Thanks.

We try to keep a very relaxed, humorous atmosphere in our home. I use to be tight wound when I was younger and first married. I have loosened up A LOT over the years.
One thing we have always tried to do with both our kids is to have "dates" with them. We have been doing this since they were little. Trying to strive for that one on one time. With DD it started out having "tea parties" and now we have advanced to Starbucks. We'll go grab a Starbucks coffee, head to a parking lot and drink our coffee and just talk. (That way no one can accidently overhear anything.) We had a Mother / Daughter get together over the holidays and she shared with everyone that those times are special to her. Little things do count.
I also take my DS out regularly too and my DH makes sure he takes each one out regularly.
I was thinking about Valentines Day coming up and I have to say of all the Valentines Days I have ever had last year was the best. I had a date with my DS and my DH had a date with our DD. They are both in their teens so this day usually becomes more of "Single Awareness Day" and can be depressing. My husband even bought my DD a stuffed animal and chocolates. She felt very special.
So I guess my advice to anyone with kids is to make sure you take that time to just be with them. Life is so hectic and can steel all our time away. Make sure you write on the calendar special dates with your kids. No matter what age they are.