Vent About My Dad

[Aisling]

You're assuming though that this is the, or one of, the biggest issues in my life at the moment. It's not. It's just something that I was annoyed by that I wanted to vent about. I do have other things in my life that are worse, I just don't like to post major problems on an internet forum.

Don't sweat this thread. People vent here on the CB ALL the time about ridiculous things. The people who are giving you a hard time are trying to psychoanalyze you. They don't know your family and your way of life. If I made the pudding and my dad came along and ate the whole thing, I'd be POed, too!
Vent away, we all do!

 

[FayeW]

Not to mention, doesn't HE live in his own MIL's house? Uh, and complains about her quite a bit?

But he's trying to be one of the "cool kids" now.

He lives in a house his MIL owns, and pays full market rent. She is a landlord, who also happens to be his MIL.

Very big difference. Nice try though.

 

[yeartolate]

From what I have read, you are 23.

If you are not paying your full way in the household, let your dad have th epudding and be thankful you have a cheap or free roof over your head.

If you pay your full way in the house, then take him to small claims court to get back the $.69 for the pudding and the $.22 for the milk.

Yeah, I buy that he should have asked. But you are treating him like he is the evil roomate, not a father. If you feel as if he is the evil roomate - move out and re-introduce yourself to your father.

I wonder if the "pudding incident" is a way of a parent hinting to you that it is time to leave the nest ( a natural thing to do) and make your way on your own.

 

[darlak]

Just a thought...you have your reasons for wanting and/or needing to remain in your parents home, however, your frustration with the situation with your father compels you to continue to start threads. We, here on the CB, continue to suggest that as an adult, you could easily remedy the situation by moving out of your parents home.

So my thought is...why don't you start posting your "Vent"'s over on the Teen Board. I suspect that there you may find an audience more receptive to the general feelings of "OMG, my parents are driving me crazy!!!!" Because most posters there live in their parents home and have limited, if any, control over exactly the kinds of situations you describe. I just think you may find a more sympathetic group over there.

 

[yeartolate]

That is a very constructive idea.

 

[lilyv]

Just a thought...you have your reasons for wanting and/or needing to remain in your parents home, however, your frustration with the situation with your father compels you to continue to start threads. We, here on the CB, continue to suggest that as an adult, you could easily remedy the situation by moving out of your parents home.

So my thought is...why don't you start posting your "Vent"'s over on the Teen Board. I suspect that there you may find an audience more receptive to the general feelings of "OMG, my parents are driving me crazy!!!!" Because most posters there live in their parents home and have limited, if any, control over exactly the kinds of situations you describe. I just think you may find a more sympathetic group over there.

Maybe the best fit would be for OP to head to the college board. If OP wants to step into the adult world, we're still here. In the meantime, she has a good place to share pudding stories. Lots of flavors and preparation options, cook and serve, instant, hey, she may even try her hand at homemade blancmange. (Suggest she double or triple the recipe.)

 

[MAKmom]

Just a thought...you have your reasons for wanting and/or needing to remain in your parents home, however, your frustration with the situation with your father compels you to continue to start threads. We, here on the CB, continue to suggest that as an adult, you could easily remedy the situation by moving out of your parents home.

So my thought is...why don't you start posting your "Vent"'s over on the Teen Board. I suspect that there you may find an audience more receptive to the general feelings of "OMG, my parents are driving me crazy!!!!" Because most posters there live in their parents home and have limited, if any, control over exactly the kinds of situations you describe. I just think you may find a more sympathetic group over there.

I don't think we should send adults over to the teen boards. It is creepy.

 

[EMom]

I'm not going to read this whole thread, so pardon me if someone has already suggested this.

I attended college/lived in a dorm in another country where the cafeteria was closed from Friday afternoon until Monday morning. The one grocery store was not that close and it closed early too. Fast food places were nonexistent. I didn't have a car....few of us did and the buses ran infrequently on weekends. In other words, getting food over the weekend was difficult. They didn't even sell much in the way of microwave meals, but if they had, it wouldn't have helped, because someone would have stolen your Lean-Q out of the group freezer and eaten it. (We couldn't have individual fridges.) Buy lunchmeat, etc. and the same thing happened....someone would steal it, labeled or not. I lived on cup-a-soup most weekends because I could keep that in my room. One weekend, I bought this stuff called breakfast yogurt that had granola on top. Yep, it was stolen.

A dorm veteran suggested we make that yogurt a little less appealing to the thief next time. What a friend she was. I bought more the next weekend and we loaded it with powdered laxative. The thief swiped it, gulped it down, and presumably spent a miserable weekend in the toilet. And the fridge theft slowed down considerably after that.

So.....Why not make dear old Dad's favorite flavor of pudding, add something special......not too much.....let it sit on the counter and see what develops? Maybe if your pudding doesn't agree with his tummy, he'll leave it alone from now on. Suggest to him that he may be lactose intolerant.

