Trying to be gracious, but really kind of irked! UPDATE post 99

Hi all -

I left a perfectly pleasant voice mail this morning - we'll see if she calls back.

To answer some questions that appeared overnight -

I asked DS if the candy got put out at other tables and he said no, he checked because they were allowed to go around the room to share items amongst tables - he was specifically looking for things he knew were in the bag and didn't find them. There was seriously about 15 pounds of candy, and it took DS and another boy to deliver it to the art teacher the day he brought it in, and on each table for the craft were a couple of small "chinette" bowls with different candies all mixed together.

These were not supplies that were confusing or professional in the sense that no one would know how to use them - it was candy toppings that were small enough to fit on a cupcake - regular candy like skittles, sourballs, sour qbes, mini m&ms, mini chocolate chips, rainbow twizzler sticks and ice cream sprinkles. The "specialty items" were hard candies shaped like stars and flowers, multiple colors of glitter sugar, marzipan, gum paste, and pearlized colored dragees, multiple bags of everything.

I also found out another mom in the class sent several bags of candy, and the only item of hers that made it to the kids was a bag of mini marshmallows.

While I can ultimately swallow it if the art teacher "re-gifted" my donation to other classes, that's a bit presumptuous, and if she kept the stuff, well that's just :eek:!

Thanks for all the comments!

Jane
 
I'm guessing there was way too much candy, and she didn't want to put it all out - wanted to keep it simple. For all you know, she's planning on sending the leftovers today.
 
Hi all -

I left a perfectly pleasant voice mail this morning - we'll see if she calls back.

To answer some questions that appeared overnight -

I asked DS if the candy got put out at other tables and he said no, he checked because they were allowed to go around the room to share items amongst tables - he was specifically looking for things he knew were in the bag and didn't find them. There was seriously about 15 pounds of candy, and it took DS and another boy to deliver it to the art teacher the day he brought it in, and on each table for the craft were a couple of small "chinette" bowls with different candies all mixed together.

These were not supplies that were confusing or professional in the sense that no one would know how to use them - it was candy toppings that were small enough to fit on a cupcake - regular candy like skittles, sourballs, sour qbes, mini m&ms, mini chocolate chips, rainbow twizzler sticks and ice cream sprinkles. The "specialty items" were hard candies shaped like stars and flowers, multiple colors of glitter sugar, marzipan, gum paste, and pearlized colored dragees, multiple bags of everything.

I also found out another mom in the class sent several bags of candy, and the only item of hers that made it to the kids was a bag of mini marshmallows.

While I can ultimately swallow it if the art teacher "re-gifted" my donation to other classes, that's a bit presumptuous, and if she kept the stuff, well that's just :eek:!

Thanks for all the comments!

Jane

That thought crossed my mind, along with a lot of possibilities. Good for you for making the call. If you don't hear back from her, send her an e-mail and copy in the principal. :laughing:

The other mom's stuff didn't make it to the craft tables too? That does make the case more interesting. Where did it all go?
 
Hi all -

I left a perfectly pleasant voice mail this morning - we'll see if she calls back.

To answer some questions that appeared overnight -

I asked DS if the candy got put out at other tables and he said no, he checked because they were allowed to go around the room to share items amongst tables - he was specifically looking for things he knew were in the bag and didn't find them. There was seriously about 15 pounds of candy, and it took DS and another boy to deliver it to the art teacher the day he brought it in, and on each table for the craft were a couple of small "chinette" bowls with different candies all mixed together.

These were not supplies that were confusing or professional in the sense that no one would know how to use them - it was candy toppings that were small enough to fit on a cupcake - regular candy like skittles, sourballs, sour qbes, mini m&ms, mini chocolate chips, rainbow twizzler sticks and ice cream sprinkles. The "specialty items" were hard candies shaped like stars and flowers, multiple colors of glitter sugar, marzipan, gum paste, and pearlized colored dragees, multiple bags of everything.

I also found out another mom in the class sent several bags of candy, and the only item of hers that made it to the kids was a bag of mini marshmallows.

