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[MagiKitty]

Pepper, I totally misread your ticker...I thought you were expecting a Disney baby too! The pregnancy chat today has completely gone to my head....

 

[dreamin in pa]

I don't think you sound snooty at all. They actually sound kinda desperate. But I still think that type of question would have been better asked at work especially since you really don't know each other. I just might mention to him that you would prefer that he only call you if it was work related. You know, home time is home time unless it's an emergency concerning work. I don't know, I just would feel uncomfortable about the text.

 

[pepperw23]

Pepper, I totally misread your ticker...I thought you were expecting a Disney baby too! The pregnancy chat today has completely gone to my head....

No way now how!!!!

 

[pepperw23]

I don't think you sound snooty at all. They actually sound kinda desperate. But I still think that type of question would have been better asked at work especially since you really don't know each other. I just might mention to him that you would prefer that he only call you if it was work related. You know, home time is home time unless it's an emergency concerning work. I don't know, I just would feel uncomfortable about the text.

Yea, I am going to try to find a way to say it nicely. I am sure he is just trying to be nice. If it were a woman I probably would not have given any of it a second though. ugggg. I think I am going to run it all by HR tomorrow and ask what they think. Just an advice type thing. I am friends with one of them anyway.

 

[dreamin in pa]

sounds like a good idea....just something kind of informal with HR people.

Even though DD just returned from her disney trip, DH and I have discussed what we would do if they offer the trip for next year. We actually decided she would not be doing the trip again unless some things will be different. Besides the fact that we only found out about them being on their own in the parks 3 weeks before the trip, we also found out when she came home that a couple of the teacher's brought their families along. One brought her husband and another brought his wife and kids. Maybe it's just me, but I feel their focus should have been completely on the students. Is this normal for chaperones to bring their entire families along? This is the first trip of this type that one of my kids have taken and maybe my expectations were different. Opinions anyone?

 

[M&N]

Yea, I am going to try to find a way to say it nicely. I am sure he is just trying to be nice. If it were a woman I probably would not have given any of it a second though. ugggg. I think I am going to run it all by HR tomorrow and ask what they think. Just an advice type thing. I am friends with one of them anyway.

I would not take any chances on the nice part...especially since you caught him in a lie already. I think going through your friend in HR would be wise. It's a shame it's after Easter---you could peep him! There's a difference between being professional and snooty.

 

[D&DDisney]

Pepper, I totally misread your ticker...I thought you were expecting a Disney baby too! The pregnancy chat today has completely gone to my head....

I do have to agree w/ Magikitty. Pepper, you might want to put a comma in there or something because it does look like you're expecting a "Disney baby".

As for #3, I'd happily take that honor. However, since I am almost 40 and have a history of medical fertility issues, I doubt it will ever be me again.

 

[disney54us]

Okay, signed on b/f and GF called much drama going on in her life and sad.
so to late to multi on all the post.
Welcome back Wgrn!!!! and magsnden glad to have you back and chatty!!!!
Dreamin caught this when I clicked no not just you, so much for teasing you about being a chaperone. Will discuss more and multi tomorrow. I hope we are 2 days b/f prom and prep.
Good night Killers

sounds like a good idea....just something kind of informal with HR people.

Even though DD just returned from her disney trip, DH and I have discussed what we would do if they offer the trip for next year. We actually decided she would not be doing the trip again unless some things will be different. Besides the fact that we only found out about them being on their own in the parks 3 weeks before the trip, we also found out when she came home that a couple of the teacher's brought their families along. One brought her husband and another brought his wife and kids. Maybe it's just me, but I feel their focus should have been completely on the students. Is this normal for chaperones to bring their entire families along? This is the first trip of this type that one of my kids have taken and maybe my expectations were different. Opinions anyone?

 

[magsnden]

hi, good morning everyone!

well i missed the whole thing going on with pepper last night, but i most certainly agree with everyone. i would NOT text him back, or in any way encourage this outside relationship. putting you on the phone to talk with his wife??? that's weird too. i think he's probably harmless, but wow, what a strange guy. how old is he? he sounds like he's immature and just doesn't know how to behave.

all that aside, your husband's name is Dennis?! i don't think we've ever talked about that before. i love it, it's not the most common name anymore. except in my good friend's family there are about 5 dennis-es.

well i'll be sure to see you all later, have to go get everyone ready for school.

 

[lighttech]

Ok, so I've read thru page 225, and then jumped ahead to my last post on 227 and read from there. I'm SO confused!!! Its like knowing the topic, but not coming in until the end of the conversation. So, I'll reserve comment until I catch up on the middle. I feel like I'm watching a movie all out of order... (of course that's how my life feels anyway sometimes!)

I'll reserve any comments until I catch up since I'm very uninformed, but I will say "welcome back" to whgrn, and pepper, I must admit my first thought was a "little souvenier" coming your way too!

Anyway, have a good day everyone... 3 more days 'till DSs party, and I have so much to do! I already told DH I don't think I'm doing much sleeping btw now and Sunday.