I don't care if he IS her parent, scarfing down 100% of the pudding that you KNOW someone has just made is plain old rude.

But it's JUST a suggestion..............

 

[CrazyFool]

So my thought is...why don't you start posting your "Vent"'s over on the Teen Board. I suspect that there you may find an audience more receptive to the general feelings of "OMG, my parents are driving me crazy!!!!"

Best. Post. Ever.

 

[PrincessTiff]

Trashing the OP doesn't change the fact that her father is a rude, ignorant, pig.

I'd be a rude pig too if I had to deal with that selfishness day in and day out.

 

[ReallyGoofy]

Try making Chocolate pudding next time.

 

[Aisling]

I'd be a rude pig too if I had to deal with that selfishness day in and day out.

Bet you'd look cute!

 

[barkley]

I'm not going to read this whole thread, so pardon me if someone has already suggested this.

I attended college/lived in a dorm in another country where the cafeteria was closed from Friday afternoon until Monday morning. The one grocery store was not that close and it closed early too. Fast food places were nonexistent. I didn't have a car....few of us did and the buses ran infrequently on weekends. In other words, getting food over the weekend was difficult. They didn't even sell much in the way of microwave meals, but if they had, it wouldn't have helped, because someone would have stolen your Lean-Q out of the group freezer and eaten it. (We couldn't have individual fridges.) Buy lunchmeat, etc. and the same thing happened....someone would steal it, labeled or not. I lived on cup-a-soup most weekends because I could keep that in my room. One weekend, I bought this stuff called breakfast yogurt that had granola on top. Yep, it was stolen.

A dorm veteran suggested we make that yogurt a little less appealing to the thief next time. What a friend she was. I bought more the next weekend and we loaded it with powdered laxative. The thief swiped it, gulped it down, and presumably spent a miserable weekend in the toilet. And the fridge theft slowed down considerably after that.

So.....Why not make dear old Dad's favorite flavor of pudding, add something special......not too much.....let it sit on the counter and see what develops? Maybe if your pudding doesn't agree with his tummy, he'll leave it alone from now on. Suggest to him that he may be lactose intolerant.

I don't care if he IS her parent, scarfing down 100% of the pudding that you KNOW someone has just made is plain old rude.

But it's JUST a suggestion..............

i'll do you one better-we had a lunch theif at my former work. nothing was too unappealing to he/she UNTIL i talked a friend who worked in medical supplies to get me some lidded specimin cups and bags marked 'medical hazard'. put you sandwich in one of those-and your pudding in a specimin cup and NOONE will bother it

 

[PrincessTiff]

Bet you'd look cute!

Aww that is cute.

 

[FayeW]

I'd be a rude pig too if I had to deal with that selfishness day in and day out.

What the heck are you talking about??

Please, explain to us all how the OP is selfish. She pays rent, she pays the household internet bill, she buys and prepares all of her own food. She does some of the housecleaning and she lives by their ridiculous rules (no fridge in her room, etc) and in return she has no privacy, they read her mail, search through her room and personal belongings and eat whatever they like (even though we know that even Mom and Dad don't share food between them). What, exactly, about this situation makes the OP "selfish"???

 

[PrincessTiff]

Read completely through this thread.

 

[CheshireVal]

No offense, but I do not want to still be paying off my student loans while I'm in my 30's. I'm almost done paying them off now, so hopefully that will be one less thing I have to worry about soon.

That's funny, because now that I'm in my 30s, I'm so much happier paying student loans every month than I would have been at 23 living at home and crying about pudding. I think it's money well spent.

 

[FayeW]

Read completely through this thread.

I have read completely through it. The OP doesn't come across as selfish to me. Not in the least. I don't know what could be considered selfish about someone paying their rent, their bills and buying and preparing her own food.

Do you mean because she is upset that her father ate the entire bowl of pudding, pudding that was just made by somebody other than himself, and he knew with certainty that no one else had consumed any? Now that's selfish!

 

[autumnbaby9]

What the heck are you talking about??

Please, explain to us all how the OP is selfish. She pays rent, she pays the household internet bill, she buys and prepares all of her own food. She does some of the housecleaning and she lives by their ridiculous rules (no fridge in her room, etc) and in return she has no privacy, they read her mail, search through her room and personal belongings and eat whatever they like (even though we know that even Mom and Dad don't share food between them). What, exactly, about this situation makes the OP "selfish"???

The fact that her parents let her stay in their house at a redused price (the op has already admitted she doesn't pay fair market value) so that she can pay off her student loans quicker. IN return she comes on the internet and complains about how awful and terrible they are (this is far from her first parent bashing thread).

If someone is giving you a place to stay you do not come on the internet and bash them. You certaintly don't worry about a box of pudding. Baked goods are a small price to pay for a roof over your head.

 

[TCPluto]

The OP doesn't come across as selfish...

Yes she does, and very disrespectful too.