While I can ultimately swallow it if the art teacher "re-gifted" my donation to other classes, that's a bit presumptuous, and if she kept the stuff, well that's just :eek:!

Thanks for all the comments!

Jane

15 pounds:scared1:

I bet the teacher shared the stuff with her other classes as well as a few colleagues. When I have parents go overboard with the donations, I share with other classes.
 

15 pounds:scared1:

I bet the teacher shared the stuff with her other classes as well as a few colleagues. When I have parents go overboard with the donations, I share with other classes.

Overboard is right - I'm on a major diet for a wedding and when I went to the store, I could barely restrain myself - with every bag a candy I was like, ooooo, that looks cool! Good & Plentys - haven't had THEM in a long time . . .

Jane
 
When my dd was in 3rd grade, I was the head class mom. Her teacher wanted to make gingerbread house and called me with a list of supplies she needed that was 2 pages long. I made calls to other parent but ended up buying a lot of it myself-15 cans of frosting among bags and bags of candy. Well, the kids used about 7 cans of frosting and 1/2 the candy. I stupidly didn't take the unopened stuff and it bothered me to think that all that stuff was going to jut sit in the classroom and rot, lol. So, OP, I'm glad that you called-for all you know, the candy could just be sitting there waiting to get thrown out or it was used by other classes. At least you'll know it wasn't wasted.
 
I totally think the teacher kept the "good stuff" for herself!

It sounds AWESOME, what the OP sent in, and what showed up on the tables was the everyday cheap lame-o cup cake things.

Maybe the teacher decided the kids wouldn't 'appreciate' the professional cake stuff :teacher:.
 
Waiting for an update...

I agree that a donation is a donation, and if the teacher did use some for the other classes it wouldn't be the eighth deadly sin or anything, but if I send a donation for my child's class, I don't think it's unreasonable to expect that my child would get to use the items.
 
I'd like to see how this turns out too.

I'm kind of torn on it. I can understand wanting an explanation for what happened to all your donation, but it was a donation after all and as soon as you give something away, you don't have any say in how it's used (or not). Unless you sent a note saying "Please return any leftovers" I don't see that it's appropriate to ask for it back. Sorry. :flower3:
 
Waiting for an update...

I agree that a donation is a donation, and if the teacher did use some for the other classes it wouldn't be the eighth deadly sin or anything, but if I send a donation for my child's class, I don't think it's unreasonable to expect that my child would get to use the items.

I think some items were put out. I'm guessing the teacher had WAY too much stuff (OP's 15 pounds of candy, plus what the rest of the kids brought in). She's not going to put out 50 kinds of candy.
 
but it was a donation after all and as soon as you give something away, you don't have any say in how it's used (or not). Unless you sent a note saying "Please return any leftovers" I don't see that it's appropriate to ask for it back. Sorry. :flower3:

I vaguely remember this story I'm about to tell, so I'm not sure on the exact details, the name of the organization or the titles of the people involved, but everyone will get the drift:

It was right after 9/11 or the tsunami disaster, that a major celebrity TV telethon was hosted to bring in donations for the disaster. People did donate, in droves. Since it was a celebrity run telethon and the charity was something like the Red Cross or the United Way, people thought they could trust that their money would be used well & would go to those in need for that particular disaster..

Several weeks or months later, cable talk show commentator, Bill O'Reilly did his own research & follow up on the money trail and found out the majority of the money donated never made it actually into the hands of the victims or families of the disaster. Something like only 10% of the donations actually made it to the 9/11 or tsunami victims, their families, or even any programs having to do with the disaster.

According to the financial breakdown, a good majority went to the salaries of the head chairman (or whatever) and other people in charge at Red Cross or the United Way. :eek: Another big portion went into the operating costs of running the charity. :sad2: Then another portion was funneled into a fund to someday help other upcoming disasters that the people did NOT donate specifically for - even though the original victims & families weren't being compensated for the current disaster the money was raised and intended for. :sad2:

Needless to say, the chairman of the Red Cross or the United Way (whichever & whoever,) finally resigned. The overall practices of MANY other reputable charities were called into question as donations suddenly dwindled down, and people no longer were sure if their monies were being handled there well either.

