Unregistered guest question

[DizDaD7]

Good plan, er, I mean, good point...

Or maybe you don't register her to the room, therefore not letting her enter the door..LoL...J/K of course..But I feel your pain.

 

[DizDaD7]

Either way, glad you're making the best of an odd situation... Keep your head up, for once you're down there(WDW) everything always has a way of working itself out...No one can be P'oed @ Disneyworld....right?

 

[Dean]

Either way, glad you're making the best of an odd situation... Keep your head up, for once you're down there(WDW) everything always has a way of working itself out...No one can be P'oed @ Disneyworld....right?

My observations are that it's the other way. That people assume that it's Disney and I'm helping them out so they'll be on their best behavior and often it's the reverse. Crazy is crazy on steroids at Disney.

 

[DizDaD7]

My observations are that it's the other way. That people assume that it's Disney and I'm helping them out so they'll be on their best behavior and often it's the reverse. Crazy is crazy on steroids at Disney.

I'm just strictly talking about when I'm there....Things that would often bother me a lil back home, don't upset me in the least when I'm down there.....I can't but help be in a great mood once I enter into the Magic. I just figured that was the case for most...

 

[cedricandsophie]

From experience, don't use magic bands at meals. Use a credit card and at every meal you share be sure to ask for separate checks right at the start and point out to server which people go on which bill.

 

[Dean]

I'm just strictly talking about when I'm there....Things that would often bother me a lil back home, don't upset me in the least when I'm down there.....I can't but help be in a great mood once I enter into the Magic. I just figured that was the case for most...

It doesn't appear to be so for these drama situaitons. though I'm sure it is true for many. It's difficult to let it go when people are taking advantage of you.

 

[disneynutz]

My observations are that it's the other way. That people assume that it's Disney and I'm helping them out so they'll be on their best behavior and often it's the reverse. Crazy is crazy on steroids at Disney.

Our best people watch family blow-ups have been at WDW. While sitting at a bus stop at SSR a family was complaining because the DVC family member wanted the others to help with food costs. They were of the opinion that DVC points are free so the member has no business telling them what to do.

Bill

 

[crisi]

I'm just strictly talking about when I'm there....Things that would often bother me a lil back home, don't upset me in the least when I'm down there.....I can't but help be in a great mood once I enter into the Magic. I just figured that was the case for most...

I suspect it is for many - but I doubt it is for most.

Disney is overstimulating, expensive, crowded and frequently hot. Things that put LOTS of people on a slow boil. Add in a mother in law who isn't considerate and a sister in law you barely speak to, and its a recipe for disaster.

 

[Dean]

Our best people watch family blow-ups have been at WDW. While sitting at a bus stop at SSR a family was complaining because the DVC family member wanted the others to help with food costs. They were of the opinion that DVC points are free so the member has no business telling them what to do.

Bill

Obviously there's no way to predict a given situation completely but there does seem to be something about timeshares and Disney that bring out the worst in some people. The idea that a timeshare is free is pretty rampant. We're lucky in that we're able to give back to family by providing timeshares for family trips most years at our expense and even more lucky that we don't have those who bring much drama. One of the advantages of planning and paying is control, so I would simply not invite anyone that brought drama on a consistent basis. We're also blessed that our families understand the commitment of $$$ and otherwise that goes into what we're able to provide for the family. In reality this is likely the largest group of people but it only takes one to muck it up for everyone for a given group and you generally know who they are before the planning even starts. The other things I've done are that I've established clear expectations AND I put a lot of effort into NOT controlling others vacation. I select the dates, time and location but with the group dynamics in mind. I let everyone know the plans and ask for a "show of hands" up front. I then keep in touch periodically as we go along. I keep my options open. One of the mistakes many make with such family trips is they set it up so that it only works well if there are NO issues. Things like planning late in the UY, dealing with a significant number of banked/borrowed points or hoping for the best when you already know there are those that tend to bring issues are common risks that people take.

 

[lorenni]

Crazy is crazy on steroids at Disney.