 

[lighttech]

Ok, trying to work thru, but I don't want to mutli a million posts, so here's what I remember so far...

M&N - Sorry about DM and hope she's feeling better. Sounds like she's a tough cookie though and will get thru fine.

Dreamin' - Oh so sorry for DNeph. What a shame! to him, and I do think the morning glories are a beautiful gesture.

D&DDisney - Sorry about DD, what a tough week. I hope everything starts to look up, and I'm glad she has you for support!

 

[lighttech]

OK - 226

Dreamin' Glad DD is on her way (probably back safe by now, but I haven't gotten there yet.)

Pepper - So sorry about your Grandfather. Prayers and hugs to you all while dealing w/ this situation.
As for Beaker... ummmm... I have no idea what to say... I'll keep reading.

 

[MagiKitty]

Morning friends, Second Place in my Fantasy league Kitty here! (hee, hee). The boys in the league are starting to talk smack. I'm silent but deadly. Victory is within my grasp!

I may not understand baseball too much, but I do get competition.

I'm waiting for Pepper to check in with the latest on the Beaker situation.

Chaperones? When I went on an exchange to France in high school, the chaperones were the French teacher and her husband. But both were acting as chaperones. I don't think its appropriate for the chaperones to have brought their entire family. If a spouse went on a trip as a chaperone, then fine. But if they're going for the trip, it does distract from the chaperone's duty, especially if they brought their own children.

But also, the kids were let loose in the parks on their own, so its not like the chaperones were with the group at all times anyway. I don't know...its a tough call. I guess it would have been appropriate for the parents to have been informed of the chaperones bringing their families before the trip, so various issues and concerns could have been addressed.

lighttech! good luck on the party, I'm sure it will be wonderful.

Mmm...cake.

 

[lighttech]

OK, 227 seems to have been most of the missing pieces.

Disney54us - I am just boiling. I feel like I want to drive to your neighborhood and give those kids a serious piece of my mind. I'm glad that the moms collectively handled the situation well. It will hopefully help DS feel better that he was treated w/ respect after the fact, and maybe it will make a difference to those kids, who obviously have problems, and keep them from doing something worse. DH is right, if they keep up that behavior, they WILL be in juve, or worse, before long. Well, hugs to DS, and I hope he's recovering and rebounding the way kids do... they are usually much better at letting go than we adults are.

Magsnden - Finally read your original announcement. WOOHOO (again).

 

[lighttech]

OK, last post for the board hog I've been. I'm caught up on the major stuff, and I'll try to keep abreast of what's going on from now on, even if I can't actually check in too much... It was too much work catching up!! Whew! I'm exhausted! I probably need a candy bar...

Anyway, have a great day everyone, and I'll try to send birthday/cake pics after the party.

 

[disney54us]

disney54us - what an absolutely horrible story! i'm so sad to even hear that your son had to go through this. how old is your son? these punks? unbelievable. at the very least, it is good to know the moms are upset about it too. i thought you were going to say otherwise. and are you saying these are Catholic school kids???


so yes, this is our little disney souvenir! that's what happens i guess when you go away without your little ones!

we are due in october, i'm almost 4 months now. it was really a blessing that we were able to get this other test done - you have to wait until about 16 wks to get an amnio, then another 10 days or so for results. i don't know if anyone knows about this CVS, but really you can only do it from about 10 - 12 weeks, and since i was further than that, they weren't sure we could do it. thank God they were able to.

as for the disney involvement, DH and i have discussed Mickey (i've always loved the name Mick) for a boy!! funny, right?!

Disney54us
I am so glad he wasn't physically harmed-seriously harmed I mean.

You are so fortunate to have the support of the Moms of the boys.
I hate to have to face those "not my baby" parents. When those "punks" figure out that you are all in communication then they might think twice about pulling that stunt again. Their behavior is criminal and could lead to behaviors that will end them up in juvie or jail.

I hope your son will feel better knowing that you and the whole family will back him up.

disney54us...first off, I am so glad that your son wasn't more seriously hurt. It was a blessing. Second, I want to kick those kids for you and your family, but I suppose that's not the mature way to deal with things. I am so inspired and awed by your strength. You did the right thing in dealing with this right away and demonstrating to both your son and your neighbours that this incident is NEVER acceptable.

magsnden! You did bring back a little souvenir! Congrats to you and your family! That's two....things happen in threes...who's next? (and its NOT me). Much happiness that the baby is going to be fine!

Oh! I like the name Mick for a little guy! I imagine him with spiked hair and a full diaper--how cute!

disney54us....my friends this weekend are from the navy--sailors. and let me tell you---I can swear 100x better than they can! I have a potty mouth at times--and what your kid went through is one of those times!

