no. What you did was 100% correct.