Isn't that the truth!

My main concern is that we will be treating my MIL and FIL differently than SIL, and doing so intentionally. We plan to buy park passes for MIL/FIL. We plan to pay for meals (to the extent we can get our cc to the servers before they do). They last visited Disney in the the 80's - not holding their hands on this trip would be like dropping them in Hong Kong and saying "hey have fun see you at 8".

And we don't mind doing that - we want to do that. We don't want to do all that for SIL. So we won't and we've already decided we won't worry about it. If she wants to come with us to the parks, she'll have to buy herself some tickets. If she doesn't want to go to Epcot on the day planned for Epcot, okey dokey, but we're not changing plans.

So basically we're going to go have the trip we would have had anyways. And when I feel myself about to say something "career limiting" as we would say at work, I'll grab my kiddo and DH and go somewhere else!

 

[Dean]

Isn't that the truth!

My main concern is that we will be treating my MIL and FIL differently than SIL, and doing so intentionally. We plan to buy park passes for MIL/FIL. We plan to pay for meals (to the extent we can get our cc to the servers before they do). They last visited Disney in the the 80's - not holding their hands on this trip would be like dropping them in Hong Kong and saying "hey have fun see you at 8".

And we don't mind doing that - we want to do that. We don't want to do all that for SIL. So we won't and we've already decided we won't worry about it. If she wants to come with us to the parks, she'll have to buy herself some tickets. If she doesn't want to go to Epcot on the day planned for Epcot, okey dokey, but we're not changing plans.

So basically we're going to go have the trip we would have had anyways. And when I feel myself about to say something "career limiting" as we would say at work, I'll grab my kiddo and DH and go somewhere else!

I'd just let her know in a non threatening way that you intend to treat MIL/FIL but that you can't do the same for her so she should be prepared to pay her own costs including tickets and meals. Then when you are ordering just let the server's know who's on which ticket. It shouldn't be a big deal to treat her differently if it's done appropriately. If she's going to get upset over that, best to deal with it now rather than during the trip with drama.

 

[DizDaD7]

It doesn't appear to be so for these drama situaitons. though I'm sure it is true for many. It's difficult to let it go when people are taking advantage of you.

You had to, didn't you?

You just couldn't help but get a " FROZEN " reference in there could ya...LoL

On a serious note I hear you, not everyone thinks the same...Wish it were that easy..

 

[DizDaD7]

I suspect it is for many - but I doubt it is for most.

Disney is overstimulating, expensive, crowded and frequently hot. Things that put LOTS of people on a slow boil. Add in a mother in law who isn't considerate and a sister in law you barely speak to, and its a recipe for disaster.

I guess if you look at it that way, I can see the point, but honestly my family and I enjoy going away with my in laws....

 

[crisi]

I guess if you look at it that way, I can see the point, but honestly my family and I enjoy going away with my in laws....

You have been fortunate in your in-laws. My ex-mother in law used to take my husband AND HIS GIRLFRIEND on vacation and leave me at home - when I didn't know he had a girlfriend. I am really glad she left me at home because in retrospect, I regret every holiday or dinner I spent with her. I'd say more, but the words I'd use would all be asterisks.

 

[DizDaD7]

You have been fortunate in your in-laws. My ex-mother in law used to take my husband AND HIS GIRLFRIEND on vacation and leave me at home - when I didn't know he had a girlfriend. I am really glad she left me at home because in retrospect, I regret every holiday or dinner I spent with her. I'd say more, but the words I'd use would all be asterisks.

WoW...Talk about a reality series there...Sorry to hear about that..

Don't get me wrong , there are some things, (albeit minor) that annoy me , but for the majority, they are awesome..

 

[crisi]

It was 25 years ago now - and I remarried for the better. My current mother in law has her annoying traits who we have taken to Disney - and had a very pleasant time; at heart she is a kind and generous person. Now the whole thing about my first marriage is rather funny - but it is one of those "you think you have a bad mother in law" stories.