Vent: Childfree vs. the parents at a party

[DawnCt1]

I can't imagine a group of adults would actually abide by this. To just sit around and stare at the kid.
No adult had any more conversations or anything?? I don't know.....sounds a little over the top to me.
I'm thinking maybe this story is stretched just a little bit.

Not necessarily. I have seen groups of people bullied by outspoken, assertive, narcissistic morons.

 

[lacrosse_lady72]

Not necessarily. I have seen groups of people bullied by outspoken, assertive, narcissistic morons.

Well truth be told, I can't think of many group where this isn't true.

 

[chloelovesdisney]

Well I'm not sure why everyone else at the party allowed them to dictate the rules, I would have just ignored them and continued on. The host that invited them should have pulled them aside and set them straight.

 

[dakcp2001]

Ugh, I shared a cube with one of these type of parents, and all day long it was my baby my baby my baby blah blah blah. Such a constant annoyance and every single customer that called in had to hear the same stories about Snowflake. I got the pleasure of hearing them constantly over and ovr all day. Oh and she did also critisize every other parent on the planet. I asked for my desk to be moved. So did everyone else, she now has her own corner in my former office. And now she has baby #2 so it has started again.

Its hard because you want to be polite, but it gets to a point where you have to say something. They need to hear it. lol. Otherwise everyone just goes on avoiding them.

 

[mamacatnv]

Honestly, I feel that one of the reasons these parents exist and continue to thrive is because people won't say anything, they prefer to bow to the idiot demands so as to not hurt someones feelings etc.......

Go to a restaurant and a kid is misbehaving while the parents ignore it. Then count how many including management and staff will actually say something. More often than not Snowie continues to irritate everyone and yet no one says a thing.
Unless of course I am at said restaurant......

 

[Lionqueen2]

Not necessarily. I have seen groups of people bullied by outspoken, assertive, narcissistic morons.

So true! Some people just feel the entire world revolves around just them.

 

[mhsjax]

Yeah people like that irritate the snot out of me too and I am a parent. They think they are the only people who ever have had a child. Just wait until someone else in the group has a kid, they will tell them that they are doing everything wrong. A 10 month old wouldn't know what an earthquake was if it was in the middle of one! Don't worry they will act like this and the child in a year when they are about to hit 2 will give them a comeuppances!

And also be sure and stick around for the 3 year old. As my pediatrician said a 3 year old is just like a 2 year old, with one year experience. lol Fun times to be had.

 

[Ciao Mickey]

Last night we were invited to a house warming /bbq for some friends. There were about 15 people there, all chatting very nicely. Then "the parents" arrived. All of a sudden the entire evening was devoted to the 10 month old. Conversation had to stop when baby was sleepy. Parents asked we not talk about things like the earthquake or floods that are currently world news because they don't want negative images in their baby's mind. (??) So we basically spent several hours staring at this kid while his parents narrated his every move. They waxed on poetically about his every glance and what they thought it meant. They also went on, in a room full of people without children, to laugh about how meaningless life is if you aren't a parent. Not surprisingly, the party ended very early.

I know there are parents out there who are still non-irritating human beings, in fact I would hazard this is most of them. And for these people I would like to extend a huge thank you. Because babies are like weddings, the only people who really care all that much are the couple.

So whose fault was it really that the evening was ruined? Should you blame the *dopey* new parents or do you blame the people that went along with their dopiness?

 

[Gigi22]

Good grief! What happened to the host and hostess during this snore-fest? I'd have been at the door, ushering these utter bores out of my house, so fast their little heads would have been spinning (perhaps in a full 360 degree circle, much like the original Exorcist)!

 

[Erin1700]

Oh, you spent the evening with my brother and sister in law and their precious snowflake???

 

[DawnCt1]

Oh, you spent the evening with my brother and sister in law and their precious snowflake???

Small world!

 

[DawnCt1]

The snowflake syndrome doesn't end at the preschool door but I was rather hopeful that any illusions about snowflakes would have been dispensed with by college. I have a friend whose DS goes to the same large college that my DS goes to. They don't see each other and I am not sure they would recognize each other if they did. DS lives in off campus housing on the college bus route and easily walking distance to campus. Her DS, being so busy and brilliant, missed confirming his dorm room and now he has to stay at the on campus hotel for twice the money. We pay DSs rent, it is cheaper than a dorm room and because he has an apartment with three other guys, he can make basic meals, frozen dinners, etc so he has a cash allowance for such things. The meal plan is more expensive and less convenient.
She was complaining about how expensive the cost of living now is for her DS, and ask me about my DS's expenses. She told me that her DS is taking 7 upper level science courses, tutoring, and is so brilliant that "his professors look like idiots" and "cannot answer a single question completely' that her DS asks. Because he so busy, and so extended, he wouldn't even have time to "make himself toast in the morning", etc, etc. but "btw, would my DS have room for another guy in their apartment"? At the time she asked, they would have. Did I say so? NO WAY! Not only do I NOT want to hear about a snowflake, I would guess that DS wouldn't want to LIVE with a snowflake.

