This time it was "goodbye"

[Kallison]

What everyone else said - small steps, one day at at time. My gf went through the same thing a few years ago, she was a SAHM had not worked in years. She got a job, lost a lot of weight, got a guy who cares about her and is doing great. I told her if she could get through the 1st year she could do anything. She did it with flying colors and so will you. You are better off w/o him from what I've read. Good luck.

 

[supercarrie]

{{{HUGS}}}

 

[Poohbear123]

You are a STRONG Woman....you just don't know it yet. Best to you and the girls.

 

[SonjaB]

Serena, believe me I understand, my divorce was final this past July and no matter what the circumstances, it's hard. I can also promise you that life gets better and will be good again. Just hang in there....... {{{{{HUGS}}}}}

 

[Barb]

I truly believe we are never given more than we can endure. You will get through this. It will hurt, but the hurt will heal. {{{{hugs}}}} to you and your girls.

 

[Serena]

LOL, I'll be hanging by the tips of my nails.

Pin Wizard, somehow it makes me feel better knowing I won't ever get used to it.

I'm still amazed at how impressed you all are. I don't feel strong at all.

 

[honeywolf7]

(((Hugs))), Serena!

 

[Saffron]

{{{{{Hugs}}}}} Serena. The first of everything is always the hardest. I too used to hate the feeling of being alone in my bed. Now ........... sometimes I love it!! I can kick the covers off when I want, lay sideways, lay on top of the covers, hog all the pillows, leave the TV on all night etc... Things really will get easier and you really will be able to have the life you dream of, the one you want, whatever that may be. You may come to like the feel of hogging up the bed or you may want to once again share it with someone else. it's getting over all of these firsts first. They are the hardest. {{{{{Hugs}}}}}

 

[disfanatiks]

{{{hugs}}}

 

[December99]

Oh Serena I'm so sorry to hear this....but you know, it will probably end up being the best decision that will have been made in a long time - I know that's hard to realize but I know it's true!!!! I've been there!!!!!

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

 

[snoopy]

I'm also at a loss for words. I do appreciate your honesty, I am sure many women can identify with what you are going through but would not admit to feeling vulnerable. I think you are moving in the right direction by recognizing your feelings and working on helping yourself.

Hugs, Lauri.

 

[shep]

(((hugs)))

 

[KimRaye]

Laurie, More {{{HUGS}}}.

Now, pack up those girls and be in the Chicago-area Oct. 12th! Can't wait to meet you IRL!!

Divorce affects many of those around us. Whether we realize it right away or not. Your inlaws are angry and, they need some time also. And I know you'd never let them say anything bad about him when DD's are around. You've already said that. Seems you're doing everything RIGHT!!

 

[Planogirl]

I'm still amazed at how impressed you all are. I don't feel strong at all.

You see how strong you really are? You don't feel strong at all as you say and yet you're definitely handling it well IMO.

However, don't forget to let yourself be sad and angry and afraid sometimes. All normal and all necessary I think. {{{{{{Hugs}}}}}

 

[RNMOM]

I too am proud of you. Dust yourself off and tackle the rest of your life. You have lots of reasons to feel good about yourself.

We are here if you need us.

 

[Pooh93]

{{{{HUGS}}}} to you and the girls. Glad you are on good terms and I hope overall it stays that way. Not that you won't hit some bumps in the road, but it would make it so much easier with the kids involved. You still need to get the kids raised and knowing that you have support in that area from him, will help. I'm sure his parents are in a state of shock also and feeling some of the same emotions you are going through. Not only are you going to make it, but you are making it!!!

 

[kylara]

Serena, you may not feel it, but from reading your posts in this thread, you seem to be an amazingly strong woman to me. Even though you miss him and know he would come back out of guilt, you are making the decision that is right for all of you. You have figured out that staying with him wouldn't be right for you, him or your children...that takes strength. Even though you are hurt, you are defending him to his family. And you wrote that that both of you contributed to the marriage ending, not just him...to me that takes not only strength, but amazing insight.

While it won't be easy, it will get better. It is a grieving process..and while you may not ever stop missing what you once had with your husband, you will be able to move on. You have actually made the first step. Good luck to you.