This place has more cliques than HS

[snoopy]

Not to be cliquey, but I just had to stop by and say hey to Maray! Long time no see. How are you, dear? How is your health! I'm so happy to see you here today.

As for the subject at hand, I never understood the complaints about the DIS being a clique until the last year or so. I've come to realize that there are CB "favorites" who always get tons of replies to their threads. And then there are some people who may not post as much that tend to get ignored. I think its a shame. I try and reply to everything that interests me, and I try never to discriminate when posting to the P&PD posts -- everyone wants to feel wanted and to have people praying for them when they need it most!! I'm not always successful -- most times I am just busy and only have a chance to respond to a handful of posts at a time -- but I do try to be an "equal opportunity" replier.

 

[lindajo]

Originally posted by Cruise04
Also remember some people have been on here since the very beginning and have grown to have some deep friend relationships.

Just curious, when DID the Dis begin???

 

[theSurlyMermaid]

Hm...I just always figured if people had something to say, they would say it. For instance, my thread about delivering a baby received a ton of replies because many people related. I had just joined the board at that point.

 

[DVC-Don]

You should see it when there is a board "hickup" and post totals get out of wack. Pages and pages of "I'm missing 53 posts from my total, have tech support put them back!!!!!" Nuts. Miss those board hickups.

 

[gina2000]

I just float around on the regular threads. I don't participate on any long running threads. I think it's more interesting this way. I meet new people, get different opinions and find people with similar whacky humor.

I have some very close long-time friends from these boards. And I do talk to them regularly. But when I'm on the CB....I want to talk to all different people....not just people I know and care about. So I answer different threads if they interest me. I don't have to know one single person on the thread. I just want to have fun!

 

[Bob Slydell]

Originally posted by lindajo
Just curious, when DID the Dis begin???

'96/'97 -- somewhere around there.

 

[snoopy]

I thought the DIS began in 1997. Not sure though. I know I found it in 1998.

 

[yourtravelpro]

I totally agree with you Tea Please! I have already been in tears over these boards and what has been said to me. NoOne can bother me now though, I have toughened up. Plus, good old Dan came to my rescue!!

 

[goofy4tink]

It can seem that way can't it? But most here are really warm and caring folk. At least that's my experience. If I took it to heart every time I was the posting on a thread....well, we have a thread about that don't we.

so, come on over to the dis-placed disers. They are a whacky bunch of bananas!! Don't be shy. Jump in wherever and whenever you feel like it. Everyone was new at one time. It's just that some people have really made some neat friendships here. I haven't but that's cause nobody likes me. I'm not in their cliques!!

 

[helenabear]

Yep 1997 was the start of the DIS... I began posting in 1998 myself.

I guess I don't notice the cliques really... I am an equal opportunity poster. After all if I stick to those I have gotten to know, I wouldn't get to meet any new and cool people (think on that one for a minute)

I post where I feel and what I feel like saying always... was always like that and even in HS I was never a part of just one "group"

 

[pw2pp]

Sorry to the OP that I used my previous post to say hi to someone I hadn't seen in awhile. After I posted it, I thought "how rude of me to say hi to someone on a thread and not even answer the question asked by the original poster". Sorry

Anyway, I tend to open up and contribute to threads that "catch my eye" - Like what someone else said, maybe it is something I can relate to, etc.....
I am not really much of a "pixie dust" person because I am not one to ASK for prayers, pixie dust, etc.... I come here more for entertainment (and keep my problems/concerns to myself) - I am that way in real-life too: telling people "I am doing good" even if I am not.
However, if I notice someone has asked for prayers/PD and maybe they were someone who in the past has offered kind words to me or posted to threads I have started, then I might be more likely to offer prayers/PD.
So, all in all, sometimes if it seems like someone is getting all the pixie dust it may be because they have been around for a long time and alot of people RECOGNIZE them.
Actually, I have been around for 3 years and have over 3000 posts, but I am not in any "in crowd" and don't really get/send PMs to people.
So just stick around and don't expect too much from an internet board - just view it as entertainment.

 

[Robinrs]

I think the OP was talking about the POPULAR people more than the cliques.

YES, there are definitely some people who are more popular or well known , just as there are the Popular people in HS, but there are reasons for that also.