But I believe in Karma too. Its nice.

thanks everybody for the good wishes! it really feels good...and scary! 3 kids!? what did i do!!

so maggie will be 4 1/2, dennis will be 2 1/2 when the baby comes. pretty crazy! maggie had just turned 2 when dennis was born, and what a difference. she was always a chatterbox, but she was speaking in full (pretty much) sentences at that time. dennis is almost 2 now (may 17, oh yeah, maggie turned 4 on sunday!) and is no where near talking like that. it makes him seem so much younger, still babyish in that way. it's weird what birth order can do.

so yes, d&ddisney you were right! though i must admit, try as i might, i was having trouble keeping optimistic. like i said, we were pregnant with another baby that had a chromosomal problem that was not a viable situation, so it really made it hard to be positive. does that make sense? i am always a positive, optimistic person, but the real pain and sadness of that situation was hard to ignore when faced with that possibility again.

anyway........that is ALL behind me now! we are just so thrilled all over again. it's as if we're just finding out again, and telling everyone again, you know? of course my MIL wanted to know if we were finding out the sex of the baby. now, a tiny bit of history - we didn't find out with our others, and it has always bothered her. i think it is GREAT that you even have that option, but it just wasn't for us. her daughters have found out and i guess she wanted me to also.

when i was pregnant with dennis, she even went as far as suggesting that the doctor just call her and tell her what we were having! amazing! anyway, i just said (as politely as i could muster) "no we found out exactly what we wanted to know."

so sorry for being a thread hog, now that i'm back i guess i'm back to my chatty old self.

it's good to be back!

Sooooo Mad! Just multi and posted a whole long soap box about the DS situation and poof gone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Now it's almost noon much to get done so I can't retype it. I hate Computers!!!!!!!!
Okay be back later and will try again.

 

[magsnden]

dontcha just hate when you lose a whole multiquoted post?! uugghh. so frustrating.


well, taking the kids to the park to meet maggie's little best friend. so cute at 3 - oops, 4 - they really are like real friends!

anyway, i'll check in again later!

lighttech - good luck with the party and have FUN!!! but you do need your sleep, miss, i'm sure that baby's taking a lot out of you already!
can't wait for pictures!

 

[lighttech]

lighttech - good luck with the party and have FUN!!! but you do need your sleep, miss, i'm sure that baby's taking a lot out of you already!
can't wait for pictures!

Yes, I know. And, I'm sure I will. This little guy is taking it out of me way more than DS ever did. (Feeling much better now that I'm well into second trimester, but still exhausted.) But, honestly, I'm not sure if its that I'm more tired, or just more busy chasing around a (almost) 3 yr old.

How are you feeling these days? Well I hope! If you haven't checked them out, I'm having fun on babycenter.com and babyzone.com. You can set up a little online calendar, and each week they update and tell you what's going on w/ your little one.

 

[dreamin in pa]

Afternoon, beautiful day here and absolutely loving it.

MagiKitty-Thanks for your viewpoint on the chaperone situation. Granted you were in another country for your trip but you were also in high school. You weren't an adult yet but I'm sure more mature than most of these kids. I'm sure your wondering why I even let her go if I felt this way. Nobody was told they would be unsupervised until a couple of weeks before the trip. I even went back through my notes from the first meeting and not a word. Plenty of talk about how if for whatever reason the child couldn't go on the trip after the final payment, we would lose what money we did pay.
And the family thing really rubbed me the wrong way when I found out. I don't know, it just turned out to be something else than I thought it would be.

disney54us-Its not you or your computer. Alot of us have been having problems with the multi-quote thing lately. How's DS doing? Hope to see you before the prom but if not, make sure you check in after and let us know how DD liked it.

lighttech-good luck with the rest of the party stuff. Take care of yourself too. My youngest 2 are only 2 years apart and the third pregnancy was the most exhausting of all of them. But I'm glad the way it all worked out. they can be little terrors to each other sometimes but they have an incredible bond too. Can't replace that for anything.

 

[lighttech]

Dreamin' -
I suppose my thoughts on the chaperone thing would depend on the situation. I do think its absolutely wrong that the parents were given so little information. This is a big decision and a huge thing for these kids to do on their own. Everyone should know ALL the details BEFORE making any commitments. I'd definitely be hot about that.
As for the families... I don't know. If the kids were on their own, I suppose during the day it didn't make much difference, but when time came for the chaperones to do their job, I hope they were doing it. Very different situation since I wasn't in charge of anyone but myself, but when DH, DS and I went to Disney, it was before a business trip of mine. DH and DS stayed down while I was at my convention so they could visit friends and we could all fly back together. But, I made it very clear that DH was TOTALLY in charge those 2 days and that convention time was work time (including dinners, client meetings, etc.) I mean, I didn't ignore them at the hotel, but I was off limits for bathtime, finding lost toys and other Mommy duties. So, I guess if the chaperones were very responsible about dividing work/recreation and made sure the spouses were in charge that might be o.k., but its hard to do and, as I said, they were in charge of kids which is WAY diff't.
But, I definitely think you have every right to be upset about the way the flow of information was handled.