Traveling with teen siblings

[Marseeya]

I know it's resolved, but there's another concern I didn't see mentioned involving post-pubescent males and fluids at night....

 

[ChrisnSteph]

DD (13) and DS (15) are protesting loudly at the thought of having to share a bed in a hotel.

Tell them if the can cough up the extra money for another room, then you'll book it. If not, another alternative is to not go at all.

ETA: Didn't bother to read through a zillion pages - glad you resolved it! I hope you all have a great time!

 

[Wishing on a star]

All these 'family bed' people, hey, that might be fine for you... (Which I will never never understand...)

But, it is very obviously NOT fine with the two teens!!!

That is what matters.

Also, it is not like the OP is penniless, or this is the ONLY hotel room available. They could find a suite, cut a couple nights off the length of the trip to save a little on the cost, everybody's happy!!!

I really and truly do not even see that the OP ever had a delimma.

Hey, I would love a second honeymoon in paradise, for almost TWO full weeks, my own privacy and my own bed for me and DH to 'hold hands'... And, to save some money on food, hey, they're just kids, if they can share a bed, they can simply share a happy-meal at mealtimes. I want my cake and eat it too!!! Hey, the kids and their wishes and personal space be damned.

Like I said before, If you can't afford acceptable sleeping arrangements for everyone, then you can't afford that particular kind of a trip.

 

[NeverlandClub23]

From the time my brother and I were teens, my parents made us sleep in separate beds. I slept with my Mom and he slept with my Dad. We still do this. I guess they thought it was inappropriate for us to sleep together. And they got plenty of alone time when we grew up and moved out...

 

[DawnCt1]

What is the big deal if you don't sleep together for one week? I think it's very in appropriate for teens of the opposite sex to sleep together.

Yeah, no kidding!!

 

[SDFgirl]

I understand that some kids don't get along. Mine fight sometimes, but usually they are good friends.

I have a DS 18 and a DD 14 and they still share a bed when we are on vacation. I don't see anything innappropriate about it. I mean, in a pinch I could sleep with my brother (if I had to) and we are both in our 40s. And that's exactly what we'd be doing - sleeping. Mind you, it's not that I'd WANT to exactly, but I'd never feel it was inappropriate. Would it still be inappropriate if they were in sleeping bags on the same bed? Why is it okay with same sex siblings or with a parent okay, but opposite sex siblings not? I'm puzzled by this. Mine never snuggle up in each other's arms or anything like that. They fall into bed and crash.

My kids have never complained. They grumble about the other sibling stealing covers, etc., but I do the same sometimes with DH. They'd never ask us to make different arrangements. They're thrilled to be going on vacation with us and they'd never expect us to pony up enough extra money to get them their own beds. And I honestly never even thought about asking for a cot.

I agree with this. I don't see what's so inappropriate about it, honestly. My brother and I shared beds on vacations intil we were in our teenage years. We weren't thrilled with it, but SLEEPING was all we were doing - for pete's sakes, it's a pillow and a blanket in a standard hotel room, not a romantic bed and breakfast.

I do remember as we got older, we'd compromise - one person would sleep under the covers, and the other person would sleep on TOP of the covers, with a separate blanket on top of them. This way, we had the blanket as a "barrier." We would never have dreamed of asking our parents for a different hotel room...again it's just SLEEPING.

 

[DisneyMomOK]

Something that I think is important for those that think everything is okay with teen siblings sleeping together: perhaps they are protesting over the covers, space, etc. because the REAL problem is something they would be uncomfortable voicing, especially if their parents are the ones that create the situation in the first place.

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[Wishing on a star]

Something that I think is important for those that think everything is okay with teen siblings sleeping together: perhaps they are protesting over the covers, space, etc. because the REAL problem is something they would be uncomfortable voicing, especially if their parents are the ones that create the situation in the first place.

I agree with the Aerobed solution. My DD and DS stopped sleeping in the same bed by the time she was 8 or 9 (he was 7 or 8). Sleeping bags, cots, room daybeds, DD w/ Mom and DS w/ Dad were all preferable to them. When DD voiced her desire NOT to sleep w/ DS I did not question why, I just made it happen.

Of course, this is JMHO, but there are enough problems in the world w/o questioning your kid's sense of propriety.

Sharon

That's right, teens are dealing with enough without forcing these issues!!!

Well said!!!!!!!

 

[lilostitch]

I didn't mind not sleeping in the same bed as my husband. He snores and steals the covers. It got so that our son didn't want to sleep with him either!

 

[tiggersmom2]

I had to sleep with my brother one time when I was 11 years old when we went with our grandparents on vacation....I remember being scared to death he was going to fart on me. I never slept in the same bed with him after that.

 

[Skatermom23]

All these 'family bed' people, hey, that might be fine for you... (Which I will never never understand...)

But, it is very obviously NOT fine with the two teens!!!

That is what matters.

Also, it is not like the OP is penniless, or this is the ONLY hotel room available. They could find a suite, cut a couple nights off the length of the trip to save a little on the cost, everybody's happy!!!

I really and truly do not even see that the OP ever had a delimma.

Hey, I would love a second honeymoon in paradise, for almost TWO full weeks, my own privacy and my own bed for me and DH to 'hold hands'... And, to save some money on food, hey, they're just kids, if they can share a bed, they can simply share a happy-meal at mealtimes. I want my cake and eat it too!!! Hey, the kids and their wishes and personal space be damned.

Like I said before, If you can't afford acceptable sleeping arrangements for everyone, then you can't afford that particular kind of a trip.

Stretching things just a tad, don't you think..... gotta love the assumptions though....

 

[TDC Nala]

Get the kids their own room, then you can have all the paradise you want.

 

[Jeanny]

Get the kids their own room, then you can have all the paradise you want.

you could leave the kids at home if you want your "paradise"..... but to make them sleep in the same bed is just creepy!! Where are you going for vacation????have you priced family suites? have you checked out some of the hotels on 192? there are some real inexpensive hotels there, you can get two rooms or even 3!!!!!! then they could each have their own room and you can have your paradise!