The people here have developed relationships and sometimes that comes across in a response. I know I have developed life long relationships here, and when I see a person I know personally in pain, I make sure I am there just as they've been there for me in the past.

This board has been through more pain than I can notate with my life in the past few years. Off the board I cannot tell you how they've come to my rescue, in ways they never mention here.

At my parents' funeral more than HALF of the flowers were from DISers. That speaks VOLUMES for the kind of people that are here.

I do try to respond to all of the PD requests, it's my nature and I pray for every one of them at my prayer meetings. If I miss a few I usually catch up at the Update. Sometimes I miss them completely. This board moves FAST.

As someone said, it is human nature. We are not faultless and we tend to levitate to those who are by nature, are more "attractive"... that's where the term came from! Like I tell my son, DO BE HAVE... if you DO the things that successful people do, then you will BE like them, then you will HAVE what they have. None of this is a coincidence, it develops in time.

God bless,

Robinrs

 

[meandtheguys]

You now, the time I asked for prayers, I didn't get a "ton" of posts. It didn't matter. I knew on a really low day that someone was thinking of me and praying for me. Helped a lot.

 

[Lanshark]

If you want to feel better go to the Debate Board. There are only two cliques; Republicans and Democrats and everyone hates everyone else.

 

[meandtheguys]

Originally posted by Lanshark
If you want to feel better than go to the Debate Board. There are only two cliques; Republicans and Democrats and everyone hates everyone else.

That's pretty close right now!<a href='http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb008' target='_blank'><img src='http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/10/10_9_136v.gif' alt='Republican Vs. Democrat' border=0></a>

 

[Tea Please]

Originally posted by snoopy
I've come to realize that there are CB "favorites" who always get tons of replies to their threads. And then there are some people who may not post as much that tend to get ignored. I think its a shame.

Thanks snoopy, that's exactly what I meant. I'm not one for pouring my heart out on the internet, but I do realize that for some people it can be a lifeline. I tend to go more for the underdog. I find it hysterical, that certain people will post about the most mundane problem and have a gazillion "sympathy" replies, but a newer poster can have a legimate story to tell and they are only answered by a handful of caring people. There are quite a few threads that stick out in my mind.

And for the people that are assuming that I was a nerd in HS, nope wrong. I guess thats why I am finding it harder on the ego that I am not fitting in.

 

[Brer_Papa]

I can relate Tea Please.....but the way I figure....I come here to relax....have some fun....

If someone is in need...I would do what I can...(here ...or in "real life")


Otherwise...if someone can make me chuckle....awesome...

If I can give someone a chuckle.....even more awesome...

Do i think there are cliques? Sure...and i agree with the reasons that were already given on why that may be...

Are some posters more popular than others? Sure...again...with valid reasons already stated...

But, acknowledging all that....I've never concerned myself with how I am received....or if i am popular....

after every visit..i leave...relaxed....i had had some fun...i feel good...

that's much more important to me than being a cliquee (sp?) or popular....

so...just jump in where you want....when you want...and have fun

 

[Blondie]

Clique your heels together and repeat after me; there's no place like home....there's no place like home!

 

[Kirby]

I think the OP was talking about the POPULAR people more than the cliques

I agree. I've never felt left out. I've been around, wow, four years now and never felt that I've been shunned for any reason. I could join any number of groups to chat about this, that or nothing in particular should I so want to.

As far as PD and prayer threads, sometimes I just don't post because I would be saying the same thing as everyone else. But a prayer goes up for them anyway.

Or if someone asks a question, I may or may not reply depending on those that have already replied and what has already been said.

I've seen threads created by DIS'ers I've never seen before with umpteen posts.

I think that it all depends on how fast the board is running and how many people are on. It doesn't take long for a thread to end up four and five pages back when the CB is busy.

 

[Mouseteacher]

I started to research the DIS before my first stay at the Dolphin resort a few years ago and posted on the Swan/Dolphin thread on the Resort Board. I became a fan of the S/D and made some wonderful friends on that thread. We are still going strong today but always welcome others who share our love of S/D and WDW. I don't view this as a clique but as people sharing something in common that leads to cyber friendships. Come on over to the Resort Board and join in!