 

[lacrosse_lady72]

The snowflake syndrome doesn't end at the preschool door but I was rather hopeful that any illusions about snowflakes would have been dispensed with by college. I have a friend whose DS goes to the same large college that my DS goes to. They don't see each other and I am not sure they would recognize each other if they did. DS lives in off campus housing on the college bus route and easily walking distance to campus. Her DS, being so busy and brilliant, missed confirming his dorm room and now he has to stay at the on campus hotel for twice the money. We pay DSs rent, it is cheaper than a dorm room and because he has an apartment with three other guys, he can make basic meals, frozen dinners, etc so he has a cash allowance for such things. The meal plan is more expensive and less convenient.
She was complaining about how expensive the cost of living now is for her DS, and ask me about my DS's expenses. She told me that her DS is taking 7 upper level science courses, tutoring, and is so brilliant that "his professors look like idiots" and "cannot answer a single question completely' that her DS asks. Because he so busy, and so extended, he wouldn't even have time to "make himself toast in the morning", etc, etc. but "btw, would my DS have room for another guy in their apartment"? At the time she asked, they would have. Did I say so? NO WAY! Not only do I NOT want to hear about a snowflake, I would guess that DS wouldn't want to LIVE with a snowflake.

Haha... that sounds like some guy that lived with my fiance in college. They got rid of him REAL fast. Funny enough, he dropped out the beginning of his sophomore year.

 

[Cooky]

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[phorsenuf]

It's easy to say that everyone should have just told the "parents" how inconsiderate they were being but it is not always easy.

I have more than once politely suggested to parents that their children's presence or behavior was inappropriate for the venue or occasion (i.e. university biology lab, university library quiet section, throwing rocks at birds in a fountain at the college, small child pushing a grocery cart into my leg, etc.) and the response that I have gotten more than once is that I am told that I hate children.

I don't say anything anymore. It is so not worth it. Parents who do these things are either totally clueless and there is no getting through to them or they know exactly what they are doing and then their response is that there is something wrong with you.

I had to quote this because for some reason this poster goes back through and changes all her posts to .
How exciting to actually read one. LOL

 

[PrincessMomto2]

Sheesh sounds like they are one fun couple to have around. (NOT!) We all know someone similar and their kids all grow up to be spoiled brats! We have friends who were like that with their daughter and now she is such a snotty teenager. She is nasty to everyone including adults. Now neither of my girls are perfect by any means but at least they have been taught to respect others and that the world unfortunately does not revolve around them.

Children need to know they are loved but they also need to know what the real world is like as well. They are going to have to know how to get along with people of all different types. I guess this includes snowflakes as well!

I agree with the others if these parents continue to act this way they will not be invited to another party. I feel for the OP and I agree it is not easy to stand up to people like this especially in a social setting.

 

[Jennasis]

I had to quote this because for some reason this poster goes back through and changes all her posts to .
How exciting to actually read one. LOL

Well played.

 

[lacrosse_lady72]

I had to quote this because for some reason this poster goes back through and changes all her posts to .
How exciting to actually read one. LOL

Well played.

Ohhhhh... now I'm curious about other threads.

ETA: Wow, I looked and there are a lot of deleted posts. Definitely cooky, although maybe not the word I would choose. My the parents dislike her for other reasons.

 

[krcit]

I had to quote this because for some reason this poster goes back through and changes all her posts to .
How exciting to actually read one. LOL

 

[Magic Mom]

Last night we were invited to a house warming /bbq for some friends. There were about 15 people there, all chatting very nicely. Then "the parents" arrived. All of a sudden the entire evening was devoted to the 10 month old. Conversation had to stop when baby was sleepy. Parents asked we not talk about things like the earthquake or floods that are currently world news because they don't want negative images in their baby's mind. (??) So we basically spent several hours staring at this kid while his parents narrated his every move. They waxed on poetically about his every glance and what they thought it meant. They also went on, in a room full of people without children, to laugh about how meaningless life is if you aren't a parent. Not surprisingly, the party ended very early.

Are you joking? Why? You (in general) can parent how you want to, but don't expect me to follow your stupid instructions just becuase you think the world should stop when your kid farts. I wouldn't have been nasty about it, but I surely wouldn't have stoped enjoying myself at the instructions of idiots like that.