Other charities, who normally receive donations from longtime donators complained because many donations that usually went to them, went instead to the 9/11 or tsunami charity. People had donated specifically to this charity and then didn't have enough money for their usual charities. They never would have donated, had they known their monies would be used differently. They would have donated back to their normal charities instead.

While the Red Cross or the United Way said they would use the money for other disasters, public outcry was that they donated specifically to THIS disaster and wanted their money to go to that. It's not like this particular organization doesn't try to raise funds for each disaster relief they are a part of. So, if people had wanted to donate to a particular future disaster, they certainly could then choose to. They clearly wanted their money to go to the cause they donated for.

I bring up this situation to highlight people DO have a right to accountability of where their donation went. It's not right to just say, "Oh well, it's out of my hands now." If they donate it for one intention, the people who receive it should have the integrity to USE it for the purpose they asked it for.


I also don't agree with the PP who said say, "Oh well, Karma will get back at that person." Karma really isn't that simplistic. It's actually lame to use that excuse. A person actually has responsibility for their OWN karma reaped, when they lay down and allow themselves to be rolled over or taken advantage of instead of standing up for what they know is the right thing to do.


I hope the OP learned a big lesson in not going overboard next time in terms of her donations. To keep in mind that it may not be used or all used in the way she intends, that some may be kept, used for different purposes or even thrown out. that she should only give as much as she feels comfortable in the event the money or supplies, once again do not get used in the way intended.
 
Imzadi said:
I vaguely remember this story I'm about to tell, so I'm not sure on the exact details, the name of the organization or the titles of the people involved, but everyone will get the drift:

It was right after 9/11 or the tsunami disaster, that a major celebrity TV telethon was hosted to bring in donations for the disaster.
Okay, well, I don't know about money - but I do know that the majority of blood donations received by the Red Cross that week actually ended up not only not going to New York for 9/11, but eventually went bad before it could be used anywhere. And, yeah, I think people were upset that their donations weren't being used as intended but (a) only so much blood was needed, while whatever remaining donations could be used were dispersed elsewhere and (b) once you donate blood, it's really hard to get it back.
 
Okay, well, I don't know about money - but I do know that the majority of blood donations received by the Red Cross that week actually ended up not only not going to New York for 9/11, but eventually went bad before it could be used anywhere. And, yeah, I think people were upset that their donations weren't being used as intended but (a) only so much blood was needed, while whatever remaining donations could be used were dispersed elsewhere and (b) once you donate blood, it's really hard to get it back.

No, this was definitely about the money donation issue, because it was directly in relation to the Celebrity Telethon. I'm too lazy to properly Google the Bill O'Reilly thing about this. But, I remember her slammed my man, George Clooney :love: about this, as George coordinated BOTH celebrity telethons. He made it seem like George was the one who perpetrated a fraud on the public and was responsible for where and how the monies got proportioned. :rolleyes:

But, I, too, remember about how blood transfusions had to be shunted elsewhere as blood is perishable. Maybe that's why I'm getting the name of the Red Cross mixed into this story. :scratchin


(And no one had better mention how I seem to remember more about the details regarding my man, George :love:, than any of the other details. :rolleyes1 Don't mess with my George. :love: )
 
Inquiring minds would like to know the outcome!!! :rolleyes1

Well, my favorite Dis pastime lately has been inventing endings to threads where there are none:laughing:, so if she doesn't come back I'll make something up :).

It usually involves car chases and women being thrown into the geranium beds :thumbsup2
 
Well, my favorite Dis pastime lately has been inventing endings to threads where there are none:laughing:, so if she doesn't come back I'll make something up :).

It usually involves car chases and women being thrown into the geranium beds :thumbsup2

Did I miss another couple of good threads? popcorn:: Dang!


Don't forget that real news story of the woman who called 911 saying she & her DD were kidnapped, and they were found at WDW. She was probably a longtime DIS poster. ::yes:: I truly think some people go off their meds and instead of calling 911 several times, they just post their stories to the DIS. :surfweb:
 












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