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[MagiKitty]

Good afternoon ladies! We got some of the terrible storms this morning. Strangely, no lightning or thunder, just lots and lots of rain. M...you got so lucky there wasn't more damage in your area.

BF and I had a horrible fight and I just want to wring his neck right now. He's so darn stubborn about things and just won't ask for anything. I know, men and their egos. But I can't tell you how many times he's just made things so much more difficult just because he didn't ask/check first. I tried to remind him about calling his car insurance and he was just like "I know my policy". That just rubbed me the wrong way. There's nothing wrong with just double checking.

He can go off and do whatever her wants. I'm really miffed at him.

 

[DL55]

men Mine forgot to put out the trash last night. Now we have no more room in the container for this week's trash.

 

[MagiKitty]

Blech. I love him, truly, but at the same time, he can really hurt my feelings. I never throw things back in his face and he does it when we fight. I have a temper and it takes all my self control not to really lash out at him. I don't think he realizes how difficult that is for me. Now I don't want to talk to him. And if the worse gets into me, I may not talk to him again. Ever. I'm really that angry.

A larger issue is that I'm more educated than him and I never use that against him. But boy does he love to prove that I'm wrong and he knows better. He can know all he wants by himself.

Sorry, I'm just really angry and hurt. He thinks he's doing the right thing by just letting it slide and not talking about it, but for me, I know it will happen again.

 

[JOCAmom]

Aww, MK......

Men are such freaking boneheads most of the time. They never think about what comes out of their mouths. Or in my case, what doesn't.

 

[M&N]

Sorry Kitty...you know you will not change him. Have you told him something like if I wanted to be mean I could say ___ to you but I know how my feelings are hurt when you throw things back to me? Is he aware you have feelings that are easily hurt? If he is and doesn't care or isn't sorrowful if he blows it...then I don't think I would be able to put my feelings out there to keep getting smashed. How often does this happen? Is it worth it? Maybe you are just taking it harder because you don't feel well. I do find it hard to think you could loose your temper enough to hurt someone...loose it because you see someone getting hurt I can see!

 

[MagiKitty]

Thanks JO...I'm not a crier. but I'm just so frustrated with him. and he just wants to be right rather than give credit to what I"m saying. that hurts me coz its not fair. Things can be seen from two different sides, and he just doesn't get it.

I just need a time out from him before I say something really hurtful.

And I did love those Hello Kitty ice packs. I'm definitely going to look into them. Coinstar will exchange my change into Amazon gift cards without fee, so I'l probably do that. Otherwise, they take 10% for cash and I'm too cheap for that!

 

[M&N]

Thanks JO...I'm not a crier. but I'm just so frustrated with him. and he just wants to be right rather than give credit to what I"m saying. that hurts me coz its not fair. Things can be seen from two different sides, and he just doesn't get it.

I just need a time out from him before I say something really hurtful.

And I did love those Hello Kitty ice packs. I'm definitely going to look into them. Coinstar will exchange my change into Amazon gift cards without fee, so I'l probably do that. Otherwise, they take 10% for cash and I'm too cheap for that!

Hey...that's more like our cheap Kitty! I'm just glad you come here and vent...it's not good holding it inside. You know you have caring shoulders here.

 

[MagiKitty]

M...we don't really fight much, but when we do, its about this. What I say and what he hears are two totally different things. I tried to do that psych technique where one person talks and the other person mirrors the conversation but that didn't work out too well.

I know he feels bad but he just doesn't get it...and he can't keep his darn mouth shut about it either. He's like "I know you're upset but I don't know why...." and I just finished telling him why! Its those moments that I really want to beat him.

He's not intentionally being mean, but sometimes he's just thick in the head. He doesn't understand why I see some things some ways and he doesn't.

 

[MagiKitty]

Oh, its started raining again, and this time there is some thunder. Its a good excuse to drown my sorrows in tea and biscuits.....

 

[M&N]

One of my favorite stories by Arnold Lobel was in Owl At Home...the story is called Tear-Water Tea. The kids didn't usually get it but owl cried and caught his tears in his tea pot...made tea and felt better. I liked to discuss was it the tea or the tears that made him feel better???

 

[MagiKitty]

M! That is so beautiful. Just made me tear up a little more. I'm a big believer in just getting it out. There's just a moment when you're just so tired being emotional and just have to let it go for your own sake.

Oh, I have strawberries too. Maybe a quickie shortcake?!

 

[JOCAmom]

MK, I'm not usually a crier either but sometimes I just get so mad that I have to.

Curt never gives me credit for knowing anything about what is considered his "area of expertise" Meaning the house repairs, cars, you know man things. Heck, we even got into it last year about Universal. No matter what I told him about it, he had to check with his brother in FL about what I said. It was small beans but still way annoying.

Face it, men will never ever think like us. I still don't think Curt gets why I was so upset on Mother's Day. And yet, he can always bring up the one thing that Jackie said to him that was really hurtful.

 

[MagiKitty]

JO---you hit it right on the head. I'm sorry you share my painful experiences, but its good to know that I'm not being ridiculous.

I don't expect BF to understand everything about me, but I do expect him to respect it.

I love my TKer sisters!

 

[MagiKitty]

God is so good and mysterious. I just got an invite to participate in a bra/panty campaign. I love free stuff! Thank you, God, for helping me through this....

 

[DL55]

What is a bra/panty campaign? You don't go marching in your underwear do you?
Just trying to cheer you up.

 

[MagiKitty]

Thanks DL55! Its practically that embarrassing. Its a company that give outs samples and you're supposed to tell everyone about it and generate excitement. So yes, I will be quite open about my unmentionables! Not quite a parade, but something equally embarassing...like "I just got some new underwear and let me tell you how comfortable it is!"

I'm feeling much better now, thank you. I"m all cried out and I've told BF to leave me alone for a few hours. And Sarah Ferguson is going to be on Oprah today trying to dig herself out of that big hole she created for herself. I'm so easily entertained.

 

[JOCAmom]

Well, I see I missed the underwear/bra discussion. Bummer.

Hell's Kitchen starts tonight. There are 2 people from PA in the competition this time. I'll probably dislike them both like in previous seasons.

 

[M&N]

It sounds like Kitty is supposed to discuss the undies with everyone she meets so we will probably be hearing more about it JO...don't worry!

 

[MagiKitty]

I just signed up today so I probably won't get my kit for another two weeks...so I may tell you about it in person!

I need a giggle. I'm planning to watch Wipeout then Glee. A fun night of mind-numbing tv.

 

[JOCAmom]

What time is Wipeout on? And what channel? Curt and the kids love that show but I am not giving up seeing Hell's Kitchen.